Can't concentrate at work

[aprilz81]

I work from home so I can hide my distraction a lot easier than those of you who work in an office type situation.

I was pretty worthless on Thursday when I found out and while I was waiting for the beta results. Friday was a little better but today will probably be worthless too because I'm waiting on beta #3 results...

My sister tells me that it gets better once the initial shock wears off.

[akraus2015]

I have been at work for an hour and done zero things. Except pick out a Lily Pie ticker and squee with my assistant (who is also pregnant) about putting a pack-n-play in our office. I'm worthless today.

[LovesMeSomeCake]

May 9, 2016 8:40:37 GMT -5 eameselephant said:

Am I only one who can't concentrate at work or other tasks?

My mind is so occupied with other things, like how is baby doing? When should we tell people? How will DD adjust to bring a big sister when she demands so much attention? Guess I should schedule my doctor appt, etc.

I think it's because only me and my H know so far, and I have no outlet IRL to talk to yet.

DH is happy, but he's just not a chatty, excitable-type person. He has a much more calm demeanor.

YES! I just told my mom on mothers day.  My DH is the same way, so I needed someone to be excited with! Work is so hard now, all I want to do is read blogs and google symptoms!

[peaseblossom55]

Work has been so slow lately it kind of sucks. So I don't have much to focus on. I'm too cautious to be excited at this point. I feel better not sharing than sharing. So H gets all of my complaining for now. He does know I'm so grateful and happy to be dizzy, tired and nausea though.

[aprilz81]

May 9, 2016 9:00:38 GMT -5 eameselephant said:

May 9, 2016 8:47:04 GMT -5 aprilz81 said:

I work from home so I can hide my distraction a lot easier than those of you who work in an office type situation.

I was pretty worthless on Thursday when I found out and while I was waiting for the beta results. Friday was a little better but today will probably be worthless too because I'm waiting on beta #3 results...

My sister tells me that it gets better once the initial shock wears off.

I might have missed this, but when do you get beta #3 results? FX for awesome numbers!!

As long as the lab doesn't screw up again I should have them this afternoon.  They normally start calling people with results around 1:00 after the RE signs off on them.  So it depends on how many people had blood work this morning as to how long I have to wait.  I usually hear by 2:00 and if I don't hear anything by 3:30 I call.

[aprilz81]

May 9, 2016 10:07:35 GMT -5 carrots said:

Things that make me turn off focusing on the new baby: updating our budget for 2 in daycare. Ouch.

Ouch!

I would like to find a good (but cheap) in home care center until the baby is old enough to really utilize day care programs.  

I work from home but I'm not allowed to be a primary caregiver to a child during working hours but for the most part no one would know.

I would REALLY like to hire a nanny type person to be here during work hours so I can nurse (assuming I can after a breast reduction about 8 years ago) and interact with the baby as I have time.  I just don't know if that is in our budget.

[thelittleredm]

I'm just glad today is going quickly given how few customers we've had. It's cloudy and dreary out and I have to use my lunch hour to make a bunch of calls. Ugh.

[aprilz81]

thelittleredm, it is dreary and drizzly here too today and it makes me sleepy (not a pregnancy symptom, I'm always like this when it is rainy).

I'm also shocked at how fast the morning has gone. I really expected it to drag on considering it is 1) Monday and 2) I'm waiting for test results.

[summergirl1211]

I've also been pretty worthless at work lately! It doesn't help that I don't really like my job and I also have a short week due to my cousin's wedding. I even started checking out baby stuff on the Target website this morning.

[LovesMeSomeCake]

May 9, 2016 11:32:50 GMT -5 carrots said:

eameselephant that's pretty much exactly my internal dialogue. A nanny wouldn't be too much more than double daycare but I love love love our daycare so I don't know if I would be up for the change. I'm letting daycare know about #2 this week in hopes that we can get a spot for mid-April. Wait lists are insane here too!

