~PgAL/PAIF Check In 5/23~

[littlelion]

Welcome! This is a weekly check in for those of us who are pregnant after loss and/or infertility. This check in is a safe place to share all things that come with being PgAL and/or PAIF, and to give support to others.
I compiled the information shared last week to create a snapshot of our histories. I thought this might help as we all get to know each other better. If there is anything in your history that is inaccurate or you would like edited, please tag or PM me. I also ordered the tags by EDD, because I’m Type A. If your due date changes, just let me know!

***Loss warnings are not necessary here.***

PAIF Mantras
www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/57254/welcome-paif-read-before-posting

PgAL Mantras
www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/1034/pgal-mantras

~~~If You’re Just Joining in This Week~~~

What is your loss and/or IF history?

What is your EDD?
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How far along are you?

How are you doing physically? Emotionally?

Any appointments or milestones this week?

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend?

mrswillie PgAL / PAIF: 2 M/C, Clomid + TI, DS1 born/2 IUI's = 1 M/C and 1 ectopic, IVF#1 = freeze all, FET#1 = DS2 born/FET#2 / EDD: 12/3/16
trufflefries PgAL / PAIF: TTC for 2 years / Dx: PCOS / Tx: Metformin / Healthy pregnancy, DD born 11/13 / MMC 10/15 @10w5d / EDD: 12/4/16
requiressnacks PgAL / PAIF: TTC since October 2014 / Dx: Unexplained IF / IUI ended in MMC @ 8 weeks / 3rd IUI EDD: 12/5/16
babycowbell PAIF: First BFP on cycle 33 with IVF w/ ICSI / Dx: Unexplained IF, now assumed egg quality issues / EDD: 12/5/16
Becca PAIF: TTC since June 2014 / Dx: Unexplained IF / IUI #3 / EDD 12/6/16
mommytoava PgAL: Daughter passed away suddenly about 20 months ago in her sleep at age 3 ½ / EDD 12/6/16
@usernamedit PgAL: CP March 2016 / EDD: 12/12/16
hmr11913 PgAL: MMC @ 10 weeks / Dx Low Progesterone / Rainbow born 6/15 / EDD 12/13/16
littlelion PgAL: MC #1 @ 9wks 12/12 / #2 @ 6wks 12/13 / #3 @ 9wks 3/14 / #4 @ 9wks 9/15 / #5 ectopic @6wks 11/15 / Rainbow baby #1 12/1/14 / EDD: 12/15/16
lastnamewithheld PAIF: TTC since 2012 / H has MFI and I have PCOS / IVF EDD: 12/17/16
graychloham PgAL: TTC since August 2014 / MC @ 12 weeks in 2015 / EDD 12/17/16
legalbeagle PgAL: MMC @ 8 weeks in December / One DS who is 3.5 / EDD: 12/23/16
crimpgirl PgAL: MMC @ 8 weeks in September 2014 / CP February 2016 / EDD 12/23/16
WineNChocolate PgAL: MC Feb 2014 / Feb 2016 / EDD: 12/25/16
sdgal PAIF: TTC since November 2014 / Dx: Unexplained IF / Clomid + IUI # 3 / EDD 12/25/16
@cahistoryteacher PgAL / PAIF: TTC for 2+ years / 6 IUIs / MC @ 7 weeks / EDD: 12/25/16
W PAIF: TTC for 31 months / Dx: Unexplained IF / EDD: 12/26/16
emilie PAIF: NTNP since March 2014 / TTC since June 2014 / Tx: polyp removals and 4 IUIs / EDD: 12/26
Sunny75 PAIF: TTC for 15 months / Dx: Unicornuate Uterus / Two failed IUIs / Hysteroscopy to remove a cyst / BFP on first natural cycle after that! / EDD: 12/28/16

[trufflefries]

How far along are you? 12w1d

How are you doing physically/emotionally? Physically, nausea is getting a little bit better. Heartburn starting to kick up though giant size bottle of tums here I come! Emotionally I'm feeling pretty well.

No appointments this week, just excited first trimester is drawing to a close!

