Agreed. I have a friend who has sleep trained both her kids by 3 months and it I ever mention a rough night or no naps, she just always says while I would have just left her. I hate that advice like it's thay simple or the best thing to do.
i told you guys that my SIL did CIO on F while she was babysitting without our knowledge right? Well she also apparently has been telling MIL that if he was her baby she would have him sleep trained in 4 days flat and that we are just being wimps or something. ugh.
You can give all the advice you want, but until you stand in someone else's shoes you should never judge. That's a little classless.
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Post by kensie5226 on Apr 15, 2016 17:16:22 GMT -5
winogirl, I have insane respect for all you've done. I had to sleep holding E for two nights now with her ear infection and I'm so wrung out. I don't know how you've been a functioning human all this time, but don't have enough hugs and props to send to you.
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Post by yummeecookee on Apr 17, 2016 15:50:54 GMT -5
I mentioned it in the wknd thread, but this is a better place for it. We're going to take C to the pedi. I've been making excuses for him for weeks: his eczema, he's tired, he's just extra clingy, he's teething, etc. But that's bc he has had a lot of moments where he shows he's turning into a sweet, happy baby. Whenever we go out or are w other ppl, they all remark at what a happy, loving baby he is. But then at home, he seems to inevitably revert to his crabby self. This week really has taken the cake. He is so grouchy and screamy lately. I don't know what I'm expecting the pedi to do but we've got to at least explore if he's in any physical discomfort from something else.
Post by younglove316 on Apr 17, 2016 17:40:43 GMT -5
yummeecookee I hope you can get some answers and hopefully a solution soon! My l keeps insisting that she has to be teething or a stomach issue but when I mentioned it at her 4 month he didn't seem too concerned. I have no clue what I'm doing anymore.
L seems to be getting back on track. He is nursing during the day now. He has also dropped some of the night feedings and is sleeping better at night. Although, he is snuggled right next to me so that could be helping.
I'm just glad his ear infection is getting better. Those things are so awful! He was literally starving himself bc it was too painful to eat. I pumped him full of so much Tylenol. I hate giving him so much. We only have 2 more to go before they refer us to an ENT. I will likely bring it up the next time to see if we can just go ahead and get tubes. It would make my life so much easier.
@babylentilbean, How many has he had so far? We've only had the one, but it was awful. She would only eat from the bottle and she's still leery of her paci. We also pumped her full of meds which I hate. I will push for tubes if I need to. Both MH and I had issues as a kid and I don't want her to have to wait.
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@babylentilbean, How many has he had so far? We've only had the one, but it was awful. She would only eat from the bottle and she's still leery of her paci. We also pumped her full of meds which I hate. I will push for tubes if I need to. Both MH and I had issues as a kid and I don't want her to have to wait.
This is his third. It's awful bc he won't eat unless he is in a really drowsy state. The only saving grace was the fact he ate every 2 hours at night. He literally only ate once during the day. I always feel like I'm pumping him full of something. He takes Prilosec twice a day, vitamin D drops, antibiotics when he is sick, and then Tylenol on top of that. I had 18 sets as a child/teen. I know the relief that comes with them as well.
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I mentioned it in the wknd thread, but this is a better place for it. We're going to take C to the pedi. I've been making excuses for him for weeks: his eczema, he's tired, he's just extra clingy, he's teething, etc. But that's bc he has had a lot of moments where he shows he's turning into a sweet, happy baby. Whenever we go out or are w other ppl, they all remark at what a happy, loving baby he is. But then at home, he seems to inevitably revert to his crabby self. This week really has taken the cake. He is so grouchy and screamy lately. I don't know what I'm expecting the pedi to do but we've got to at least explore if he's in any physical discomfort from something else.
MH just took C to his appt and the pedi said everything was fine (despite the fact that he screamed the whole time). I dont know what to do. I dont want to push the doctor just to find something wrong w my son when there really isnt an issue.
winogirlyounglove316- are your LOs just bad sleepers or do you still find them to be grumpy and angry? I thought by now that C would have grown out of this. But maybe I need to be prepared for the long haul. I have a difficult baby.
Post by younglove316 on Apr 20, 2016 11:55:21 GMT -5
yummeecookee it depends on the day haha for the most part, nighttime has been a lot better. Granted she wants to start the day at 430 a lot which sucks. Daytime though I've decided she's just a crappy napper. I will say though 8/10 the morning is fine and she will take a 2 hour nap Afternoon though she absolutely will not go more than a half hour- most times about 20 minutes and she gets super crabby from it.
So - for us F is past I would say 85-90% of his colic issues. Nightime is still a bit of a crap shoot - and he is still highly demanding, if we don't feed him RIGHT when he is hungry all hell breaks loose. He also hates HATES to sleep.
If I stay away from dairy (butter / hidden dairy seems fine) he is less grumpy. If we force him to get tons of sleep he is less grumpy (despite the fights to actually get to sleep)
I have read that colic goes away by 4 months except for 10-15% of babies where it can last from 9-12 months. ugh. hopefully that isn't the case for you!