Wait, WHAT? FTM here, I need to start lining up daycare now? I'm in the suburbs of a major city, but I hadn't even thought of that! thanks for the heads up guys!

[LovesMeSomeCake]

May 9, 2016 12:52:25 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

I've also been pretty worthless at work lately! It doesn't help that I don't really like my job and I also have a short week due to my cousin's wedding. I even started checking out baby stuff on the Target website this morning.

too funny, i was looking at the car seats at Costco! 

[geekmama]

May 9, 2016 14:31:32 GMT -5 LovesMeSomeCake said:

May 9, 2016 11:32:50 GMT -5 carrots said:

eameselephant that's pretty much exactly my internal dialogue. A nanny wouldn't be too much more than double daycare but I love love love our daycare so I don't know if I would be up for the change. I'm letting daycare know about #2 this week in hopes that we can get a spot for mid-April. Wait lists are insane here too!

Wait, WHAT? FTM here, I need to start lining up daycare now? I'm in the suburbs of a major city, but I hadn't even thought of that! thanks for the heads up guys!

Unfortunately yes. Depending on the market in your area, it might take a while to get into a good day care.

[irish14]

There are lots of daycares around me with wait lists > 1 yr. if there's one you really want, get on a waitlist now. Unless you're in an awesome area that isn't as nuts as us.

We're on our second round of nanny hiring (my 1st nanny is leaving, so sad) and are doing a nanny share with friends of ours, so if anyone has questions about that process, fire away.

Living in/near the city is tough for childcare.

[otepoti]

Same, I have found it a complete nightmare and it caused me to mess up at least once.

[flcl]

May 9, 2016 14:31:32 GMT -5 LovesMeSomeCake said:

May 9, 2016 11:32:50 GMT -5 carrots said:

eameselephant that's pretty much exactly my internal dialogue. A nanny wouldn't be too much more than double daycare but I love love love our daycare so I don't know if I would be up for the change. I'm letting daycare know about #2 this week in hopes that we can get a spot for mid-April. Wait lists are insane here too!

Wait, WHAT? FTM here, I need to start lining up daycare now? I'm in the suburbs of a major city, but I hadn't even thought of that! thanks for the heads up guys!

Yes!! Start looking and get on a list now if you're doing a traditional daycare. If you're getting a nanny or using a home daycare, it's different. For LO, we've had his name in a daycare for over a year and he's still 6th on the list

[flcl]

And yes, my baby brain is starting to creep in. I'm usually so sharp and on top of things. Now, I'm all hazy and paranoid that people are going to realize I'm pregnant before I'm ready to tell!

[LovesMeSomeCake]

May 9, 2016 18:12:16 GMT -5 irish14 said:

There are lots of daycares around me with wait lists > 1 yr. if there's one you really want, get on a waitlist now. Unless you're in an awesome area that isn't as nuts as us.

We're on our second round of nanny hiring (my 1st nanny is leaving, so sad) and are doing a nanny share with friends of ours, so if anyone has questions about that process, fire away.

Living in/near the city is tough for childcare.

I'd love to hear more.  Is it similar in cost to a daycare? I've heard that as far as preventing colds in the first years it is better, although they will just end up catching them later when they start preschool anyway.  I'd love to hear your thoughts and perspectives! do you use Care.com or something similar? how do you find your caregiver?

[irish14]

May 10, 2016 10:05:54 GMT -5 LovesMeSomeCake said:

May 9, 2016 18:12:16 GMT -5 irish14 said:

There are lots of daycares around me with wait lists > 1 yr. if there's one you really want, get on a waitlist now. Unless you're in an awesome area that isn't as nuts as us.

We're on our second round of nanny hiring (my 1st nanny is leaving, so sad) and are doing a nanny share with friends of ours, so if anyone has questions about that process, fire away.

Living in/near the city is tough for childcare.

