Post by maryxc1 on Apr 27, 2016 13:29:33 GMT -5
I honestly am not trying to start anything, but would really like an opinion on something. A friend of a friend posted the statement below on Facebook today. In summary, it requests that people be super aware of others who have dealt with infertility or loss. I guess it struck a cord with me because I recently shared an article about how having young kids is a tough time of life. I see nothing wrong with that, though. Yes, there are people who don't get to be parents and the article might upset them. There are also moms out there who are at their wits end and need to hear that they are not in this alone and this phase is completely worth it. I lost my dad to cancer a few years ago. Father's Day sucks, but I deal with it because people need to celebrate with their fathers when they are still here. So my question is, am I just being an insensitive person or are the things she is requesting taking it too far?
"April 24-30 is National Infertility Awareness Week. It is planned each year to pre-empt Mother's Day. I have severe auto-immune issues, and these illnesses + their treatments are not compatible with pregnancy. If you know me, you know I have a lot to say about this topic (about anything, really, but especially this topic). Initially, this was a really long post, but it really boils down to one thing:
Most of the time, living with infertility is just living. But some days are really bad days. Some days there is a negative pregnancy test, a miscarriage, a failed IVF cycle, a PGD with very bad outcome, or a due date that never came to be. Before you send a birth announcement or a shower invitation, surprise someone with a pregnancy announcement, post your gender reveal photos, send that baby poll email, or share that article about just how hard it is to be a mom, know that someone out there wanted to have a baby today, and that baby never came to be. That is a statistical guarantee.
One in eight of your friends will deal with infertility. About 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. Another 1% of pregnancies result in a stillbirth. If you think your message won't reach someone who is hurting, you are willfully ignoring the truth. Be kind."
"April 24-30 is National Infertility Awareness Week. It is planned each year to pre-empt Mother's Day. I have severe auto-immune issues, and these illnesses + their treatments are not compatible with pregnancy. If you know me, you know I have a lot to say about this topic (about anything, really, but especially this topic). Initially, this was a really long post, but it really boils down to one thing:
Most of the time, living with infertility is just living. But some days are really bad days. Some days there is a negative pregnancy test, a miscarriage, a failed IVF cycle, a PGD with very bad outcome, or a due date that never came to be. Before you send a birth announcement or a shower invitation, surprise someone with a pregnancy announcement, post your gender reveal photos, send that baby poll email, or share that article about just how hard it is to be a mom, know that someone out there wanted to have a baby today, and that baby never came to be. That is a statistical guarantee.
One in eight of your friends will deal with infertility. About 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. Another 1% of pregnancies result in a stillbirth. If you think your message won't reach someone who is hurting, you are willfully ignoring the truth. Be kind."