Post by broadwaymama on May 9, 2016 9:26:15 GMT -5
For the past 3 days every item of clothing I put on is uncomfortable!!!! I'm so sick of looking sloppy! It's way too late to go out and buy some maternity clothes that will be good for this weather. Ok vent over! Enjoy your Monday!
broadwaymama feel ya. Everything is just a little too snug. I recommend maxi dresses at this point. We're the same height though so I know you probably feel the same way as I do with maxi. Always a little too long but maybe at this point your bump makes up that extra fabric.
Post by frecklesnbrains on May 9, 2016 9:46:22 GMT -5
broadwaymama, I have moved into the phase of wearing only yoga pants with t-shirts or stretchy jersey dresses. It's the home stretch and I have no apologies.
Maxi dresses usually don't work for me because of my height but the bump makes up for it and a regular (non-maternity) size is perfect now! I figure I'll hem them afterward if I want to wear them later this summer.
I only have 2 shirts that I wear and they are the same exact shirt except different colors. I even got a small stain on one of them a few weeks ago and I still wear it. I wear men's scrubs to work that are way too big for me, so I basically always look like a hot mess. I don't care.
So I'm kind of livid at the moment. DH just sent me a fb message and apparently his co-teacher made some super inappropriate (and unsolicited) comments to him about his job search situation. I think he should go to the principal about it but he's taking the "keep my head down and get through the school year" approach. I, on the other hand, want to go punch her in the face.
I had my first complete and total meltdown this weekend. DD wouldn't nap and I was beyond exhausted and wanted to nap myself. I had sent my husband to a movie because I wanted peace and quiet and it totally backfired. I let her cry for like 10 minutes then I went and yelled at her and told her to get up I don't care if she doesn't nap and then went to the living room and started crying and then she came out and saw me and started crying again and then she wiped my tears and said it's ok mommy don't cry. That of course made me cry harder. I just felt so bad for freaking out on a 2.5 year old for acting like a 2.5 year old. So I turned on the tv for her and put my feet up to relax a bit and then read the article that was pinned for the whole tcf board. That made me cry again. I was bothered all day and couldn’t talk to my husband until our friend left late Saturday night and he basically blew me off like I was being crazy. Cried again and then he felt bad. I’m ready for this to be over….I’m not even an emotional person and wasn’t like this at all with my first pregnancy!
nymama917, I'm sorry you had a rough weekend, try not to feel bad it happens and your DD has surely forgotten all about it. Our emotions are ridiculous right now and sleep deprivation and being uncomfortable all of time clearly does not help.
I have no advice except to keep counting down the time left...
Also had a meltdown yesterday, made up an excuse to leave my parents house and the 20 or so people there for Mother's Day dinner and sobbed driving in the car for 30 min, then I came back. I'm just so irritated with people in general. I know it's well meaning but I don't want to talk about my pregnancy anymore, I don't want to be the pregnant lady in the room (at work, on the street, etc etc) and I really don't care what is going on with anyone else, I wish I was allowed to shut myself away until the baby is ready!
Post by ArgyleEnigma on May 9, 2016 10:18:17 GMT -5
Oh nymama917, that's not upsetting because of pregnancy hormones, it's upsetting because it's upsetting. It Sounds like one of those days, rotten and hard. I'm sorry.
soultrane sorry about the inappropriate comments your H's coworker made. When is the school year over for him?
nymama917 so sorry about the meltdown. I understand and am going through similar difficulties. I yell at DS way too quickly and get very upset when he has totally age appropriate behavior. I'm trying to focus on taking deep breaths, counting in my head, and walking away when I need to. DS wouldn't nap yesterday either and all I wanted to do was take a nap. We are getting close, so hang in there!
csat sorry for your meltdown too! I understand how you feel. The babies will be here soon.
Thanks babyzebra. He has 3.5 weeks left in the classroom and then a few weeks of transitional summer stuff to help out with. I think he's officially done on 6/17, with some paternity leave most likely thrown in the middle there somewhere.
csat & nymama917 add me as a +1 to the "meltdown mamas" group. Only for me, this isn't a one time thing. I feel like I'm loosing it. I'm sad almost every day at this point. Usually my sadness stems from frustration over my physical discomfort that makes me cry. I am tired of being in pain and/or uncomfortable from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Meanwhile, yesterday and this morning I had a meltdown over Mother's Day. DH didn't acknowledge Mother's Day for me yesterday. We had brunch at our house yesterday for our moms/families. DH cooked. The entire thing was his idea because he didn't want to go to a restaurant for brunch and spend a lot of money. The brunch was lovely and the food was delicious (DH is very talented at cooking), but he didn't get me a card, or flowers and didn't even say "happy mother's day" to me. My mom, MIL, SIL, & Aunt all got me a card, but DH did nothing. I mentioned it to him and he said that him cooking was his way of acknowledging Mother's Day for me. But he always cooks. That's his thing. He actually enjoys it. Just like I always do the laundry. I would never said that me doing the laundry was my way of acknowledging him on a special occasion. It's just something I do. Besides he was cooking for our families, not for me specifically. If the brunch was held with me in mind, we would've had sparkling cider (since I'm pregnant) instead of mimosas (which I couldn't drink). I was just disappointed that he didn't think to acknowledge me on Mother's Day when I'm carrying his child - and having such a difficult time doing so might I add. It made me cry last night and this morning (in private, not in front of DH). I know the baby isn't here yet but a card isn't too much to ask for at this point.