Highlight of my weekend was probably just hanging out in the back yard on Saturday. DD and I sat in the (kiddie) pool while DH grilled chicken and corn. It was so relaxing.

[Deleted]

How far along are you? 9 weeks

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Emotionally I'm ok, I only feel bad if I go a while without any symptoms. But they tend to come back with a vengance so that has been reassuring. I keep telling DH that I've never been so happy to feel so crappy. Physically, the nausea is really bad on the weekends when I'm off my routine. I gotta figure out what to do then.

Any appointments or milestones this week? Nope, next appointment is next week. So far away.

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? I got my closet organized this weekend, I made some room for maternity stuff and I found this one pair of capris I've been hunting for that have a stretchy top(and are not maternity). I might need to bust those out soon.

[littlelion]

trufflefries, how exciting! you are so close to 2nd tri!

@cahistoryteacher, weekends throw my water intake routine way off. And I keep looking at my closets thinking I need to find all the clothes that will most likely fit plus my maternity wear.  Good for you for getting that started! 

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littlelion,It was really a necessity. I've just been chucking things in there instead of putting things away for the last 6 weeks or so. Things were toppling over. Also, I could sit on the bed and fold so it didn't involve much effort.

[legalbeagle]

littlelion , thanks for taking over the check-in! I'm sure everyone agrees with me that we're so appreciative!

How far along are you? 9 weeks 3 days

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Was really sick this weekend -- like off and had a lowgrade headache for most of Saturday into Sunday. I finally "cured" it with a can of Coke. What are you guys find help your headaches? Normally I take tension headache medicine but its not pregnancy safe. Emotionally okay. I think I'll start getting nervous again in a week before our US next Tuesday.

Any appointments or milestones this week? Genetics counseling appointment tomorrow since I'm AMA and then US next Tuesday.

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? Definitely going to my friends' son's bris. It was such a warm joyous occasion and I was happy to be there for my friends. I think I missed out on not being born into a Jewish family.

[requiressnacks]

littlelion, thanks for the check-in!
trufflefries, I had a relaxing weekend too. It's the best!
@cahistoryteacher, waiting for appointment is the literal worst.
legalbeagle,I had a terrible headache on Saturday and I caved and took some Tylenol. It helped. But I really wanted some ibuprofen.


How far along are you? 12 weeks today!

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Bear with me, I need to release something into the universe. TL:DR below.

A very good friend of mine, who was very supportive during my miscarriage, told me a week after I miscarried that she was pregnant with spontaneous twins on her first month of TTC. I congratulated her and distanced myself from her in an act of self-preservation. I was happy for her, sad for me and felt like IF is so unfair that I had just lost my baby and she just happens to get pregnant with 2 babies right off the bat! Cue, pity party for snacks. Last month, I emailed her to check-in and see how she's doing and I never heard back. I started to worry. I finally reached out via text message. Turns out she had delivered twin boys at 27 weeks. They are currently in the NICU and 6 weeks old and weighing 2 lbs and 4 lbs (one is doing much better than the other). Her maternity leave is running out in 2 weeks and she will be going back to work with her babies still at the NICU. (Her H left his job and will be a SAHD). I have so many feeling about being such a shitty/MIA friend to her during what is a legit crisis. It also terrifies me about my twins. I have so many feels.

TL:DR - Best friend delivered twins at 27 weeks and they are struggling. I feel shitty because I wasn't a good friend to her after I was blindsided by her pregnancy announcement.

Any appointments or milestones this week? NT scan is on Wednesday! I am excited and terrified.

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? After searching for months, I finally found a mirror for our newly renovated downstairs bathroom. At Homegoods for $39!!! (Ok, this is seriously the lamest highlight ever. I need to step it up for next weekend. haha)

[trufflefries]

legalbeagle try some peppermint oil (couple drops) rubbed on your temples. It helps so much when I have a headache!

[littlelion]

requiressnacks, friends make all kinds of mistakes and yours was not intentional in a bad way.  You can be her friend now. She's going to need a lot of support for probably quite a while more.  And big hugs for the additional worry twins can carry. Just take it one day at a time. 

