New to the board--and bordering on a meltdown...
Jan 29, 2015 20:05:11 GMT -5
Post by purplegaloshes on Jan 29, 2015 20:05:11 GMT -5
Hi all,
I'm a FTM, 9w4d pregnant for the second time after a (very) early loss in September 2014. My husband and I found out on Tuesday that we are expecting twins, and we are completely overwhelmed. We live halfway across the country from all of our close friends and family so I could attend medical school in an extremely demanding program. We budgeted and planned very well for one baby, and the universe laughed and basically farted at us. 2015-2016 will be my final year of school, and it is known for being a bit easier than the previous three years, but something tells me there is not going to be a lot of rest for the weary in the coming months...
My husband is absolutely freaking out about finances. We had budgeted (tightly) for daycare, insurance, and basic baby needs for ONE kid, and now all of our major expenses just doubled. I am also a pretty health conscious person and am concerned about my health and the health of my future children--my medical background puts me so close to a lot of worst-case scenarios, so I find myself feeling incredibly anxious.
I somewhat miraculously have yet to experience true morning sickness (I've had a few days of nausea, but no vomiting at all) and want to get to a place where I can feel grateful about how easy pregnancy has been for me so far (compared to a lot of the stuff I read about people going through) and excited about my "insta-family," as my doctor referred to it during my ultrasound, but there are so many stressful unknowns that I feel like I am starting back at square one for a situation I had tried so hard to be responsible about planning as well as I could.
Right now my best friend is the only person we've told that we're expecting twins. We told our parents we were pregnant when we were home for Christmas, but haven't talked to them about our new "development." BFF astutely pointed out that what I really needed was to hear advice and wisdom from women who had been on the front lines--that's you guys! I'm sure I'll have a million questions about baby gear, breastfeeding, and all of that good stuff eventually, but right now I'd settle for some wise words in broads strokes: how did you deal? and how did you afford this??
Sorry for the marathon post. Clearly I've been doing some mental cycling...
I'm a FTM, 9w4d pregnant for the second time after a (very) early loss in September 2014. My husband and I found out on Tuesday that we are expecting twins, and we are completely overwhelmed. We live halfway across the country from all of our close friends and family so I could attend medical school in an extremely demanding program. We budgeted and planned very well for one baby, and the universe laughed and basically farted at us. 2015-2016 will be my final year of school, and it is known for being a bit easier than the previous three years, but something tells me there is not going to be a lot of rest for the weary in the coming months...
My husband is absolutely freaking out about finances. We had budgeted (tightly) for daycare, insurance, and basic baby needs for ONE kid, and now all of our major expenses just doubled. I am also a pretty health conscious person and am concerned about my health and the health of my future children--my medical background puts me so close to a lot of worst-case scenarios, so I find myself feeling incredibly anxious.
I somewhat miraculously have yet to experience true morning sickness (I've had a few days of nausea, but no vomiting at all) and want to get to a place where I can feel grateful about how easy pregnancy has been for me so far (compared to a lot of the stuff I read about people going through) and excited about my "insta-family," as my doctor referred to it during my ultrasound, but there are so many stressful unknowns that I feel like I am starting back at square one for a situation I had tried so hard to be responsible about planning as well as I could.
Right now my best friend is the only person we've told that we're expecting twins. We told our parents we were pregnant when we were home for Christmas, but haven't talked to them about our new "development." BFF astutely pointed out that what I really needed was to hear advice and wisdom from women who had been on the front lines--that's you guys! I'm sure I'll have a million questions about baby gear, breastfeeding, and all of that good stuff eventually, but right now I'd settle for some wise words in broads strokes: how did you deal? and how did you afford this??
Sorry for the marathon post. Clearly I've been doing some mental cycling...