bgkc4 I'm really sorry that your DH didn't acknowledge Mother's Day for you. You deserved to be recognized and it sucks that he didn't do that. Men make such bone headed mistakes and omissions sometimes. I hope you get much more acknowledgement at your future Mothers Days.
bgkc4, sorry you had such a rough day. Someone else said this over the weekend and I completely agree. A lot of men don't really feel like fathers until the baby is born because they don't have the constant reminder and physical discomfort that we do, while most women feel like mothers from the moment we see a positive test. I hope that he realizes that it upset you and makes an effort to make it up to you - and he better go above and beyond next year!!
I kind of wish DH would have done more to recognize me on Mother's Day too. He went in with my BIL on a spa package for me, my sister, and my mom, so I feel kind of bad even thinking that. I really appreciate it, but I know it was my BIL's idea and he took all the initiative on getting it. DH didn't get me a card or flowers or tell me happy Mother's Day. We haven't had a special meal and don't have any plans to do so. He did tell me exactly what he wants for his birthday though haha. He had to work all weekend, so I was on my own with the toddler. I'm just exhausted and grouchy I think.
bgkc4, I'm sorry yesterday was rough, I can understand why you'd be upset. The crying and breakdowns are especially hard because we've come so far, have so little left to go but it's all just too overwhelming. I just try to find a place alone to cry and get it all out. It looks like a lot of us are reaching breaking points
I've kind of lost interest in food and I don't even know exactly what a crab dip pretzel is soultrane but it sounds incredible, I want it, right now.
My vent for today is we visited the in laws this weekend and I seriously can't handle them. Between pregnancy hormones and then making dangerous decisions involving DS...
When we get there DH and FIL leave to go get one of the boats from storage.
MIL: can I take DS outside to play? Me: I don't think that's a good idea because there is no where safe to play. (They live on a lake so one side is water and the other side is hillside.) MIL: Well I'm not going to let him drown. Me: OK but he is fast. I cannot keep up with him at all any more and DH has trouble keeping up with him. But if you think you can handle it go for it. MIL: Well since you don't trust me I will wait till DH and FIL get back. Good!
Next thing I know DH and FIL are back and FIL has DS out on the dock with no life jacket. I'm having a heart attack but can't say anything because it will start a war and I'll be the one in the wrong. Thank god DH said something. He even went as far as to tell them DS will be wearing his life jacket any time he is outside at their house.
MIL: well can't we just get him something a little more comfortable than that life jacket you got him? DH: sure if it is us coast guard approved for his weight and size we can discuss using something else. (Knowing that the only approved life jacket is the style we bought him)
2dogs2kids, I'm totally with you and I'm so glad that your DH said something. I grew up on the water and know what safety measures to take but I know how quickly something bad could happen. I actually have a recurring nightmare about DS drowning that pops up every couple of months.
And I hate when ILs (or anyone for that matter) tries to guilt parents into doing something they clearly aren't comfortable with. Your child = your rules.
bgkc4, sorry your day was lousy. Maybe ask if you guys can go out one night this week to celebrate your MD? He probably had no idea it meant so much to you and that you felt excluded.
2dogs2kids, I totally agree, life jackets are a must. Do you have the puddle jumper? We have one for DS and it's amazing.
DH made me cry on Saturday over a stupid misunderstanding (he way read into my "tone" and overreacted and jumped from misunderstanding to feeling disrespected in 0.2 seconds), I think it's a combination of me being more sensitive than usual and him being exhausted from working so much and having no patience. We've been together 17 years and never fight, so it really sucks when it does happen.
Sunday was better though, we went to church, had crepes, went to the grocery store (DH suggested to DS that they buy me flowers there so I got to pick them out), and I got to watch 2 hours of TV alone while DH entertained DS.
Post by broadwaymama on May 9, 2016 12:37:58 GMT -5
Just came from my midwife. They are sending me for an ultrasound because I am measuring almost 3 weeks behind and have gained almost no weight. I measured about a week behind the whole time with my daughter but it was never a concern. I'm really really freaked out. First available appointment is tomorrow at 430.
Keep us posted after your appointment tomorrow broadwaymama. Fx that everything's fine.
sandandsea, I hate those kinds of arguments. The ones that really shouldn't be arguments, but one of you misinterpreted the other, and things kind of spiraled; I've been there many times. I'm glad you and your DH moved past it and enjoyed Sunday.
soultrane thank you for making me feel like less of a crazy person! I wish more people subscribed to the your child your rules philosophy!
sandandsea this is what we have for DS. It might be a little overkill for playing in the yard while under constant supervision, but it is what he has to wear out on the boat so he might as well get used to it. He hated it last year, but by the end of the year he was pretty used to it.
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