STM's: Telling your child(ren)

[summergirl1211]

Hey ladies! I know there are quite a few STM's (TTM's, etc.) on this board. Have you already told your child(ren) about your pregnancy? If not, when do you plan on telling them? Do you have any special way that you're planning to sharing the news? 

[rinny]

I -technically- did, but he's only a year old so has no idea what the fuck is going on.

[summergirl1211]

My DD is 3.5 and we haven't told her yet. We've talked about the ultrasound in front of her but she hasn't figured it out yet. We've decided to wait until after the ultrasound next week to say something. I'm really curious how she is going to take the news!

[hollydfromtn]

+1. He's only 15mo so all he cares about is his ball. Everything is "ball" these days. He did repeat "baby" a few times. It was really cute.

[osumegs]

Yes, but dd is only 15 months so also doesn't really count. We keep referring to it as our baby with her, but I doubt she'll have much concept even in January.

[heybulldog56]

We havent said anything to DS yet. He just turned 2 so I doubt he will really understand much. He will probably be curious once I start showing. We plan on telling our parents and siblings around 8-10 weeks. We'll more than likely also tell DS then too. I dont want to tell him now because I am not ready for him to publicly scream "baby" while pointing at my stomach (I have no doubt he will do this). I have no idea what to do after we tell him. Maybe I should read books about it? No clue.

ETA: We have mentioned it a few times in front of him but I dont think he knows what the hell we are talking about.

[ellabee]

DD is 2 and 2 months. I don't plan on telling her until I get a visible bump. Then we'll probably start trying to get her to understand that there is a brother/sister/baby in me. Before that point I think it's too abstract for her to really get.

[thelittleredm]

I don't particularly see the point in telling DS (who's almost 3) until there is something to show him or for him to feel. I think it'd just go in one ear and out the other if I told him sooner than that.

[geekmama]

I have talked to DS about it but he just turned 2 and he doesn't understand what I'm talking about. Mostly I just wanted him to stop using my belly chub as a trampoline.

[heybulldog56]

May 19, 2016 8:57:22 GMT -5 geekmama said:

I have talked to DS about it but he just turned 2 and he doesn't understand what I'm talking about. Mostly I just wanted him to stop using my belly chub as a trampoline.

We play this game called "Belly Bronco" where he sits on my stomach, bounces around, and throws himself off. That game has come to an abrupt halt and he is less than thrilled.

[summergirl1211]

See, I think our DD is old enough to understand because she is constantly calling her friends and her cousin her "sister" or "brother". Plenty of her daycare friends have siblings so she understands the concept. I'm just not sure if she'll be excited, sad, or just ask every 2 minutes when it'll get here.

[ashtog]

I totally told the littlest because he's 10 months and has no clue lol.

He turns 1 on June 25th and we are going to tell everyone (kids parents friends etc ) when he opens his gift of an ultrasound photo and t shirt

[ashtog]

May 19, 2016 9:54:40 GMT -5 ashtog said:

I totally told the littlest because he's 10 months and has no clue lol.

He turns 1 on June 25th and we are going to tell everyone (kids parents friends etc ) when he opens his gift of an ultrasound photo and t shirt

here's the t shirt!

[judyblume14]

DD is 20 months. I have told her there is a baby in my belly. She has given zero fucks.

[heybulldog56]

ashtog,that shirt. Looooove it. So cute.

[thelittleredm]

"Me: DS, do you want a baby?

DS: Yes!

Me: Do you want a brother or ab sister?

DS: Ummmmm.....baby."

Well that's good to know.

[heybulldog56]

May 19, 2016 12:05:45 GMT -5 thelittleredm said:

"Me: DS, do you want a baby?

DS: Yes!

Me: Do you want a brother or ab sister?

DS: Ummmmm.....baby."

Well that's good to know.

Good, no preference! Happy either way.  

[thelittleredm]

May 19, 2016 12:42:39 GMT -5 heybulldog56 said:

May 19, 2016 12:05:45 GMT -5 thelittleredm said:

"Me: DS, do you want a baby?

DS: Yes!

Me: Do you want a brother or ab sister?

DS: Ummmmm.....baby."

Well that's good to know.

Good, no preference! Happy either way.  

Hahaha Exactly my thoughts. He still doesn't know we're having one but at least he doesn't care.

[siouxsieq]

May 19, 2016 7:42:21 GMT -5 rinny said:

I -technically- did, but he's only a year old so has no idea what the fuck is going on.

Ha! Same!

[raven]

May 19, 2016 7:54:38 GMT -5 osumegs said:

Yes, but dd is only 15 months so also doesn't really count. We keep referring to it as our baby with her, but I doubt she'll have much concept even in January.

+1. My 16 month old is more concerned about making sure her bear is always nearby lol. Or maybe she does understand and that's why she keeps trying to stand on my stomach...

[otepoti]

DS is 21 months and I don't know how much he gets it anyway. He's been more in to babies lately though so maybe.

[bazinga]

May 19, 2016 10:04:48 GMT -5 opheliainwaders said:

DD is almost 3, and definitely would understand, so we won't tell her until we get through the NT scan, or possibly until the end of 1st tri.

This is us and DS. He'll definitely understand so I don't want him to be disappointed if this doesn't work out. He's such a sweet and caring kid though, I think he's going to be an amazing big brother.