updated Update to gymnastics deal.

[mustardseed2007]

Sorry guys, I updated the original, and hate to make a new thread I'm just very curious about what ya'lls advice would be.

I emailed the school to ask if staff was present with the coach during class.

They responded that there isn't anyone dedicated to be in there but that the class is immediately off the main office and the administrator is pretty much always there working during class and so they feel like they are in touch with what goes on.

And then they asked me why I was asking and did anything happen.

So I'm not sure how to respond. A few thoughts:

1) Nothing happened, DS seems to really like gymnastics. I just realize that the coach doesn't have the credentials the teachers have and wanted to know how on his own he is with the kids.

2) I ran across his completely public facebook page. I think the teacher may be perfectly nice and get a long well with the kids but may have some judgment issues and so wanted to know how on his own he is with the kids.

UPDATE:

So I forgot I was not dropping DS off today b/c I had to take DD to physical therapy. But the school called ME, to make sure we were feeling okay, which was really nice. Sometimes I really love them.

They started out with telling me that I can feel free to tell them anything b/c I need to be comfortable (good).

They also shared that the coach has been coming there for a little over a year and a half and I'm not the first person to ask about him. They attribute that to the fact that he's basically one of the few guys that provides services there and that he's a bit "socially awkward" but that the kids respond well to him.

He does go through a background check and I talked to them a little about what kind of things it picks up and then just flat out asked if, in general, it would pick up DWIs, and they said that it might not be included since he's not driving. They said they can check on what kinds of things are included and invited me to come to a class.

In the end, I'm glad they know I had concerns, I'm glad I'm going to go watch a class and I'm glad I know what I know even if I didn't flat out tell them everything. I feel like if I need to I can share more at this point b/c I haven't told them that I'm not really concerned.

[2chatter]

I would provide them with the information you have.

[welly01]

^Ditto

[gamora24527]

^WSS. I also think it is perfectly reasonable to ask if he has undergone the same criminal background check as the other daycare teachers, given that he is left unsupervised with the kids.

Personally, I'm unconcerned with a prior DWI/DUI that did not involve the care of or transporting of children (I work as a prosecutor). I cannot begin to tell you how many people have criminal convictions on their record because of a one-time lapse in judgment. If he had multiple priors, then I would be concerned about his judgment. I still think you should mention it to the school.

[mustardseed2007]

I think I'm going to talk to them in person about it on Monday. By then I'll probably have decided and/or I'll say what feels right in the conversation.