Post by huckleberry08 on Jan 30, 2015 19:48:18 GMT -5
They screened me for depression (I was moderate) but never anxiety. My anxiety was through the fucking roof. I did not sleep the first week of LO's life and I was a total mess. I hope not to repeat that again.
I suffered from anxiety before baby and had been treated. But I was no longer taking anything for it when I got pregnant. I was really worried that some anxiety and/or depression would resurface after M was born, but if anything I was happier person than before and way more relaxed. Because of my history I'm worried again this time around. I'm hoping motherhood has just tweaked something in me and I've lost that over-anxious part... Possibly wishful thinking?
Baby Blues for sure but never prolonged or enough to call it more then that. I would get this anxious feeling in my stomach when ever I had a letdown and for awhile I worried that wasn't normal, but you ladies reassured me it was common.
Post by ordinaryme on Jan 30, 2015 19:58:47 GMT -5
I said maybe? I had the baby blues for a few weeks but came around pretty quickly. I suffer from anxiety, both before and after baby, but having her didn't increase my symptoms any.
Having a history of anxiety and depression pre-baby, I thought for sure I'd start feeling PPD, and even had the OB write me a script for Zoloft upon discharge just to keep in my wallet JIC. But I really surprised myself with how well I handled everything. I didn't go back on Zoloft until DD was one and I had my nervous breakdown about our house.
Post by lingeringwithcoffee on Jan 30, 2015 20:16:00 GMT -5
Several years before DD was born, I was on medication for anxiety. I found ways to cope, so I haven't taken any medication for at least 3 years. Pumping caused me to have some anxiety, but not to the point that I was having panic attacks like I used to have when I got overly anxious.
Post by lizzybizzy on Jan 30, 2015 20:47:28 GMT -5
I'm not sure. Maybe it was situational because B was in the NICU for 3 weeks and we lived in the hospital. I was sobbing all the time and struggled with some dark thoughts.
Post by heelibrarian on Jan 30, 2015 21:06:13 GMT -5
I have been dealing with depression since, oh, I was 18 (officially, anyway). With DS I think it was PPD on top of my baseline awfulness, moving to a new town when he was 5 weeks old, and him never sleeping (so, terrible). With DD I'm pretty sure it was more anxiety. Dealing with the two kids, especially at night on my own, threw me for a loop. I was on the same medication the whole time, just to keep me from getting too low. It's a daily struggle. And made 1000x worse with little sleep.
I said yes but not diagnosed. It wasn't depression like what you see in the commercials, but it I wasn't me either. I had a lot of anger (not at specific people) and general unhappiness.
This was basically what I went through. It got better around 7 months once I opened up to DH about it. I think I could have benefited from medication though and I will not hesitate to ask for it next time. In fact I will probably bring it up during my next pregnancy so I can be prepared beforehand.
Post by doodletwins on Jan 31, 2015 1:37:14 GMT -5
I really struggled with my body not doing what it was supposed to... yet again. I struggled with that during IF and then developing preeclampsia brought it up again. I felt like my body had failed me and I couldn't protect my babies. Granted they never had any major issues from being born early. But it was hard.
My hormones were just all over the place for a few months. I think I had some baby blues, but I think it was the sleep deprivation that affected me most. I'm one of those people that really needs solid sleep (minimum 5 hours) in order to function, so I was a hot mess with a newborn. I should be avoided at all costs when I don't get enough sleep (and even more when I'm hungry).
Post by 42butterflies on Jan 31, 2015 12:34:45 GMT -5
Anger. Oh, alllll the anger. Borderline rage. Resentment. Combine all that with panic that increased as the sun set and I was a mess. I can still distinctly remember the feeling of the rising panic that started every afternoon around 4:30. The evening/night hours were a dark time for me for so long. Thankfully Zoloft helped a lot.
I also think mine started around 3 to 4 months. The newness wore off and I was thrown into an awful work situation and the months of no sleep kept making it worse.
Post by momofcatan on Jan 31, 2015 20:24:40 GMT -5
Maybe? I've wondered on and off if I suffer from depression since I was a preteen but I've never spoken to anyone about it. PP was no different, I had some dark times, but just kept swimming.
Post by mommycoffee on Jan 31, 2015 20:47:15 GMT -5
Baby Blues with them both. I was sobbing second night in the hospital with DD2. I was diagnosed with PPD with DD1. Anxiety is worse than my depression so far this time. I worry about not giving them both what they need, when they need it and then there are those awful worries about something random but horrible happening to your children. Why does anxiety get so much worse when the sun goes down? I hate late afternoon and evenings.
Hugs to the other NICU moms. LO's whole delivery and birth were such a disaster for me and him, that I think I really just shut down, emotionally, for the first month of his life. I kind of turned on auto-pilot in order to get through, and don't remember much. The only times I got angry and depressed were the times when people would ask about the parts that I missed. I still get practically nauseous when I see a commercial with the mom sitting in the hospital bed snuggling her newborn or friends post pics on FB of their baby on their chest right after being born. I got none of that - I didn't even get to see him for the first 6 hours of his life, except for them wheeling him about 10 feet from me so that I could get a quick peek before I had even delivered the placenta. I do remember sobbing for several hours the day after I delivered when they sent me to a breastfeeding class with all the other mommies who had their babies with them. That was just something they shouldn't do. For some reason my crying really freaked everyone in my family out and I think I just went into survival mode after that.
I think a lot more people have it than the statistics show. I think some women don't realize they have it and others don't report it because they don't want to talk about it. I wish there could be more honesty about it.
I think a lot more people have it than the statistics show. I think some women don't realize they have it and others don't report it because they don't want to talk about it. I wish there could be more honesty about it.
I think it's crappy to have a 6 week check up and then leave women on their own. I think there should be 3 and/or 6 month post partum visits where they do more screening for emotional health.
Post by heelibrarian on Jan 31, 2015 22:06:18 GMT -5
Hugs cricket. I feel/felt the same way. That I was robbed out of a 'normal' birth experience TWICE. And I would've liked to know what being even 36 weeks pg was like.
I think it's crappy to have a 6 week check up and then leave women on their own. I think there should be 3 and/or 6 month post partum visits where they do more screening for emotional health.
Here we only have the 6 week check up as well, but for all of LO's vaccinations (2,4,6 & 12 months) which are done by a health nurse, the nurse also asks the mothers a lot of questions and I have had to fill out the PPD/PPA questionnaire at all of those appointments. They compared my answers to my previous ones kept on file. I think this is an excellent way to try and keep on top of it and keep the communication open.
Post by stargazer763 on Feb 1, 2015 9:03:25 GMT -5
mcbush It doesn't even make sense to only feel all lovey-dovey and happy after giving birth. Our hormone levels are all over the place, we're trying to adjust to a TOTALLY different life, we're trying to remember what sleep is like.
I mean really, WTF? And I agree, somehow we're all meant to feel like NOT being happy and perfect is somehow a fault. It's not! It's perfectly normal, and needs to be dealt with.
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