As a child, I used to lie to get out of everything. My favorite was when Mom told me to wash dishes, then suddenly I had to pee, and I just never went back to the sink full of dishes after giving my mom my excuse. Apparently this is obnoxious behavior and Mom was fed up. So she decided to stand in the kitchen doorway after asking me to wash dishes so I couldn't slip out.
Annoying, right? Because she should trust me , you know? Well I turned on the water, an I suddenly had to pee. Like, legit. I said, "Mom, I have to pee- I promise I'll come right back." She used her bullshit detector and determined that I was lying, so she said, "If you have to pee so bad, pee right here in the kitchen."
I started to cry, which is like a bat symbol to siblings, and so my brother and sister ran into the room to see how they could make it worse for me. Of course I'm standing there sobbing, "You will get mad at me if I pee in the kitchen!" She still didn't believe me and just said, "No I won't, now do the dishes." There was a back and forth of I have to pee! And So pee right here!
And then I peed. Standing up. In the kitchen. In front of my mom an two siblings. I was 12. Also, we had carpet in the kitchen (who designed that??).
And guise, she was mad at me. SO mad. What a lying liar who lies. She promised she wouldn't get mad.
I had to share this story with anyone I dated because if I didn't, my mom would.
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I threw a slipper at DS's head a couple of weeks ago when our whole day was going wrong and he was farting around, not listening and we were running late for a doctor's appointment.
It hit him. He cried. I cried. It was a breaking point for me and I'm not actually sorry it happened.
DH has this one ex girlfriend who was a little obsessed with him. I've never actually met her but his family and friends still talk about how crazy she was. Apparently she kept trying to get back together with him and would show up at his house uninvited months after they broke up. They broke up in the summer but she spent $100+ on him for Christmas and left the gift (that included underwear) with his mom. Eventually she moved on and even got engaged to another guy. By this time DH and I were dating. Her fiancé was this gross guy I used to go to school with so I figured she was kind of desperate.
Anyway, right up until the time of her wedding she was still trying to stay in touch with DH. I kind of felt like she was making sure he wasn't still interested in her before marrying the other guy. DH told me that she actually invited him to the wedding via facebook.
This was all years ago. She has since gotten married and conversations,
So my FFFC (which is kind of lame after all of that build up) is that I still keep an eye on this girl on facebook. She isn't my friend so I have to log in as DH to do it. I have read through a lot of their old conversations, she still occasionally messages him. I'm not even remotely worried about it, he doesn't even respond to her anymore, I'm just kind of fascinated by it. DH has no idea that I keep up with her or that I ever have.
This week has shown me two things. The first that I love ds1 and miss him while he's with his dad. And second that sometimes I'm glad to send him to his dad's house. I love him dearly but the constant "I'm helping, I'm helping" that he does with EVERYTHING drives me bonkers.
Related to theresat858 's confession about her toddler yesterday...
I threw a slipper at DS's head a couple of weeks ago when our whole day was going wrong and he was farting around, not listening and we were running late for a doctor's appointment.
It hit him. He cried. I cried. It was a breaking point for me and I'm not actually sorry it happened.
I am sorry you are having a tough time. Toddlers really can be a nightmare. To be honest, a slipper is not that bad considering how much they can make you feel like you are losing your mind.
I posted a while back that I got mad and put DS in his room during a tantrum and he managed to climb out of his cot and hurt his arm.
I felt terrible, but in the greater scheme of things, its better than me completely losing it on him.
Related to theresat858 's confession about her toddler yesterday...
I threw a slipper at DS's head a couple of weeks ago when our whole day was going wrong and he was farting around, not listening and we were running late for a doctor's appointment.
It hit him. He cried. I cried. It was a breaking point for me and I'm not actually sorry it happened.
At least it was a slipper and not a paper weight or something.
applegrape sounds like something my mom would do. And carpet? In the kitchen? WTF?
staryb DH has an ex that still does this kind of crap. I'm not worried about it because he knows I'd kill him if he cheated but it kinda weirds me out. She got SO upset when he married me.
mrsl this is so me and why I shower at night. Sleep and baby cuddles win out over showers any day.
SO spoke to me last night and has asked me to go to the doctor. I have been feeling really crappy lately, but just put it down to the stress of moving etc. But he says I have barely acted like myself in a few weeks, I am quiet and withdrawn. When he told me some specifics I cried because I didn't realise it myself, let alone expect him to notice.
