Who needs support?

[tribute17]

Maybe we could put all of our problems/concerns in this thread.  Big or small, is there anything that you could use good thoughts/prayers for?  

Note: assume that a love it is for support, not because of actually liking what is happening.  

[tribute17]

My grandmother is old and doing ok right now but having some issues. I think it is congestive heart failure so it is only a matter of time. She is my last living grandparent and I'm dreading her dying.

Our house gets listed tomorrow so hopefully it sells quickly. I'm not sure how much longer I want to have a husband who is only home on weekends. Patrick isn't handling it well and it's just going to get worse. Although it is easier to keep the house clean with H gone.

[mightybee]

My grandma is still getting rehab at the nursing home. She had a stroke a couple weeks ago. We're visiting home for Christmas and she's told my mom that once she gets to meet Paige, she'll move on from this world.

It's been really hard on my mom as my grandma is in and out of being lucid and has gotten nasty at times. The end goal would be to have my grandma return to her home with a nurse and meals on wheels visiting daily. But we'll see what the rehab recommends.

The end of life process can be so sad. People you love who were once so vibrant and loving become a shell of their former self and lose connections to their loved ones. I wish I was closer to home so I could share some of the sadness/stress my mom is shouldering.

[irish1213]

Oh do I need some prayers!

My marriage is in the crapper and I fear divorce is imminent. Baby 3 arrives in roughly 7 weeks, I quit my job to stay at home and now H is not willing to work things out. I am stressed to the max.

My mom's health is failing. She has had MS for the last 25 years and is now living with a caregiver due to her severe sciatic pain. She has fallen 3 times within the last 2 weeks and just overall seems to be withering away.

Any prayers or thoughts would be much appreciated.

[tribute17]

Dec 7, 2015 16:02:56 GMT -5 irish1213 said:

Oh do I need some prayers!

My marriage is in the crapper and I fear divorce is imminent. Baby 3 arrives in roughly 7 weeks, I quit my job to stay at home and now H is not willing to work things out. I am stressed to the max.

My mom's health is failing. She has had MS for the last 25 years and is now living with a caregiver due to her severe sciatic pain. She has fallen 3 times within the last 2 weeks and just overall seems to be withering away.

Any prayers or thoughts would be much appreciated.

That's a lot to deal with all at once.  I'm sorry you are going through so much, definitely thinking about you and hoping at least one thing will get easier.  

[bliz1712]

Not in need as much as others, but my Grandma has an appt on the 15th to see if she's clear from cancer. She's had several tumors removed and it keeps coming back. It's pushed back the date they leave for AZ since she has to be checked every 3 months.


irish1213,   I'm sure the stress level is high with being due soon and having issues with your marriage.  Sending lots of hugs and positive thoughts to you!

[xanthepants]

mightybee, much love and support sent. I chose to live far from family for a lot of reasons, but lately the reasons you stated have been really really hard to justify my choices. I hope that she will recover to a level in which she can find some happiness again and some peace here at the end. Hugs girl.

irish1213, oh girl. So much love sent. I can't imagine. I just wish we lived closer. I would stay up all night and let you have a good cry. I wish I could just shoulder one of these things for you, just to take some of your burden for you. It's not fair. Do you have a decent support system at home for the birth with friends or family?

[summergirl1211]

Love and hugs to all of you ladies and your families!

irish1213, I'm so sorry to hear of everything you have to deal with. Please know we are here for anything you need. Do you have family or friends nearby to help out when the new baby comes? Any job opportunities? Can you try and get your old job back? Regardless, my heart hurts for you.

[laurski81]

So many hugs and T&Ps to all of your families.

irish1213, oh girl I am so sorry to hear about everything you are going through. I was hoping that things with your H were getting better. Thinking about you and your kiddos.

[irish1213]

Thanks everyone! It has been a hard 7 months which is why I have been so quiet. I think of you guys often so always know I am here.

summergirl1211, I was anticipating this back in August so when I told my boss that I was expecting I had actually asked to go back to full time hours. They thought about it and told me they want to keep me as part time. So H and I agreed that even though things were rocky it was best if I stay home so I gave notice. I am going to wait until after the new year to start the job hunt. My heart of hearts hopes that all works out and H comes around. Luckily my siblings and mom are super supportive of whatever I choose. The only thing is that they can't really help with the baby once he or she arrives. My sister lives 45 minutes away and my brother has 3 little ones of his own, so that will be hard as MIL has always been a huge help. Not too sure how she will react if and when we decide to split.

[summergirl1211]

irish1213, that love tit was for support. I hope you can figure something out job-wise, regardless of what happens with your H. And hopefully your MIL can still help out too, even if you and your H don't stay together. I mean, they're her grandchildren regardless! Anyway, we love you lady and always know we're here for you.