Post by yummeecookee on Apr 20, 2016 16:45:06 GMT -5
Sadly, I think I may be that 10-15%. C doesn't fight sleep the way you guys describe (although he wakes up 2-3x a night). But he really just is a grouchy baby. He wants to be held every.single.second or he is screaming. I'm very worried for when he starts DC next week. I already warned the teachers that he is super high needs.
Post by pickles4prez on Apr 21, 2016 1:11:50 GMT -5
It's a shame we all don't live closer so we could hang out with our cranky, clingy babies without judgement. My friends (always with good intentions) think they have the answers. Bless their hearts.
My LO is often so clingy all I have time for is reading the threads but rarely can I take the time to respond. I feel bad that I'm not as active as I once was, but I'm still here!
Post by littleredfish on Apr 21, 2016 6:53:41 GMT -5
Ok, I'm waving my white flag. I don't know how you've all been doing this for some from day one, it's been almost 2 months and I'm exhausted. I've put off coming here because she sttn like a champ. No issue. She wakes up at 5 but we nurse in bed and she's cool to lay there. From the second my feet hit the floor though she is pissed. I have to hold her always. DH can't even give me relief because she screams like he's going to light her on fire. It has to be me. My mom keeps telling me I'm spoiling her but I can't listen to her scream for hours, I just can't. This kid had to move all the time. Sometimes I'm not enough for her, she needs to always be doing something. I can't over stimulate her. My shoulder kill, my stroller has never seen so many miles and m toddler has never been so neglected.
Sorry for just jumping in like that today is a bad day, sorry if there are typos I'm on my phone, crying, bouncing a screaming baby.
Post by yummeecookee on Apr 21, 2016 9:03:58 GMT -5
Welcome littleredfish and sorry you find yourself here too. What you're describing is my life too (well minus the STTN part unfortunately). It's really wearing me down.
L is sick again. Ugh, why can't he catch a break? So now he is not wanting to nurse anymore and I have to give Tylenol around the clock to relieve his sore throat so he will nurse. It's never ending.
Post by younglove316 on Apr 22, 2016 7:25:07 GMT -5
I would love a day just once maybe that she doesn't feel the need to fight me on sleep. You're tired, take a damn nap. I promise you won't miss much. I find it so incredibly frustrating when she's laying in my arms screaming and crying while rubbing her eyes but won't sleep.
I would love a day just once maybe that she doesn't feel the need to fight me on sleep. You're tired, take a damn nap. I promise you won't miss much. I find it so incredibly frustrating when she's laying in my arms screaming and crying while rubbing her eyes but won't sleep.
Sometimes, I put Logan on his tummy for tummy time when I know he is sleepy but won't fall asleep. I think it wears him out enough for him to pass out.
I would love a day just once maybe that she doesn't feel the need to fight me on sleep. You're tired, take a damn nap. I promise you won't miss much. I find it so incredibly frustrating when she's laying in my arms screaming and crying while rubbing her eyes but won't sleep.
It's nearly impossible to find her sweet spot because she's angry so much of the time. I've probably hit it like twice where I lay her down and BOOM. She's out. Otherwise it's too early and she just screams because I put her down, or it's too late and she's screaming because I put her down AND she's exhausted. So then I hold her to comfort her and she's hitting me because she's so angry she's flailing her arms and legs and rubs her eyes so hard she has to be hurting herself.
Post by yummeecookee on Jun 8, 2016 7:32:57 GMT -5
I am just kicking this back up bc C was a terror last night and I need to get it off my chest. Wake-ups were: 9pm, 1130pm, 1am, at this point I decided to bring him to bed, where upon arrival, he promptly puked allover my side. So MH rocked him for about 30min, trying to get him back down. He fussed and pouted for another 30min, until full out crying at around 230am, another wakeup at 4am. Up for the day at 630am.
This kid has also reached the epitome of clinginess. He seriously must be touching me, preferably in my arms, at all times. I am so worn out.
Post by littleredfish on Jun 8, 2016 7:54:13 GMT -5
I'm so sorry yummeecookee, that's a...I'd say rough night, but it's more than rough.
I'm still here too. We've discovered that the only person I can pass DD2 off to with minimal meltdown is my sister. I suspect it's because we look so alike that she's distracted by looking at her and trying to figure out what is going on before she realizes we haven't touched in a while and demands to come back to me. DH offered to help her move out to BC with us if she wanted a fresh start from her BF situation and she could live with us and help out. He was being serious.
I have a whole house of clingy. I just dropped DD1 at the last day of preschool and DD2 with a sitter. I don't have anything important to do, I just need to breathe before 3 months of nonstop.... Even the dog is being ridiculous, why can't I go upstairs and come right back without you shadowing me every second?!?
I have a whole house of clingy. I just dropped DD1 at the last day of preschool and DD2 with a sitter. I don't have anything important to do, I just need to breathe before 3 months of nonstop.... Even the dog is being ridiculous, why can't I go upstairs and come right back without you shadowing me every second?!?
hugs yummeecookee, that sounds like such a crappy night. We had a crappy night too but since I'm back to co-sleeping on the futon it is soooo much easier to deal with multiple wake ups. all the coffee to you!
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