Here's my UO: after +9 months, I'm tired of breastfeeding. LO quit nursing in November so now I EP. It sucks.
Give yourself a pat for making it this far. My kid never latched due to me having an emergency c and not waking up to feed her till several hours after birth. Anyway I ep'd till she was 6 months old then we switched to ff because being attached to the pump started making me a crazy person
Also I live in the land of UK basketball country. Those kids are rarely making it past freshmen year before going pro. They need to focus of educating those kids how to budget and save money before they leave that year. Who cares about gen eds for them?
I refuse to say the word out loud, but I'll happily type it.
My UO: see the randoms thread. I am feeling very ranty about women simply supporting women. I hate the Ashley Graham (the plus sized model in the SI ad campaign) bashing. She may not be a true plus size but I can guarantee you she's felt shame about her body by simply not being the "norm".
I kinda have a girl crush on her. I want to be as bad ass.
I'm assuming you are talking about me. I was not trying to bash her, I think she is a beautiful, healthy looking woman. To me, she is the norm. Everything about her looks normal and not overweight or plus sized. My issue is with magazines that think they are doing women a great service by showing normal models with the caveat that they are plus sized.
Oh no, I am just feeling ranty in general. I am emotional and moody (day two of that time of the month) and this is one of those things I can rant and talk about for ages. lecky11 mentioned it as well, I just want women to support women and to make one another feel good about the body they're blessed with. I HATE ONE PIECES. Hate them more than anything, and I hate that an awful lot of society would tell me I shouldn't wear my bikini because my body is imperfect. Every single last body is.
I try to make every woman in my life feel like a million bucks, because we should, and I think the way we do is reveling in our differences and uniqueness. So it makes me sad when the reverse shaming starts happening like lecky11 mentions. Or telling a plus sized woman she's just normal so she shouldn't be lauded for her bravery. It's just tough being a woman today, the issues young woman are face with are more complex than ever, and I want to see us raise all of our daughters (and I am using that term entirely generically....daughters, nieces, cousins, friends, little sisters) to look at the world more inclusively than we've been exposed.
ETA: cause if there is one thing I miss about TB it's the auto-finishing someone's handle. And seriously, feisty Kat needs to learn that when she rants she needs to heavily edit. Really, I do know how to write.
Also I live in the land of UK basketball country. Those kids are rarely making it past freshmen year before going pro. They need to focus of educating those kids how to budget and save money before they leave that year. Who cares about gen eds for them?
I hear you on the teaching financial literacy. Though that should go beyond athletes. I can't tell you how many people I knew taking out tens of thousands of dollars in loans who had absolutely no idea what their payments would be (or how to calculate them...) when they graduated.
Another option would be for the NCAA to tell the NBA to fuck off and create their own farm system or stop requiring players to wait a year between HS and the NBA.
Exactly the problem with college sports like football and basketball, there is no farm team, no minor league like with baseball and hockey. If a college kid goes from college baseball to the pro's they usually start off in minors. They work their way up and do not go from college to multi-million dollar contracts at age of 20.
You ladies are sweet. Feisty Kat is my favourite too. But she can be a lot to handle. Thankfully it generally comes from a good place. Except vaccines. If you noticed I couldn't participate because I have such a hard time with the nuances of that debate. I feel incredibly strongly that the line around personal choice ends at the door to the classroom. I don't think I can respectfully debate about vaccines.
I am so tired of pumping too. I haven't supplemented because I feel guilty. I know that is ridiculous, but it doesn't change how I feel. My goal is one year. I do enjoy actually nursing.
You ladies are sweet. Feisty Kat is my favourite too. But she can be a lot to handle. Thankfully it generally comes from a good place. Except vaccines. If you noticed I couldn't participate because I have such a hard time with the nuances of that debate. I feel incredibly strongly that the line around personal choice ends at the door to the classroom. I don't think I can respectfully debate about vaccines.
