OOT family visiting

[urani]

None of our family is super close by. My mom is 2 hours away and she'll come for about a week after the birth. She's very conscious about giving us our space and emphasized that she wants to help around the house and not just come to squee.

My dad and stepmom will come visit maybe 3-4 weeks later. They only plan to stay for 2 or 3 nights which I think is great. Long enough for a decent visit but not enough to get on our nerves too badly. My dad mentioned the possibility of them babysitting one evening if we're feeling up it, which is a sweet gesture.

The IL's live abroad. They're planning to visit in September.

[meowkitten]

Both of our families live ten hours away, minus a set of DH's grandparents and an aunt that lives locally. Everyone who lives out of state is coming a week or so after she is born and will be staying in a hotel. Everyone wanted to come when I went into labor and I was like...hell no. I don't want anyone around for at least a week! DH does freelance and will be a SAHD after she is born so he will be home with me the whole time.

[clobert]

We haven't had this discussion with anyone except my mom. She will probably come on her first days off after the birth. I don't want her to stay in our apartment, so I think she'll stay with her cousin. As far as my dad and my MIL and FIL's family I don't know. It's hard to bring up without suggesting that they are expected to come. I don't know if they've assumed that they'll be driving up to wait at the hospital or weren't really worried about it. I might try and bridge that this weekend when we visit for my shower. I want our parents to meet their first grand baby, but I don't actually want people visiting when I feel like crap and want to breastfeed and bond, so it's tricky. My bf is flying from portland to visit her home and also come up here to visit me and I have been trying to gently imply that I don't know when baby is coming and what I'll be up for or if she'll be able to stay in our apartment.

[hereshoping]

The only ones with anything scheduled are my ILs, who are coming out during spring break (FIL is a teacher) which is the first week of April. With my history of Preterm labor and a March 1st EDD, I figured that gave me anywhere from two weeks to two months. Of course, I just realized that that week includes ALL of Passover as well as Easter. (I'm Jewish, they aren't) So that is going to be interesting. They'll be staying at a B&B, but we'll do lunch and dinner together, and I am so not sure how that will work. I keep Kosher for Passover (no oat, wheat, rye, barly, spelt), we keep a vegetarian household, and FIL is lactose intolerant and won't eat eggs.

My mom lives 8hrs away, and will schedule her trip after Sam is born. I'm not sure when that will be, since she scheduled a vacation to Mexico for the last two weeks of February. My dad will have to fly in, but he hasn't scheduled anything yet.

And, as it turns out, DH's aunt and uncle who sold their house and are touring the country in their RV will be in the town 45 min from us the last two weeks for February. That got sprung on us last night. So now there is a good chance that they will be our first OOT visitors. But they won't stay here, and Dan did a good job on the phone with boundaries. He told them that regardless of when the baby comes, we could probably see them for at least a few hours. So that's good.

[NatashaBromanoff]

Just found out there's a major sporting event here this summer and they're expecting the usual tourist clusterfuck to be 10 times worse starting in late spring. So I don't think much family will be visiting...

[drudolph11]

Well the furthest family I have is an hour and a half away which is my other mom and she will be coming as soon as I'm admitted and i don't really know how long she will stay. My 2 mom's don't get along at all but have both agreed to be civil for the birth of my child because i have threatened to kick them both out! Lol act right or no baby for you! Lol i kinda just said that in my head to the tune of the "no soup for you" guy from Seinfeld hehe

[drudolph11]

Feb 3, 2015 8:18:28 GMT -5 pele said:

My mother is coming within a week of the baby being born, and my sister is coming a week after that. My mother has already stated that she's excited to "show me how to be a mom", so I had to gently insinuate that perhaps I needed more help with finding time to shower, clean, etc. We'll see how it goes. :/

Oh ya my mom mentioned to my SO the other day that she is going to be there A LOT to show me how to be a good mom. Ha GTFO woman!