Waiting To Do Something 5/9

[nuggetrn]

This is the Waiting to do Something thread posted once a week (usually on Mondays - sometimes not) for those of us that experience long, extended cycles. Whether it's medicated cycles, long (45ish + days) cycles, postpartum/breastfeeding, TTA, on the bench, or something else, this is the place we gather throughout the week to discuss and vent about our slightly unique situation.

Numbers:

Circumstances:

RRNFNSQ:

GTKY: just sending some love to all of you ladies today. How did you cope this weekend? Anything you need to vent about and/or get off your chest?

[amandamh2]

Numbers: unknown

Circumstances: TFAS/NTNP, BFing 1 year old with no PP AF yet

RRNFNSQ: This is a big week for us as DH is about to finish his course and get chosen for his next phase. There are three options that mean very different things for our next year and really the next 20ish years as it will impact moving locations. I'm not letting on how stressed I am about it because I don't want to worry him before his last test but I really hope he gets his dream job for his sake and selfishly because I like the potential locations and it would mean he would train here instead of leaving for months.

GTKY: Hugs to all who struggled for whatever reason this weekend.

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{Spoiler- Celebration with child mentioned}I'm TFAS so for me, this was mostly a lovely weekend with my family. I POAS earlier in the week and it was negative which was a bit tough but being able to spend time with my boy reminded me that no matter if/when I have another I already have so very much.

[nuggetrn]

Numbers: 18 days post miscarriage

Circumstances: TTA for at least 3 cycles. who knows how long that will take. I have Provera on hand to help speed things along.

RRNFNSQ: Rave: taking this TTA time to really kick myself into gear. I am down 8-10 lbs (depending on the scale) in the last 2.5 weeks. Let's pretend that's all actually fat and not just water and other things... I have been eating great and DH and I started doing Insanity together again which may just be the death of me. But it's good. I feel better already.

GTKY: Mother's Day in and of itself wasn't hateful. It went better than I expected and one friend who knows about the loss texted me to say she was thinking of me which was nice.

Mostly this weekend was difficult because my sister was here to visit and we really don't have the best relationship. At one point she asked about how we were doing and I talked a little about things. She has always given me crap about my weight. In a not so nice way. The conversation sort of veered to her trying to blame my "poor health" for our loss. She also has some big issue with me working third shift sometimes. Thinks that's part of the problem... And just stress and my schedule. I very nicely told her that she needed to be careful of placing the blame for this on me. That nothing I did or didn't do could have changed the circumstances we are in.

She FLIPPED out on me. Yelled at me that she was just trying to show me that cared and was trying to be helpful. Starts crying and is all upset. Again, very nicely I told her that if she cared, she would think about saying things like that that are actually very insensitive and not at all helpful. So then she's all I am sorry that you took what I said that way, that's not how I meant it BUT you and I both know that your health is very important.

So clearly she did not hear one word that I said and I just gave up. She is exhausting. There's no helping people who don't want to listen or consider other's feelings.

God forbid she spews that crap to someone who feels any guilt over their loss and thinks they could have done something to prevent it. But then she's a perfect angel to those outside her family so the rest of the world is probably safe.

[gabride2010]

amandamh2 I hope your H gets his dream job! FX for him.

nuggetrn I'm so sorry that happened yesterday. So many hugs for you. It sounds like you handled yourself with grace, which is more than I would have done!

Numbers: Cycle 3, Month 5, CD 54

Circumstances: TTC #1

RRNFNSQ: I can't believe I'm still WTO!! I guess I might be having another anovulatory cycle. The only
2 things I did differently this cycle were Thrive and Crossfit. I really hope neither of those things caused me not to ovulate. I have already stopped Thrive about 3 weeks ago, but I don't want to give up Crossfit. Hopefully this was just a fluke and I will either ovulate in the next few days or I will get Provera and move on to the next cycle.

GTKY: I had a few people wish me a Happy Mother's Day because I have dogs, which I think is really stupid. Just because I have dogs doesn't mean I'm a Mom. I never really cared before now, but I guess since we're TTC I care now.

H got me a present for MD (dark chocolate covered pretzels), which was nice and a bit strange because we don't have kids, and I'm not pregnant. Oh well, the pretzels are phenomenal, so it's all good.

[jellybeantoes]

amandamh2 FX for your H's first choice!
nuggetrn Big hugs. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Your sister sounds really insensitive. Way to go on the weight loss!
gabride2010 I hope you O soon! Chocolate covered pretzels sound so good right now.


