STM's - which was the bigger adjustment

[cocogelato]

While pregnant with DS (my second), a friend of mine told me that going from one kid to two was a bigger adjustment than going from 0 to 1. She said it was due to dividing your attention, and not being able to easily switch off kid duty with her DH. It was more often one kid for each parent when they're both home, meaning a lot less down time.

I personally found the adjustment from 0 to 1 much harder. When LO2 was born, I was already used to having someone depending on me almost all the time. Just more juggling now.

What do you think? Was the FTM transition or the STM (+) adjustment harder?

[kimstargazer1986]

This was more difficult, but we went from 1 kid to 3 kids.

[jac409]

I think #2 was harder for the reasons you described. I have also heard that going from 2 to 3 is even harder. Pretty much like going from manageable chaos to all out insanity. In theory, I would like one more. But, the thought of being outnumbered is slightly terrifying.

[kakicl0ud]

Definitely going from 0 to 1. That's probably because DS2 has been a much easier baby than DS1 was so far. But I'm used to getting no sleep, having no time for myself, etc. so it hasn't been that big of an adjustment.

[pandacon]

1 to 2 was harder for me but mostly because I work from home 3 days a week with the kids home. I also hear that 2 to 3 is harder than 1to 2. It like going from 1 on 1 defense to zone defense!

[lissydee]

0-1 was much harder. 1-2 was cake. 2-3 a lil more tricky at times, but not as hard as 0-1.

[cocogelato]

Jan 31, 2015 16:54:34 GMT -5 kakicl0ud said:

Definitely going from 0 to 1. That's probably because DS2 has been a much easier baby than DS1 was so far. But I'm used to getting no sleep, having no time for myself, etc. so it hasn't been that big of an adjustment.

DS is definitely an easier baby than DD was as well. Probably influences my view. Both have been crappy sleepers though.

[tacocat]

I'm following as a FTM this because I have pretty much sworn off having another. This ish is hard!

[j3nnyb]

0-1 was harder for me. I didn't have a clue what I was doing despite reading all of the books and taking classes. I had so much anxiety and worried I was going to break DD. I'm grateful she's so resilient. Going from 1 to 2 was difficult but it's starting to get easier already, as long as I don't have both kiddos screaming in my face at the same time.

[sweetmelissa5]

I definitely found 0-1 much harder than 1-2, and honestly, I didn't find 2-3 much harder than 1-2. Adding the fourth has probably been the easiest transition so far (which is not to say it's been easy, just that we've settled in and found our footing a little better this time around).

[ineedmorecoffee]

I found 0-1 much harder than 1-2. With this LO, I was already in "mom mode" and had already been thru it all. This one has been loads easier.

[kaimee27]

All you ladies who are saying that 0-1 is harder are giving me hope!

[heatherbee]

I agree, 0-1 was harder because everything was new and terrifying. I would say the first 2 months having 2 was really hard but things have become easier now.

[moonandback]

Add me to the 0-1 bandwagon! Now I am much less uptight and I know that the easiest part of current parenting is holding my sleeping baby or changing his diaper.