Since I noticed a few are back to work I started thinking about how soon the day is coming and it brought me to tears.
I got an update from my assistant who is covering for me, and my department is a mess. Bosses changing things now so its done before I can say anything. I don't want to go back but I have no other options. So I'm having a pity party.
Post by lindy04aggie on May 4, 2016 14:17:54 GMT -5
I'm sorry! The first day sucked! Handing my babies over to a stranger and leaving was one of the hardest things I've ever done! But the second day was a little easier... and today was even easier. So, I'd say that the first day is the hardest. Just know that you're going to cry and that it's okay to cry! This isn't baseball! It will suck to go back to work and be slammed... but it will make he day go by faster and that will get you back to your kiddo faster!
Post by SheilaTheTank on May 5, 2016 10:55:25 GMT -5
arbe I'll be returning to a total shit show at work as well. I also hate my job so it doesn't help any. Im having a ton of anxiety about returning to work, mostly because I hate it so much. The thought of arranging time to pump makes my stomach turn. I'll be looking for a new job come the fall but for now I just have to suck it up.
I'll start looking as soon as I get back but I'm in a very specific position and dont know how to retool myself.
Andplusalso my commute is miserable.
I dont really even have a career so I don't know what to even look for. I know what I dont want and what hours I need. I just want to make a paycheck and go home to my family. They are what's most important to me now.
I'll start looking as soon as I get back but I'm in a very specific position and dont know how to retool myself.
Andplusalso my commute is miserable.
I dont really even have a career so I don't know what to even look for. I know what I dont want and what hours I need. I just want to make a paycheck and go home to my family. They are what's most important to me now.
There is so nothing wrong with this. Until the job I have now I totally felt like this and even though I feel like I have a career now and like my job I still can't imagine working my whole life. I also don't think I would feel like that if my job wasn't so flexible, bc I worked in the same industry before this, slightly different function but with some overlap and I didn't feel like that.
H also really felt like this, like I do my job but I feel no passion for it and idk what I want to do. It's why he went back to school, but even after that he still feels like he doesn't necessarily know what he wants, etc. I think it's so much easier to know what you don't want than what you do. I always tell him it's ok to feel that way as long as you keep moving/moving forward.
I dont really even have a career so I don't know what to even look for. I know what I dont want and what hours I need. I just want to make a paycheck and go home to my family. They are what's most important to me now.
There is so nothing wrong with this. Until the job I have now I totally felt like this and even though I feel like I have a career now and like my job I still can't imagine working my whole life. I also don't think I would feel like that if my job wasn't so flexible, bc I worked in the same industry before this, slightly different function but with some overlap and I didn't feel like that.
H also really felt like this, like I do my job but I feel no passion for it and idk what I want to do. It's why he went back to school, but even after that he still feels like he doesn't necessarily know what he wants, etc. I think it's so much easier to know what you don't want than what you do. I always tell him it's ok to feel that way as long as you keep moving/moving forward.
One of my biggest regrets is being forced to choose a career path at 17. The path I chose was wrong for me and I was miserable. Since then I've bounced around trying to find my way. I have an idea of what id like to do but it requires school full time and more loans. We absolutely cannot afford more loans. I also think id die if I had to write another paper. My hell is having to write papers.
There is so nothing wrong with this. Until the job I have now I totally felt like this and even though I feel like I have a career now and like my job I still can't imagine working my whole life. I also don't think I would feel like that if my job wasn't so flexible, bc I worked in the same industry before this, slightly different function but with some overlap and I didn't feel like that.
H also really felt like this, like I do my job but I feel no passion for it and idk what I want to do. It's why he went back to school, but even after that he still feels like he doesn't necessarily know what he wants, etc. I think it's so much easier to know what you don't want than what you do. I always tell him it's ok to feel that way as long as you keep moving/moving forward.
One of my biggest regrets is being forced to choose a career path at 17. The path I chose was wrong for me and I was miserable. Since then I've bounced around trying to find my way. I have an idea of what id like to do but it requires school full time and more loans. We absolutely cannot afford more loans. I also think id die if I had to write another paper. My hell is having to write papers.
22 is too young to choose, so 17 is absurd. I mean there are ppl who always know they wanna be a doctor or w/e but for most ppl that's not true. No one says when I grow up I want to be a energy research analyst (what I do), it's not even a job I knew existed. I fell into the industry even completely by accident. I 100% never want to go back to school. Ppl used to ask me all the time (I work with a lot of PhDs) and I was just like nope, I'm good. My parents used to be like oh you'll change your mind, but I knew as soon as I was done college, even before that, that I was done.