Numbers: 1/1 - very new to all of this

Circumstances: Waiting for my first period post IUD removal (2 weeks on Wednesday)

RRNFNSQ: I'm just so happy that the weather cheered up. The rain was really getting to be too much and it was starting affect my mood. On a related note, I've been in an extremely good mood pretty much consistently since having my IUD removed.

GTKY: I spent yesterday with my mom and we had a really nice day. She knows that we're TTC and she's really excited about it (I'm her only child) but not TOO over the top (yet).

[wildflower810]

Numbers: 8dpo, expecting AF this weekend, probably.

Circumstances: TTA currently... TTC starts with AF, eep! So I guess we're not actively avoiding anymore because after O there's nothing to avoid?

RRNFNSQ: I'm really curious to see my LP this cycle. I'm also kinda like "wow" that in 3 weeks we will be hoping to make a baby.

GTKY: just sending some love to all of you ladies today. How did you cope this weekend? Anything you need to vent about and/or get off your chest?
I'm tfas, but alll the emotions about my abusive mother. I have no contact with her for a million reasons, and here's a flood of sappy "best mother ever" posts on fb all. day. long. I posted something that didn't clearly say "hey, my mom is a neglectful piece of crap" but that was what was implied. I'm just glad to move on from the day.

[gabride2010]

Thanks jellybeantoes. I hope your period comes soon!

wildflower810 Yay for burning the bench! Good luck TTC! Sorry for all the feels about your mom.

[monicageller]

Jumping in this thread for the first time!

Numbers: I think I'm on cycle day 42.

Circumstances: I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks in Februay, D&C on 2/29. I had what I think was my first post D&C period starting on 3/29. But nothing since then. We werent going to start trying until after my second cycle, so I wasn't using OPKs or doing any tracking- so I have no idea if or when I O'd.

RRNFNSQ: I'm getting very frustrated. I feel like so much time has been wasted. I have a son who will be 4 in August and with my loss that baby was due in August. having my kids 4 years apart was really the furthest apart I wanted them. So everyday that goes by feels like such a waste and makes me so sad that my son doesn't have a sibling coming yet. Thanks for letting a newbie get that off my chest!

GTKY: just sending some love to all of you ladies today. How did you cope this weekend? Anything you need to vent about and/or get off your chest?

Mother's Day was good- other than I feel like everytime I turned around I saw a pregnant woman and got jealous.

[mosdub]

*lurking* nuggetrn, Sorry for your sister's misplaced "help". You handled it so cool, hopefully she will think again if/when she is talking about that to someone in the future.

[nuggetrn]

amandamh2 Good luck as your husband decides what to do!! That is such a big decision! At least his dream job is the one you want him to get as well! That makes things a little easier. We will all cross our fingers here he gets it

gabride2010 I think it is strange but also sweet he got you a present. Means it's on his mind

wildflower810 So exciting!! Hopefully you get pregnant quickly! Glad Mother's Day is over for you, sending all of the hugs.

monicageller I am so sorry for your loss. Big ((hugs)). I feel you on feeling like we are just wasting time. It sucks.

[amandamh2]

That's so great that you're feeling good about your health and stuff nuggetrn! I'm so sorry your sister was being a jerk, what awful things to say to someone.
Hope you O soon gabride2010! And hey, chocolate pretzels for any reason are always delicious
Yay for good weather and good spirits jellybeantoes!
How exciting that you're moving into TTC wildflower810! Sorry for the rough feelings about your mom yesterday.
Welcome monicageller! Sorry for your loss and the challenges with your cycle and TTC.

[monicageller]

Sorry about your sister nuggetrn . It sounds like this isn't unusual for her, but I find (and was probably guilty of in the past myself) that until you struggle to conceive or have a MC you simply don't "get" it. hang in there.

[wildflower810]

nuggetrn, your sister sounds like a peach. Ugh. I hope one day she wakes up and realizes that life isn't about her and her opinions.

amandamh2, Good luck! I don't do well with stress and change like that. I hope you find a direction and are confident in it.

gabride2010, FX you O soon. I'm sorry your body is being so frustrating. It was sweet of your H to do *something* even if a bit oddly placed!

jellybeantoes, hope AF shows soon.

monicageller, I'm sorry. It's hard when things don't turn out like we want and we have no control. That helpless feeling is the worst.