[sdgal]

littlelion , thanks for taking over the check-in
trufflefries , I'm jealous that you have a backyard to hang out in! Enjoy it!
@cahistoryteacher , Great job on organizing your closet!!
legalbeagle , Aww the joys of being AMA. Glad you had a good time at the bris.
requiressnacks , Don't worry about the past mistakes. Your friend will hopefully appreciate any help and support going forward.


How far along are you? 9 weeks 1 day

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Still pretty good, no complaints

Any appointments or milestones this week? I have my OB office intake appointment with the NP on Friday. So I'm guessing ultrasound, labwork, and scheduling the 10 week NIPT bloodwork.

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? Today is my birthday, so we celebrated with our families over the weekend and also announced the pregnancy to them. My dad and step-mom's reactions were great. My sister was a little cold. And DH's family was really excited.

[legalbeagle]

sdgal, so great to hear your family (mostly) had good reactions. Do you think your sister's is because she wants to be pregnant?

requiressnacks, I'm gonna agree with team D16 that all you can do is be supportive going forward. Everyone has to give what they can emotionally but also take care of themselves. One of my friends (who knew about my loss) told me at 8 weeks that she was pregnant and I CRIED. She totally understood that I just wanted both of us to be pregnant. People have limits. And I also think you can be a good friend now but not if it is going to give you lots of extra anxiety about your own twins. That's not good for anyone.

[emilie]

littlelion thanks for the check in!
trufflefries Tums are my BFF these days.
@cahistoryteacher "never been so happy to feel so crappy" - my feelings exactly
legalbeagle sorry about the headaches! I've just been taking hot showers when I get one as I'm too scurred to take anything. I use Dr. Bronner's peppermint soap and the aromatherapy or whatever seems to help. also, as someone who married into a Jewish family I am with you on that one
requiressnacks first of all, don't feel guilty about your actions back then. IF is really hard and it's not like you were a total jerk to her. and if you do feel guilty, you have the chance to make it up to her now if you want - she's going to need the help. I hope her little ones pull through.
sdgal I have my first OB appt on Friday too! Good luck!

How far along are you? 9 weeks

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Emotionally, pretty great. I feel like getting to 9 weeks is huge. I am starting to feel a little less anxious. Physically, well, not so great. My symptoms have started to ramp up. I took two 3 hour naps this weekend and today at work I feel like a complete zombie. All I want to do is sleep for 16 hours.

Any appointments or milestones this week? First OB appointment on Friday. I'm so excited!

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? Game of Thrones, I don't care how sad that is, and aforementioned naps

[Sunny75]

sdgal, Happy birthday!! I'm glad you had mostly positive reactions when you announced!
requiressnacks, I'm sorry about your friend's twins and all the emotions you are feeling. All you can do for her now is be a good friend.
littlelion, Thanks for the check in!
legalbeagle, Ugh headaches are the worst, I hope you can find something that helps.

How far along are you? 8w 5d

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Like @cahistoryteacher,, I feel so much better emotionally when I feel crappy physically! I threw up for the first time over the weekend and felt so nauseated, but it really helped relieve some of my fears. Then days like today when I feel perfectly fine I start getting worried again. I think I need to stop worrying so much lol.

Any appointments or milestones this week? My second ultrasound on Wednesday! I’m so excited to hear the heartbeat again and I hope everything still looks good!

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? My sister is pregnant with her first too. I bought two onesies that say “My cousin is my BFF” and gave one to my sister over the weekend. It only took her a minute to figure out that I’m pregnant too and the look on her face was priceless! She is even more excited than I am I think. Our due dates are only 6 weeks apart so our babies will be really close in age.

[littlelion]

sdgal, happy birthday!

[sdgal]

May 23, 2016 12:43:31 GMT -5 legalbeagle said:

sdgal , so great to hear your family (mostly) had good reactions. Do you think your sister's is because she wants to be pregnant?

requiressnacks , I'm gonna agree with team D16 that all you can do is be supportive going forward. Everyone has to give what they can emotionally but also take care of themselves. One of my friends (who knew about my loss) told me at 8 weeks that she was pregnant and I CRIED. She totally understood that I just wanted both of us to be pregnant. People have limits. And I also think you can be a good friend now but not if it is going to give you lots of extra anxiety about your own twins. That's not good for anyone.