Hello to SheilaTheTank and jewel441 from a person who is currently doing a PhD! While it's my passion, it may not end up being my career, since it's a tough career to get into, and yes - I am poor and stressed, haha. Thumbs up to skipping it, haha. I'm currently GRADING a million papers, which I sometimes dread more than writing them, but that's another story.
I agree with lindy04aggie, the first day and the anticipation of being away from her was the hardest (also she was 6 weeks old, so she was teeny weeny). I'm lucky that I have June & July off with her again, but yeah. Leaving her was really hard, but I have gotten more used to it and it was easier and easier.
The hardest thing is the lack of sleep combined with working. I'm lucky that LO sleeps a good stretch so I usually get from 10-3 or even 10-4, but that's tough (and the first week I went back she was still waking 2-3 times, especially as she adjusted to me being away during the day). I imagine you are experienced with this since you have 3 kids arbe, but that is what I found hardest. Being sharp, on point, and on time in lectures and meetings and all with the lack of sleep was tough.
I go back 5/16. I am part time so I will be working 3 days a week. My summer class starts 6/20 and only meets twice a week for 2hrs, summer session is only 6wks. Once fall starts, late Aug, I will go back to 3 days a week.
I am a college counselor and I love my job. I just dont want to leave LO, even though I am anxious to go back to work. jewel441 17yrs is pretty young to decided a career. I work at a college and this is the age group I work with and all of my students are undecided. I teach a career counseling class and students seems to narrow a major down by their second year. But, even then they still aren't 100% sure.
I went back on 4/28 for two half days so this past week was my first full week back at work. It was fine. I was very, very tired. I'm already finding it hard to pump three times a day. The anticipation of going back was much worse than actually doing it.
I do miss my old childcare situation though - my mom watched DS1 at our house when I returned to work. The plan this time had been for her to watch the kids MWF at our house, and my MIL to watch them TuThurs. Because of Mom's accident we had to find someone else - a friend of ours, fortunately - but it means taking DS1 to preschool then DS2 to the babysitter's, and it's a lot in the morning. I'm not a morning person.
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Post by zombiesquad on May 11, 2016 15:30:51 GMT -5
First day back. Preschooler was an absolute mess this morning. It was pouring rain. She didn't want to go to school and she acted like she would melt if even a drop of water touched her. We all got soaked. I'm worried I didn't leave enough milk for D and I realize that I'm constantly feeling my boobs. On the bright side, my co-workers had flowers waiting for me and things haven't been so bad since I've been here. I know they'll get easier and better eventually.
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Post by SheilaTheTank on May 11, 2016 16:09:33 GMT -5
Took K to the office to show her off and talk about going back to work. My boss alluded to changing my job responsibilities and what he is proposing would be sooooooo much better for my mental health. I'm not holding my breath though, because I want to see if this is just him talking or if he really wants me to do what he suggested.
K was an absolute hellion pretty much the entire time. Fussed, spit up, screamed her fn head off when I went to change her (wtf to that one?). So that was fun...
Took K to the office to show her off and talk about going back to work. My boss alluded to changing my job responsibilities and what he is proposing would be sooooooo much better for my mental health. I'm not holding my breath though, because I want to see if this is just him talking or if he really wants me to do what he suggested.
K was an absolute hellion pretty much the entire time. Fussed, spit up, screamed her fn head off when I went to change her (wtf to that one?). So that was fun...
I hope he sticks to his word. Not that we are entitled to anything, but surely he'd understand that happy working mothers make for a more productive employees. Sorry K was a handful though.
Married since 2010 DX w/PCOS in Feb 2011 Five cycles w/Letrozole+TI+IUI BFP w/injects+IUI in 2012 DD born May 2013 NTNP since 2015 Early miscarriage March 2015 TTA April/May BFP June! DS born February 2016
Took K to the office to show her off and talk about going back to work. My boss alluded to changing my job responsibilities and what he is proposing would be sooooooo much better for my mental health. I'm not holding my breath though, because I want to see if this is just him talking or if he really wants me to do what he suggested.
K was an absolute hellion pretty much the entire time. Fussed, spit up, screamed her fn head off when I went to change her (wtf to that one?). So that was fun...
I hope he sticks to his word. Not that we are entitled to anything, but surely he'd understand that happy working mothers make for a more productive employees. Sorry K was a handful though.
Even though K was a tiny terror, I think it really helped my case. They kept saying that they didn't want me to stress. Lol
First day back. Preschooler was an absolute mess this morning. It was pouring rain. She didn't want to go to school and she acted like she would melt if even a drop of water touched her. We all got soaked. I'm worried I didn't leave enough milk for D and I realize that I'm constantly feeling my boobs. On the bright side, my co-workers had flowers waiting for me and things haven't been so bad since I've been here. I know they'll get easier and better eventually.
That was sweet of your coworkers!! Glad the day wasn't terrible.
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