[laurski81]

Dec 8, 2015 12:39:04 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

irish1213 , that love tit was for support. I hope you can figure something out job-wise, regardless of what happens with your H. And hopefully your MIL can still help out too, even if you and your H don't stay together. I mean, they're her grandchildren regardless! Anyway, we love you lady and always know we're here for you.

Ditto. Hugs girl.

[snickers4everyone]

My heart hurts for you ladies. I hope things calm down for you all.
irish1213, we are here whenever you need us. I can't imagine. Huge hugs.

[snickers4everyone]

I have two very minor ones.
Nicky's neurologist appointment is tomorrow at 2. We really expect everything to be fine, so it's not so scary, thank goodness. I imagine they will want to order some head images though, which won't be fun.

The other is that I don't seem to be doing very well with the medication the psychiatrist prescribed. I'm hoping that after a period of adjustment it will be better, but for right now...it sucks.

[paddyb]

my life is one giant stress ball.

Closing on our condo just got moved from this Thursday to next Tuesday. Hopefully nothing else happens to screw it up.

I am just coming to terms with the fact that I was fired. a few weeks ago. Now I have to figure out what the hell I am going to do.

Plus other crap.

Like I said...my life is pretty much 100% stress.

[roo1582]

Sending huge hugs and lots of love to all you and your families<3

[bliz1712]

paddyb, Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope something comes up for you.

[britbratjf]

I'm so sorry paddyb! Hope you are able to find something soon.

[britbratjf]

They moved my grandma to hospice care this morning so she doesn't have much longer. I'm going to go see her tomorrow since my H can take off work.

The holidays are a shitty time to be my grandparent. I lost my paternal grandfather 3 days after Christmas, my maternal grandfather the week before thanksgiving & now it looks like we'll lose my maternal grandmother just before Christmas. Jeez.

[irish1213]

paddyb so sorry to hear about the job. Hoping something comes your way.

britbratjf hugs to you and prayers for your grandma.

[aylafsu1881]

Hugs to everyone that needs it.

tribute17, mightybee hugs. I am sending t&p your way.

irish1213 hugs. I hope you two can work things out. Marriage is hard.
snickers4everyone I hope the appointment goes well. It usually takes a week or to to adjust to new meds. FX you feel better soon.

paddyb that is stressful especially since it is the holiday season. I hope you find something better.

[mrsrek10]

paddyb, I am so sorry, I missed that you lost your job. I hope this just opens up a great, new opportunity for you! I know it is scary.

Irish, I am so sorry you are dealing with so much still! I hope you can reconcile or at least get to a happy place with your husband. He should definitely help you out financially until you can get on your feet since he was part of the decision to have you quit and your kids are involved. I am sure all of that is extremely stressful.

snickers4everyone, good luck tomorrow with the appt. Hope it goes well! Also I have heard there can be an adjustment period with new meds. I know one clients mom was told symptoms for her child could get worse for 2-3 weeks before getting better. Hopefully yours is just needing that adjustment period too!

britbratjf, so sorry about your grandma

Hugs to anyone I missed! I am thinking of you all!

[summergirl1211]

britbratjf, hugs lady. I'm glad you're going to get a chance to see her, but I know it's not under the circumstances you were hoping for.

[traceyt07]

irish1213, I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. Huge hugs and I hope that YH gets his head out of his ass soon.

paddyb, I'm sorry to hear about your job. That's so difficult right now. I hope your closing on Tuesday goes smoothly.

snickers4everyone, I hope eventing goes well tomorrow and your meds start leveling out soon. Hugs!

@britbratjr, huge hugs.

[starfishy]

Ladies, I just want you to know I'm always thinking good thoughts for you. I'm so sorry to hear of your difficulties and hope that good days come soon.

[somethingcleverer]

Sending lots of hugs and support to everyone. I'm sorry there are so many people with ailing family members. It's so hard when people you love are sick during the holiday season.

snickers4everyone, there is definitely an adjustment period for medication but if you notice symptoms are getting worse let your doctor know, he might adjust the dose or change medications.

irish1213, sending extra love and hugs, I'm sorry you are in such a tough situation right now.

paddyb, that sucks about the job. you are a super smart laide so I'm sure you will find something better very soon.

[aimeefarrahfowler]

Big hugs to everyone going through hard times right now.

We are doing okay, but I am so worried about my little sister. It seems her marriage is over. She's so lost and BIL is seemingly making everything as hard as possible. I don't know what I can do to help her, the whole thing is just so sad.

[barefoot84]

Sending hugs to everyone who needs them.

This too shall pass...

[xanthepants]

Big hugs to all you girls. We don't deserve this stuff. We deserve sunshine and rainbows and big glasses of wine that never empty and endless nacho bars that never go to our thighs. That's what I think.

[jfresh]

All the love and hugs to all of you and your family members that need it. I know I am not sround much but I do think about you girls