[nuggetrn]

May 9, 2016 16:52:11 GMT -5 monicageller said:

Sorry about your sister nuggetrn . It sounds like this isn't unusual for her, but I find (and was probably guilty of in the past myself) that until you struggle to conceive or have a MC you simply don't "get" it. hang in there.

No this isn't unusual for her at all. And I am mostly not surprised by her reaction. But the fact that I can explain to her in very simple terms how her language is not appropriate and she can't even pretend to understand why... I just gave up. It wasn't worth it.

[gabride2010]

monicageller Welcome to WTDS. I'm so sorry for your loss!

Thanks nuggetrn , amandamh2 , and wildflower810 !

[monicageller]

May 9, 2016 18:53:17 GMT -5 nuggetrn said:

May 9, 2016 16:52:11 GMT -5 monicageller said:

Sorry about your sister nuggetrn . It sounds like this isn't unusual for her, but I find (and was probably guilty of in the past myself) that until you struggle to conceive or have a MC you simply don't "get" it. hang in there.

No this isn't unusual for her at all. And I am mostly not surprised by her reaction. But the fact that I can explain to her in very simple terms how her language is not appropriate and she can't even pretend to understand why... I just gave up. It wasn't worth it.

Yeah that sucks when people can be so dense. Especially that it's your sister

[icedtea]

nuggetrn, how awful, I'm sorry. I'm impressed that you stayed calm enough to explain to her why what she was saying was so hateful.

monicageller, that is a lot to be feeling. I hope your cycle evens out soon so you can move forward.

Numbers: cycle 8, month 10, CD 82

Circumstances: CP in February

RRNFNSQ: Something is going on with my body. I can't quite tell if I'm gearing up to ovulate, or if I'm getting my period. Either would make me happy at this point.

GTKY: This weekend was better than I expected. We had fun with friends, and I was able to stay distracted.

[jellybeantoes]

wildflower810 Good luck TTC! So exciting!

monicageller I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Deleted]

Numbers: CD 13

Circumstances: TTA til after a July road trip -- we were thinking about burning the bench this month but decided potential morning sickness on a road trip was worth postponing an extra 2 cycles. Still dealing with Luteal Phase Defect, so temping to have enough evidence to give a doctor when we get there.

RRNFNSQ: I feel like things are going really well right now. I'm still frustrated that my LPD doesn't seem to be sorting itself out yet, but I'm feeling more confident in my charting so I know when I get the chance to talk to my doc about it I'll be prepared.

GTKY: We spent the weekend building our chicken coop, so kept busy. No major feelings here.

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Hugs nuggetrn, I'm sorry your sister is so insensitive towards you.
amandamh2, good luck to your H! I hope he gets the dream job!
Yay wildflower810, congrats on being ready to burn the bench!
monicageller, I'm sorry for your loss.

[gabride2010]

icedtea I hope your body does something soon!

@bonzo2012 Where are you going on your road trip?

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May 10, 2016 20:21:58 GMT -5 gabride2010 said:

@bonzo2012 Where are you going on your road trip?

We're driving out to CA for a wedding, a few days visiting family, then down the Central Coast for a few days.

[gabride2010]

May 12, 2016 15:37:37 GMT -5 @bonzo2012 said:

May 10, 2016 20:21:58 GMT -5 gabride2010 said:

@bonzo2012 Where are you going on your road trip?

We're driving out to CA for a wedding, a few days visiting family, then down the Central Coast for a few days.

Nice! Have fun!

[amandamh2]

I know it's really late in the week but two big updates: AF returned for me on Thursday and last night DH found out he got chosen to train for his dream job! Ah!!!
If it's okay though I'm going to stick around here for another cycle or so while I see whether my cycles are going to be anywhere close to "normal" PP.

[nuggetrn]

May 14, 2016 7:35:10 GMT -5 amandamh2 said:

I know it's really late in the week but two big updates: AF returned for me on Thursday and last night DH found out he got chosen to train for his dream job! Ah!!!
If it's okay though I'm going to stick around here for another cycle or so while I see whether my cycles are going to be anywhere close to "normal" PP.

Hooray on both counts!!! Congratulations! Definitely feel free to stick around

[gabride2010]

amandamh2 Woohoo! I'm so excited for y'all! You are absolutely welcome to hang here in WTDS.

[jellybeantoes]

amandamh2 That's so great! Congrats!

[icedtea]

Congrats amandamh2!

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Yay amandamh2, that's awesome!