He is worried I am bordering on depression, but due to my history the Dr automatically prescribes Anti depressants.
My confession Is that if that happens, I will feel like a failure for needing them after going so long without them
kaylajade please don't feel like a failure. Needing medication doesn't make you weak, you are strong and it will make you feel better which in turn will be better for your SO, better for you and better your kids. You are a strong mama and you are not a failure. ((Hugs))
kaylajade please don't feel like a failure. Needing medication doesn't make you weak, you are strong and it will make you feel better which in turn will be better for your SO, better for you and better your kids. You are a strong mama and you are not a failure. ((Hugs))
Thankyou, deep down I know you are right. It is just hard to accept that I may need to after so long.
To be honest I haven't really felt myself since LO was born and I had lots of guilt issues over DS.
If SO has noticed, DS can probably sense it. That's what made me agree to go.
kaylajade please don't feel like a failure. Needing medication doesn't make you weak, you are strong and it will make you feel better which in turn will be better for your SO, better for you and better your kids. You are a strong mama and you are not a failure. ((Hugs))
Thankyou, deep down I know you are right. It is just hard to accept that I may need to after so long.
To be honest I haven't really felt myself since LO was born and I had lots of guilt issues over DS.
If SO has noticed, DS can probably sense it. That's what made me agree to go.
Related to theresat858 's confession about her toddler yesterday...
I threw a slipper at DS's head a couple of weeks ago when our whole day was going wrong and he was farting around, not listening and we were running late for a doctor's appointment.
It hit him. He cried. I cried. It was a breaking point for me and I'm not actually sorry it happened.
I am sorry you are having a tough time. Toddlers really can be a nightmare. To be honest, a slipper is not that bad considering how much they can make you feel like you are losing your mind.
I posted a while back that I got mad and put DS in his room during a tantrum and he managed to climb out of his cot and hurt his arm.
I felt terrible, but in the greater scheme of things, its better than me completely losing it on him.
Related to theresat858 's confession about her toddler yesterday...
I threw a slipper at DS's head a couple of weeks ago when our whole day was going wrong and he was farting around, not listening and we were running late for a doctor's appointment.
It hit him. He cried. I cried. It was a breaking point for me and I'm not actually sorry it happened.
At least it was a slipper and not a paper weight or something.
Things have been a million times better since this happened. It was like an out of body experience, I could see myself being crazy and my brain was like, wtf? You are not this person, don't go down this road. Things are not perfect, but I've had more patience and things are not escalating as quickly.
"I started to cry, which is like a bat symbol to siblings, and so my brother and sister ran into the room to see how they could make it worse for me." Sooo funny and true! My brothers and I are about 2 years between each, and this brought back lots of funny memories. But I was a goodie two shoes who tattled. My brothers were the naughty, crying liars. My FFFC, along the pee theme, is that once at a sleepover, we were trying to get my friend's little sister to wet the bed (hand in warm water, etc.) it wasn't working, so I was volunteered to get on her bed and pee on her. And I did. Probably the naughtiest thing I did as a kid. And I never got caught. My mom always said, correctly, that she didn't have to punish me because my guilt over the rule-breaking was enough.
"I started to cry, which is like a bat symbol to siblings, and so my brother and sister ran into the room to see how they could make it worse for me." Sooo funny and true! My brothers and I are about 2 years between each, and this brought back lots of funny memories. But I was a goodie two shoes who tattled. My brothers were the naughty, crying liars. My FFFC, along the pee theme, is that once at a sleepover, we were trying to get my friend's little sister to wet the bed (hand in warm water, etc.) it wasn't working, so I was volunteered to get on her bed and pee on her. And I did. Probably the naughtiest thing I did as a kid. And I never got caught. My mom always said, correctly, that she didn't have to punish me because my guilt over the rule-breaking was enough.
Post by rockynfrankie on Feb 6, 2015 9:38:19 GMT -5
My dads wife watches DS on Thursdays and everything she does drives me crazy. Specifically, it makes me irrationally crazy that I leave out an outfit for her to put on DS, because I leave before he gets up, and she goes through his dresser and finds the ugliest outfit he owns and puts it on him. I only kept the ugly clothes people bought him as last resort clothes.
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