Yeah, I think my sister and her husband have been trying since their wedding 2 years ago. So I know that it wasn't probably easy to hear, but I didn't expect her reaction to be so cold.

[legalbeagle]

sdgal, hugs and totally get it. I know my sister and her husband started trying recently and I'm a little nervous about telling her about the pregnancy. They've been delaying trying for a while due to job stuff, but her DH is older so I know that is part of her feelings about all of this.

[Winnifred]

Hi everyone! Mind if I join you?

How far along are you? 11 + 1

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically I'm doing just fine, little to no symptoms most days and the bloat seems like it's here to stay until the bump makes it's debut. Emotionally, I was a wreck last week (lack of symptoms and general fear of another m/c had me seriously stressed out). But all seems to be going well in there and hearing the heartbeat with my home doppler has tremendously helped with my anxiety!

Any appointments or milestones this week? Nope. Waiting on my panorama results and the next OB appointment is in June.

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? Probably hanging out in the sunshine in our backyard and taking our pup for a walk in one of our most beautiful local neighborhoods. The weather was fabulous!

[mommytoava]

littlelion thank you for taking over the check-in

How far along are you? 11w6d

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically, okay. The constant nausea seems to be going away. Emotionally, just trying to get through the rest of this week. Friday should be Ava's preschool graduation, that keeps looming in the front of my mind.

Any appointments or milestones this week? None this week, next appointment is 6/1

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? I went to see Money Monster with my parents, it was good

[hmr11913]

Thank you littlelion! Thinking about birch113 and hoping she’s doing well. (Didn’t want to tag her, but figured I’d still post it incase she’s looking…. Sending hugs momma)

trufflefries – I lived on tums w/ DD… the heartburn was soooo bad. I feel for you! I’m glad you’re doing well emotionally! I can’t wait for sweet corn days… mmmm.
@cahistoryteacher – I feel the same way about not having any symptoms… sometimes it takes me a day or so and then I wonder if I’ve had any. Good for you for getting your closet organized! Mine is a disaster…
legalbeagle – I’m glad that you’re feeling better. I hope your appointment goes well tomorrow!
requiressnacks – I can’t believe you’re 12 weeks already! Dang! I agree with what everyone else said re: your friend. I’m sure she can understand how that was hard for you, but I’m sure she does need your support now and would have you with open arms. I hope that her twins pull thru. Pre-term labor is scary. I’m only having one baby, but I’m also terrified about it since I had G early (although nothing compared to your friend, I had her at 34 weeks) but I’m sure you’ll have lots of monitoring!
sdgal – Glad that you’re doing well – and happy birthday!!
emilie – Oh man…. Naps. I miss those days. LOL. YAY for your first OB appointment!!!!
Sunny75 – I LOVE the onsies that you got for you and your sister. How special!!!! Do you live near one another?
Winnifred – when did you first hear the HB with your Doppler? I tried this weekend and no luck. I could only pick up my own. …. Which I never knew was “down there”….. anyway, I’ll be 11 weeks tomorrow so I’m super anxious to hear the HB myself at home so I can check whenever I want.
mommytoava – Do you plan to do anything special on Friday or this weekend? Sending you big hugs.

How far along are you? 10w6d

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically I’m doing fine pregnancy-wise… just still trying to kick this damn sinus infection which hopefully I’ll get some medication for tomorrow. Emotionally, I’m all over the place.

Any appointments or milestones this week? My next appointment wasn’t supposed to be until 6/7, however I moved it up because I wanted to be seen before we have G’s birthday party on the 4th… I’m so nervous about my appointment tomorrow. We’ve had 2 perfect u/s’s so far, so I feel like if we have good news tomorrow then we should be okay.

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? We got our house re-roofed! DH and friends did the garage a few weeks ago, now they just did the house this weekend…. Friday new windows/doors are being installed and then DH will work on replacing all the siding. Pretty exciting stuff! Lol

[WineNChocolate]

How far along? 9w 1d

Physically? Emotionally? I am ok. I am at a training in DC for 4 weeks so I am not really thinking about much other than class. This training is actually graded and shows on our par. Emotionally I am just tired at class from 7-5 a day with fitting in work outs. Still dealing with nausea here and there.