At least you know your limits. I have a word vomit problem sometimes. (Also popular opinion).
With the basketball, I teach a savings fitness seminar on college campuses as part of my job. It's really basic (don't spend more than what comes in, pay yourself first, power of compounding interest). You would think I was teaching Greek to these kids. That should be a gen-Ed for everyone. You are right @kitchen.
I feel like divorce is a cowards cop out. And living separately is useless and cowardly also. People need to man up and fight for love and family.
(Not about my relationship)
Yeah, I don't agree so much with this. My parents divorced over 10 years ago after being married for 25. They are both so much happier apart than they ever were together.
Post by Susan0utLoud on Feb 5, 2015 14:17:27 GMT -5
I have no limits when I talk about vaccines. None. I have zero desire to hear parents explain why they think it's OK to put my child, who is too young to be vaccinated in some cases, at risk for preventable diseases. I will call them on their shit, I will ask questions and poke holes in their answers. I do not give in to the bullshit answers that they sling all over my Facebook and the internet in general. Science is real. Not vaccinating your children is selfish. I have lost friends over this, but I feel that strongly about it.
I'm all for medical freedom, freedom of conscience, freedom of religion, but when those freedoms put my son at risk, that's a game changer for me.
I feel like divorce is a cowards cop out. And living separately is useless and cowardly also. People need to man up and fight for love and family.
(Not about my relationship)
I generally disagree that divorce is a cop out. It's necessary for many couples and sometimes marriages just aren't going to work.
I think the real issue is that people don't properly prepare for marriage. Do the soul searching and all that before the "I Do." Set your marriage up for success.
Sometimes divorce is necessary and sometimes it is a cop out. It really depends on the situation. Sometimes one person is committed to fixing a broken relationship while the other is not. Sometimes people get married and aren't committed to it in the first place. Sometimes people are so angry and messed up, they just need to start over. I wouldn't wish divorce on anyone. I've watched people go through it and it's just miserable and raw and painful.
Ok, here is mine. My UO is that I really want to participate here more, but I feel that it's very difficult to get involved in these long threads since I work full-time. I'm only able to come on once or twice a day and not for short periods of time. It takes me awhile to read through the threads and if I want to respond to something, my window may have passed by the time I am able.
I'm trying to keep up, but I totally feel like the dirty lurker who is throwing random love tits around. You all are awesome group of ladies! It's just been tricky to find my place.
surprisepartysue understood, and I feel like a lot of people really are just so exhausted by the problems in their relationship that the idea of having to put in a lot of work to get things moving again probably seems impossible. I'm of the school of thought that everyone should take an opportunity to see a therapist because no one is born equipped to handle all the ups and downs of life w/o any guidance. I certainly wouldn't be married and w/ a baby today if I didn't find a great one to help me work on my relationships w/ other people.
Ok, here is mine. My UO is that I really want to participate here more, but I feel that it's very difficult to get involved in these long threads since I work full-time. I'm only able to come on once or twice a day and not for short periods of time. It takes me awhile to read through the threads and if I want to respond to something, my window may have passed by the time I am able.
I'm trying to keep up, but I totally feel like the dirty lurker who is throwing random love tits around. You all are awesome group of ladies! It's just been tricky to find my place.
We've got people that are west coast that post at different times than east and some post in the middle of the night, etc... That's the great thing, you can post at night, you can post in the am, and still all have a conversation. If you post on a comment from a few pages back- my advice would be to just say so- I'm catching up...
Not everyone can be on frequently and that's okay. Just comment when you can jump in. I often skip pages of threads on days in behind and just pick up where it left off.
I feel like divorce is a cowards cop out. And living separately is useless and cowardly also. People need to man up and fight for love and family.
(Not about my relationship)
Although some people realize too late that their partner is an asshole and really do need to get out. (Also not my relationship)
Exactly this. I'm a paralegal for a family law attorney and it really is amazing the situations I see on a daily basis. I met with a lady one time whose husband had gotten her sister pregnant.
