WWYD/General Advice Thread
Jan 29, 2015 10:56:07 GMT -5
Post by theBeeMama on Jan 29, 2015 10:56:07 GMT -5
I feel like I'm always posting long and involved AW posts about my life. Lol sorry, y'all. I even thought about taking this one to the military spouses board, but it's so minor compared to what some of those amazing people are facing. I'm just looking for a sounding board to give me some thoughts and feedback about an opportunity my husband has through the National Guard.
It's not manditory. He was one of the few people in his office that isn't getting deployed next year, but instead they offered him an 8 month position on his base, which is about 3.5 hours away from us. It would start this April and end in December... They also offered him a permanent position after that, but we're not thinking that far ahead yet because we have plenty of time to make that decision. The 8 months would pay really well, and since we're coming out of a financial struggle, that side of it makes it way too good to pass up. But then I start thinking about it just from a nitty gritty, daily life standpoint... Because of my job here, I'd need to stay at home for the majority of the 8 months. DS and I could go join H here and there, and he'd be home on weekends. But we would be apart for the majority of the year. He'd get almost a month of time off between vacation and paternity leave, so the time directly surrounding the new baby's arrival he'd be with me. But then once that was over, we'd be apart and I'd be left at home with a toddler and adjusting to a new baby.
like I said, I know we have it SO good by comparison because so many husbands and wives are totally separated over huge life milestones and they have no say in the matter. So I definitely don't wanna make it seem like I think this is the end of the world... I just wanna get some other opinions on whether or not you would do it/if you think it's worth it to be apart over such a huge life change in exchange for chunking away a good bit of money/working toward long term financial stability.
Since we have the luxury of choosing and it's not a manditory thing, I'm just really torn. I don't want to pass up a good money opportunity but I also don't want to be without my H with all these changes coming down the line.
Thoughts? What would you do?
It's not manditory. He was one of the few people in his office that isn't getting deployed next year, but instead they offered him an 8 month position on his base, which is about 3.5 hours away from us. It would start this April and end in December... They also offered him a permanent position after that, but we're not thinking that far ahead yet because we have plenty of time to make that decision. The 8 months would pay really well, and since we're coming out of a financial struggle, that side of it makes it way too good to pass up. But then I start thinking about it just from a nitty gritty, daily life standpoint... Because of my job here, I'd need to stay at home for the majority of the 8 months. DS and I could go join H here and there, and he'd be home on weekends. But we would be apart for the majority of the year. He'd get almost a month of time off between vacation and paternity leave, so the time directly surrounding the new baby's arrival he'd be with me. But then once that was over, we'd be apart and I'd be left at home with a toddler and adjusting to a new baby.
like I said, I know we have it SO good by comparison because so many husbands and wives are totally separated over huge life milestones and they have no say in the matter. So I definitely don't wanna make it seem like I think this is the end of the world... I just wanna get some other opinions on whether or not you would do it/if you think it's worth it to be apart over such a huge life change in exchange for chunking away a good bit of money/working toward long term financial stability.
Since we have the luxury of choosing and it's not a manditory thing, I'm just really torn. I don't want to pass up a good money opportunity but I also don't want to be without my H with all these changes coming down the line.
Thoughts? What would you do?