New sticky for newbs?

[4furrypaws]

...? My brain hurts...

[readinglove]

I think doing the copy/paste thing would be the best - and easiest - option. My brain hurts too much to try to recreate anything.

[therealbug]

Here is a C&P from TTCAL:

Welcome to TTCAL. We are very sorry for your loss. No one should ever have to go through it, and while we are sorry you have to be here, we are glad you have chosen to join us as you and your spouse/partner try again. There are some things, however, that you should be aware of. Knowing these things will help ease your transition into our community.

1) This is an established support group full of women who have been supporting each other through thick and thin. They are protective of each other. It's not a matter of cliques or 'oldies vs noobs', some women here have known each other a long time and treat each other accordingly. Give yourself a chance to get to know everyone before judging. If this community does not provide what you feel you need, we hope you won't stop looking. Support is important as you try to heal from your past while nurturing hope for your future.

2) We do not know if you are pregnant. No, really. We aren't a pee stick or a doctor. Early pregnancy symptoms are caused by elevating progesterone levels, the exact same cause of PMS symptoms. The two are indistinguishable by any other method other than peeing on a stick. DON'T POST YOUR SYMPTOMS AND ASK WHAT THEY MEAN. If you do, people will point and laugh.

3) If you are pregnant, and aren't following the applicable 'rules for posting BFPs' that is published in the blog, then please do not tell us you are pregnant. Would you run into a support group at you local hospital, open the door, and shout at a bunch of grieving women you've never met, "I'm pregnant!"? Good lord, we hope not. Just don't. Go post on PGAL, they are our graduates and will be excited to have you join them.

4) Speaking of the blog, go read it. It was compiled by generations of TTCAL women and is an incredibly valuable resource. Answers to so many of your questions are there. Be sure to click on the "For Newbies" page, too. ttcalblog.wordpress.com

5) If you think you might be pregnant and have any questions pertaining to that possibility, please ask your questions on PGAL. Many of the lovely ladies over there have faced uncertainty at the beginning of their pregnancies, and you are most likely going to find positive help there that you won't find here. This isn't because we're mean, it's because we aren't the people having similar experiences as you.

5) Give support to get support. Participate meaningfully, don't use us as your own personal Google and you will build relationships to get you through the dark times you may face ahead.

6) Don't abuse the 'flag it' button. It is NEVER to be used to indicate that you don't like what someone says. Board members are truthful. If they think you are engaging in risky behavior, such as TTC before clearance from your doctor, they will tell you. The moderator gets upset when her desk gets clogged with reports of abuse that turn out to be frivolous.

7) Be sure to check out the daily posts like Crazy Train (the place for the long two week wait) and weekly posts like TTA Check In (for women emotionally ready to try again, but who are being held up for some reason). Don't neglect the Newbies Check In, it's a great place to get to know the ropes in this community!

8) Know your audience when posting. The three fastest ways to lose respect in this forum are to; a) use childish and trite phrases like 'Baby Dust', and b) to complain, no matter how mildly, about any aspect of your living children, and c) to use language insinuating that losses are God's Will that women who have gone onto a BFP have been especially judged by God as to have been worthy. The reasons for these are self-evident, however, if you need elaboration, contact the moderator PetraStoneGirl directly for an explanation.

9) This is NOT the place to discuss living children. Just don't do it. Even with warnings, nothing you say about your living child will serve any purpose than to hurt those who are still trying for a living child. If you need to discuss TTCAL in a way that involves your living child, go to our sister board Parenting After Loss (PAL) and join the Trying To Concieve a Sibling thread. That is the appropriate place for such topics.

10) Now, go post an introduction and have fun!

[therealbug]

In my opinion the above is really long and we need to edit down if we want to have any chance for newbies to read it before their eyes roll back in their heads. I was going to tag PrincessGiselle but it's not working for her. 

Give us your tagable name!

[readinglove]

I'd be all for editing it down. I'm usually decent at wording things/editing, and I'd be more than happy to work on it if that's something we want.

[eurydicenymph]

Do we want to add that introing in the 2WW is frowned upon?

There was something else that I kept thinking "why the fuck don't we put that in the blog/newbie post" but I can't remember what it was through the haze of tequila. So fuck it.

[rslh10]

Think I'll get banned If I mesaage all newbs from TB and send them this way?

I like the idea of trimming the sticky down.

And what eurydice said. Fuck the TWW intros. Ugh. Some of them just really rub me the wrong way.

[rae80407]

Yaaay! So glad to see names I recognize from ttcal on tb! I was just getting attached when everything crashed in flames! Gaa too many !!! I'm just glad I found this and that its still the good ol support base I wanted to join! Hope this board thing keeps a going!

[readinglove]

I'll definitely work on adding something about intros during the TWW.

[kateisoptimistic]

Do we not want to reference the blog? I see Bug crossed it out but there is so much good info there.

[ldubhawksfan]

I do think we need a new blog. Too much good info in there.

[kateisoptimistic]

Jan 16, 2015 11:09:59 GMT -5 heartbot said:

Jan 16, 2015 10:39:58 GMT -5 kateisoptimistic said:

Do we not want to reference the blog? I see Bug crossed it out but there is so much good info there.

Should we make a new one? Can we just update the old one?

ETA: I'm guessing since it's still attached to the old board, the answer to the second question is no.

I'm not sure, I'm not the most experienced with creating blogs, but it looks like tis just wordpress maybe we just alter it to be inclusive of both TB TTCAL and GBCB TTCAL?  Or do we want to not be tied to it at all?