Although some people realize too late that their partner is an asshole and really do need to get out. (Also not my relationship)
Exactly this. I'm a paralegal for a family law attorney and it really is amazing the situations I see on a daily basis. I met with a lady one time whose husband had gotten her sister pregnant.
holy crap. i don't even know what i would do in that situation but yeah, divorce is probably the best start..
I feel like divorce is a cowards cop out. And living separately is useless and cowardly also. People need to man up and fight for love and family.
(Not about my relationship)
I tend to agree with you, however my ex-h (40 yr old) and the hot (24 yr old) he met at work seemed to think otherwise. I honestly felt that he didn't even fight to keep our marriage together. This happened after 17 years together and 7 of those were spent living together before marriage. We did not rush things at all.
I guess I agree with you ladies that not all reasons for divorce is a cop out. But when there's no logical reason except for a midlife crisis and not wanting to address this issues. I feel that's cowardly.
My ex husband had a girlfriend on the side. I guess I coped out when I left him...Or maybe I should have looked the other way when he secretly got a vasectomy then hooked up with his nurse...hmmmm. It's easy to make sweeping generalized statements when you haven't walked in someone else's shoes. Be careful not to judge what you haven't experienced or understand.
Post by rainbowsockmonkey on Feb 6, 2015 2:17:44 GMT -5
I think that some of these couples that get divorced should have put a little bit more thought into what marriage entails. A girl I went to high school with (graduated in 2004) has been married and divorced twice since then. The first lasted less than a year, and the second was less than 2. I'm not saying that everyone who rushes into it, doesn't think things through, but maybe if more people thought about it, maybe the rate wouldn't be as high as it is.
I guess I agree with you ladies that not all reasons for divorce is a cop out. But when there's no logical reason except for a midlife crisis and not wanting to address this issues. I feel that's cowardly.
My ex husband had a girlfriend on the side. I guess I coped out when I left him...Or maybe I should have looked the other way when he secretly got a vasectomy then hooked up with his nurse...hmmmm. It's easy to make sweeping generalized statements when you haven't walked in someone else's shoes. Be careful not to judge what you haven't experienced or understand.
Holy shit! How did you find out he got shipped? That is fucked up. I'm sorry
My ex husband had a girlfriend on the side. I guess I coped out when I left him...Or maybe I should have looked the other way when he secretly got a vasectomy then hooked up with his nurse...hmmmm. It's easy to make sweeping generalized statements when you haven't walked in someone else's shoes. Be careful not to judge what you haven't experienced or understand.
Holy shit! How did you find out he got shipped? That is fucked up. I'm sorry
I didn't find out until about 3 months after when I found some nude pics of his nurse in his emails. I ended up calling his best friend and he basically told me everything. I guess he didn't want to get one of his girls pregnant. I'm not a push over by any means and have some serious street cred so for him to pull this over on me took some serious skills. I was actually quite impressed that he pulled it off.
It all worked out though. My DH now is a dreamy dream boat
Holy shit! How did you find out he got shipped? That is fucked up. I'm sorry
I didn't find out until about 3 months after when I found some nude pics of his nurse in his emails. I ended up calling his best friend and he basically told me everything. I guess he didn't want to get one of his girls pregnant. I'm not a push over by any means and have some serious street cred so for him to pull this over on me took some serious skills. I was actually quite impressed that he pulled it off.
It all worked out though. My DH now is a dreamy dream boat
I'm sorry IseeyouRN that's a very logical reason to leave the bastard. Guess I should've elaborated my UO a bit. Long story short my BIL is having a midlife crisis says SIL doesn't do his laundry or cook enough and he doesn't know what he wants so he decided to move out. He won't give her a straight answer about anything and just doesn't want to deal with anything. Guess I was more venting cause it's a sucky situation and they have two kids he isn't considering.
he sounds like an ungrateful asshole who probably doesn't deserve the family he has..
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