Post by tjr42px on Jan 30, 2016 11:34:39 GMT -5
TL DR: unforeseen changes in life plans suck especially when your employers response is "oh our bad, sorry not sorry."
DW was set on going back home in August. Unfortunately, my contract was extended by a year. I had initially signed a four year contract but in the last year or so it was confirmed a change was made and I could opt out this summer after three years. A few others I know and I questioned this change to three years and kept getting the same response. "No, it's three years now. We've changed those type of contracts." A good number of my friends rejoiced. Then 6 months later they said, "we corrected a mistake we found 6 months ago". Yeah, we told you and you confirmed it wasn't a mistake back then.
In the grand scheme of things nothing has changed since we initially signed for four years and will need to do four. It's just the idea that we were told only three not too long ago and were in the mindset of going home soon.
DW has been struggling being away from family and hates where we live. She was looking forward to going back to work, being around family, not feeling so isolated and having more help with the kiddos.
She's devastated. I can deal with a lot of BS, I'm good at just "coloring" and I love my job. But I hate that DW isn't happy. The extra year will potentially really suck, too. My role in the clinic will expand and I will likely need to spend more time at work. So, that won't help things.
I just feel helpless AND responsible for how she's feeling. Essentially for asking her to do this and she's miserable (has been for almost three years now). I know we talked a lot before and it was a joint decision, but damn..she sacrificed a lot to be unhappy?Maybe there will be some grand life lesson when it's all said and done, but it just sucks right now. I know she made this decision with me, but still...I hate to see her miserable.
DW was set on going back home in August. Unfortunately, my contract was extended by a year. I had initially signed a four year contract but in the last year or so it was confirmed a change was made and I could opt out this summer after three years. A few others I know and I questioned this change to three years and kept getting the same response. "No, it's three years now. We've changed those type of contracts." A good number of my friends rejoiced. Then 6 months later they said, "we corrected a mistake we found 6 months ago". Yeah, we told you and you confirmed it wasn't a mistake back then.
In the grand scheme of things nothing has changed since we initially signed for four years and will need to do four. It's just the idea that we were told only three not too long ago and were in the mindset of going home soon.
DW has been struggling being away from family and hates where we live. She was looking forward to going back to work, being around family, not feeling so isolated and having more help with the kiddos.
She's devastated. I can deal with a lot of BS, I'm good at just "coloring" and I love my job. But I hate that DW isn't happy. The extra year will potentially really suck, too. My role in the clinic will expand and I will likely need to spend more time at work. So, that won't help things.
I just feel helpless AND responsible for how she's feeling. Essentially for asking her to do this and she's miserable (has been for almost three years now). I know we talked a lot before and it was a joint decision, but damn..she sacrificed a lot to be unhappy?Maybe there will be some grand life lesson when it's all said and done, but it just sucks right now. I know she made this decision with me, but still...I hate to see her miserable.