Upset they picked the other couple

[nextchapter24]

Hello,

I post here occasionally but lately have mainly lurked. I am looking for support / stories to help me thru this. We were presented with a situation last week and told early yesterday she had narrowed it down to us and a few other couples. I found out last night that we were not chosen - it came down to us and another couple. The BM wanted to go with us but the bf wanted the other couple. I am devastated. I know this was never my baby but I can't help feeling like I lost something. I have a range of emotions right now but mainly hurt and confusion . I just keep going over it and thinking what I could have done. We usually aren't told when we are shown but if they have something that fits outside the criteria they ask us if we want to be presented. Thanks for listening .

[oneslybookworm]

Ugh, that sucks...I am so sorry. I don't really have any sort of advice, since we're not at that point yet (being shown to BMs), but hang in there.

[redandblue]

No experience to share, but I wanted to send big hugs. What a difficult situation. I know right now it will feel very raw and painful, but when you do bring home your child, you will be able to look back and know there is nothing that could be done differently. The matching process seems like such an impossible process, but I feel in the end it always ends up right. Be kind to yourself.

[nextchapter24]

Thanks everyone. I'm struggling more than my husband because he tries to distance himself from these situations as not to get hurt. I just can't help and get excited. The letdown just really sucks.

[redandblue]

Apr 6, 2016 9:31:36 GMT -5 nextchapter24 said:

Thanks everyone. I'm struggling more than my husband because he tries to distance himself from these situations as not to get hurt. I just can't help and get excited. The letdown just really sucks.

Totally understandable! Be kind to yourself.

[pinkie]

I'm sorry!

When we were waiting for our older son, we had a failed match. Then a few weeks later we were told it was between us and another family and the EM wanted to talk to us. The next day we were told she chose the other family. We were very disappointed (to put it mildly). We had a long wait the first time and every disappointment was huge to us.

All I can say is your baby will find you and in the end you wouldn't have wanted your journey to go any other way. But that is very very hard to accept during the wait. Lots of hugs and I hope you and your wait is short!

[butlerfan]

Huge hugs

[lizblue]

Sending lots of love your way.

[nextchapter24]

Thanks everyone! I really appreciate your support and this board. It's hard to share this with others who aren't going thru it. This is the second time this has happened ( in the four and a half months we've been waiting). Never gets easier but for some reason this was particular hard.

[roxy]

I'm so sorry. I'm sending you all the hugs and good thoughts.

[ceejay]

I'm so sorry. That would be so disappointing. I hope you are matched soon!

[Captain Serious]

I'm sorry. I know how tough that is. Take it easy, and be kind to yourself.