I'd love to hear more.  Is it similar in cost to a daycare? I've heard that as far as preventing colds in the first years it is better, although they will just end up catching them later when they start preschool anyway.  I'd love to hear your thoughts and perspectives! do you use Care.com or something similar? how do you find your caregiver?

In our area it's more expensive for nanny, bc nanny market rate is around 16-22/hr. (Most people do it under the table but withholding taxes means it's more than tha gross.) that's split in half between the 2 families.

He's definitely been sick less, hardly at all. We'll see when he gets to school. Half the time the share is at my house, which is great - no bundling him up and dropping him off.

We went through a placement agency. They typically charge a placement fee of 1-3k once you hire someone. They do background checks, etc - pre screen everyone for you, and you just interview. We are also using sittercity, which was pretty good - almost hired someone off there but they got stolen away by another family before we could make an offer. I haven't used care.com.

Our share is with longtime friends. Communication between the two sets of parents is important, and being on similar pages in terms of parenting style really helps.

[LovesMeSomeCake]

May 10, 2016 14:09:11 GMT -5 irish14 said:

May 10, 2016 10:05:54 GMT -5 LovesMeSomeCake said:

I'd love to hear more.  Is it similar in cost to a daycare? I've heard that as far as preventing colds in the first years it is better, although they will just end up catching them later when they start preschool anyway.  I'd love to hear your thoughts and perspectives! do you use Care.com or something similar? how do you find your caregiver?

In our area it's more expensive for nanny, bc nanny market rate is around 16-22/hr. (Most people do it under the table but withholding taxes means it's more than tha gross.) that's split in half between the 2 families.

He's definitely been sick less, hardly at all. We'll see when he gets to school. Half the time the share is at my house, which is great - no bundling him up and dropping him off.

We went through a placement agency. They typically charge a placement fee of 1-3k once you hire someone. They do background checks, etc - pre screen everyone for you, and you just interview. We are also using sittercity, which was pretty good - almost hired someone off there but they got stolen away by another family before we could make an offer. I haven't used care.com.

Our share is with longtime friends. Communication between the two sets of parents is important, and being on similar pages in terms of parenting style really helps.

how old were your respective kids when you started? is the cost when splitting more in line with daycare? we do have friends that might be interested too.  I've seen some home facilities, but felt uncomfortable with the older kids' access to the babies.  i'm a worrier.

[irish14]

May 10, 2016 14:24:47 GMT -5 LovesMeSomeCake said:

May 10, 2016 14:09:11 GMT -5 irish14 said:

In our area it's more expensive for nanny, bc nanny market rate is around 16-22/hr. (Most people do it under the table but withholding taxes means it's more than tha gross.) that's split in half between the 2 families.

He's definitely been sick less, hardly at all. We'll see when he gets to school. Half the time the share is at my house, which is great - no bundling him up and dropping him off.

We went through a placement agency. They typically charge a placement fee of 1-3k once you hire someone. They do background checks, etc - pre screen everyone for you, and you just interview. We are also using sittercity, which was pretty good - almost hired someone off there but they got stolen away by another family before we could make an offer. I haven't used care.com.

Our share is with longtime friends. Communication between the two sets of parents is important, and being on similar pages in terms of parenting style really helps.

how old were your respective kids when you started? is the cost when splitting more in line with daycare? we do have friends that might be interested too.  I've seen some home facilities, but felt uncomfortable with the older kids' access to the babies.  i'm a worrier.

It's comparable, yes. Cost after split was closer to daycare cost when we had a less experienced (cheaper) nanny. We're looking at "career" nannies now so it will be more than daycare even with the split, but part of that is bc we're paying legally (employer taxes are annually over and above gross wages - paying legally is significantly more expensive) and part bc I am in a stupidly expensive market. I get the impression it's REALLY market dependent. It has gone up just in the last 6 months.

Either way, childcare costs more than my mortgage... Uf.

Kids were 4 and 14 mos when we started. Challenging but doable.