Post by mommarn on Feb 6, 2015 1:31:07 GMT -5
Really I just need to rant. She's just trying to be helpful, and I know that. But she is so damn pushy. It's honestly making me resent the help she's trying to give. Our nursery still has a lot to be done. We need to paint the trim and walls and apply the chair rail among other things. I've known the basics of the wall colors (gray and blue) for a while but was waiting on a swatch of fabric from the crib bedding to arrive to actually pick out the wall colors. For weeks she's been saying, "you really can pick out the gray without seeing the bedding and just pick out the blue later." So I've been trying to be nice and tell her that I'd just rather wait. She's even gone as far as, "well I think I'm going to go tomorrow and just pick out one of the grays so we can get started." Finally this week she said in front of DH, FIL, SIL, and her kids that she just didn't see why I wanted to wait. I just ended up flat out telling her that I wanted to wait and that was that...and then I felt so bad afterward. I know she's only trying to help move things along, but DH and I own this house, not her. And it will get done when I'm damn good and ready. Also there are some things that i'd like to include my mom in and the nursery is one of them. I have a mind to wait until the last month out of spite. Another thing is that I'm planning a surprise birthday party for DH's 30th...and she's basically hijacked it. She's telling me where to put tables and chairs, what foods we should have, where I need to get those foods, I need to call a family friend and ask her to make the cake, the list goes on. She also told me that I need to call my 12 and 16 year old nieces and ask them to make a HBD banner for him. She just kept going on about the cake and banner. I told her that I'd rather not and that I would be getting the decorations myself. Her response was, "why don't you want people to help you?" I told her that when I let people help I feel like I have to take their suggestions and opinions even if I'm not ok with them and I don't like being in that position. But what I really wanted to tell her is that this is a party that I'M planning for MY husband and I want to make the goddamn cake! And shut up about the banner already! I have a hard time saying anything to her about this because she and FIL really are very good to us. I don't know if I've just been in a pregnancy rage for seven months or if it's really that annoying. But I have very little tolerance for her pushy ways anymore.