Appt: none till June 20. NT scan

What was your highlight of the weekend? My 9 hour drive to DC from Michigan. I made it and I am alive.

[trufflefries]

Happy birthday sdgal!!

[Winnifred]

hmr11913, I hope your ultrasound goes well today! In regards to the doppler, I'll share the tricks I've learned

Press it firmly starting in the direct center of your pubic hair line. Then rotate it a bit slowly while keeping it in the same place. Try this to the left and right if you're not finding it, then move up a little bit and start over if needed. I also place a pillow under my butt and find that I have more success if I empty my bladder first. Just move slowly and recheck the same areas. I found it the 2nd time hiding on the left side under my own heartbeat. I had to really listen that time and I lost it after only a few seconds.

Again - I hope your appointment goes well today and that you're able to put your mind at ease with the doppler!

[hmr11913]

Thank you Winnifred! I'll have to try that, assuming that today goes well.

[lastnamewithheld]

hmr11913 , Winnifred 's tips helped me with my doppler procedure! I hope your appointment goes well and can ease some of your worry!
mommytoava , One day at a time. You can do this!
WineNChocolate , my butt is asleep just thinking about a 9 hour drive. Yeesh.
Sunny75 , I hope your appointment goes well on Wednesday!
sdgal , Happy birthday! Also, I'm glad that you had mostly positive reactions!
emilie , yesssss GoT!!! OMG, every episode this season so far has been SO GOOD!
requiressnacks , How scary for your friend. I hope that her babies pull through and continue growing and getting stronger! I hope she's receptive to your support going forward.
trufflefries , I can't believe how close you are to second tri! Most of us are just a couple weeks behind! THIS IS CRAZY!
@cahistoryteacher , littlelion , what are you doing with the clothes that no longer fit? Do they get pushed to the back of your closet or put away-away like in an attic or basement? Also, thanks for taking over the check in littlelion. ((more hugs to birch!))
legalbeagle , I'm sorry you weren't feeling well over the weekend. ((knocks wood)) I haven't really had any terrible headaches (yet) ... noting some water and food wouldn't fix, lol. I hope you appointment (Today?) goes well!

[lastnamewithheld]

I'm sorry I've been absent! I need to be a better message board person! LOL


How far along are you? 10w3d!

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Fine enough, I guess. I am consistently finding the HB with my doppler so that is easing A LOT of my anxiety.

Any appointments or milestones this week? I have another OB appt tomorrow at 1! I hope it's better than the last one. (as in, I hope they actually DO SOMETHING.)I'll probably schedule the NT scan/bloodwork whatevers then too.

QOTW: What was the highlight of your weekend? DOING NOTHING. I had a crazy shitty/busy week last week so it was nice to just veg out and turn my brain off for a couple days.

[littlelion]

lastnamewithheld, My main closet and dresser is down in the basement. I have an extra closet upstairs so I plan on moving all my "fit me now" clothes + maternity wear upstairs. This way it's all in one place plus the added benefit of not trudging up and down the stairs as I get bigger.  

[Deleted]

lastnamewithheld, I did a lot of switching out my seasonal clothes which just go into bins at the top of my closet. I did toss (and by toss I mean donate) a lot of stuff that already didn't fit or I didn't wear at all this year. For some reason I had like 10 pairs of dress slacks which I don't even have to wear at work. I feel like Stacy and Clinton would be proud of my purging. We don't have a big closet or a lot of storage options so I just consolidated some shelves and putting sweatshirts away always saves space. Folding also helps, I had a lot of stuff that was just tossed in there.

[lastnamewithheld]

littlelion, @cahistoryteacher, thank you! I was wondering what everyone else is doing/has done. My wardrobe is pretty much the same year round, and I just tried to squeeze into pants that didn't fit this morning (in the dark. While H was sleeping, lol.) Sooo I officially need to go through my things and put them somewhere. ((sad trombone))