Post by TheEleventhHour on May 25, 2016 9:54:10 GMT -5
I can't decide if my cold is lingering or I just have allergies. But I don't think I have really had allergies before? So who knows. Basically I just need to stop feeling sick now.
I hate "you do you." It's usually just code for, "Well, you're super wrong and a moron, but I'm going to pretend that I'm accepting and non-judgmental of your super wrong choices to show everyone that I'm superior to you both in my choices AND in my non-judginess."
I should not have done this but after my MIL are telling H and I that "welcome to parenthood" when we were talking about child proofing the house for licensing (we may have to pay more because of all the nice wood work in the house so need to get adhesive stuff not screw in stuff....) and how expensive that will add up with how many cabinets and drawers. Along with a crib, car seats (need multiple sizes due to the age range), stroller, etc. She doesn't get it completely because 30 years ago there weren't all these rules and doesn't get why it is all needed but that is a whole different story....
I then went on H's cousin's baby registry because her shower is end of June and I will have to go to it and buy a gift. While I'm happy for her...it's moments like this that makes me sad for us. Why did I go on her registry......the big items have been bought for them already whereas because "we are just fostering and don't know what age we are getting (meaning more money OOP)....H's parents (or really anyone really) don't think of helping out.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Post by TheEleventhHour on May 25, 2016 10:37:22 GMT -5
Hugs butlerfan. It sucks that people would treat fostering differently over giving birth. There are ways they could help even if it was just a gift card or something. And thank you for fostering! I used to be a social worker and our foster parents were so important and amazing. You are doing an awesome thing
On a positive not we have our certificate for completing 24 hours of trauma informed parenting after last nights class. That class is now done and the other big class is 28 hours long and don't know when that is available at this time.
ETA: we are seriously getting a license to be parents....which still seems strange to me.
Last Edit: May 25, 2016 10:40:26 GMT -5 by butlerfan
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
I can't decide if my cold is lingering or I just have allergies. But I don't think I have really had allergies before? So who knows. Basically I just need to stop feeling sick now.
I've developed allergies in the last few years, and I never had any until recently. It might be allergies.
Hugs butlerfan . It sucks that people would treat fostering differently over giving birth. There are ways they could help even if it was just a gift card or something. And thank you for fostering! I used to be a social worker and our foster parents were so important and amazing. You are doing an awesome thing
H and I talked about putting an announcement on facebook about becoming foster parents....just nervous to do it until we have a licensing worker. Part of me still feels like it isn't real and even this is going to be taken away to tell you the truth.
Thank you for this as well because a lot of people don't understand the process (not like I did before either)
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Post by ohinvrtedworld on May 25, 2016 10:59:50 GMT -5
butlerfan it hurts my heart that more people don't think of the gap in fostering/adoption stories where there isn't always a clear time or opportunity to shower the new parents with some gifts or assistance.
Of course I wouldn't say anyone is entitled to gifts in any situation of becoming a parent, but it would be thoughtful for family members to realize that it's hard to pony up the money for a bunch of things that lots of people receive as gifts. Especially if they wouldn't think twice throwing a shower for a traditional pregnancy.
butlerfan it hurts my heart that more people don't think of the gap in fostering/adoption stories where there isn't always a clear time or opportunity to shower the new parents with some gifts or assistance.
Of course I wouldn't say anyone is entitled to gifts in any situation of becoming a parent, but it would be thoughtful for family members to realize that it's hard to pony up the money for a bunch of things that lots of people receive as gifts. Especially if they wouldn't think twice throwing a shower for a traditional pregnancy.
Also FYI every time I love tit a post, tapatalk automatically has me follow that person. Just don't want y'all to think I'm a weird stalker going on a following spree. I'm just over here love titting everyone
Also FYI every time I love tit a post, tapatalk automatically has me follow that person. Just don't want y'all to think I'm a weird stalker going on a following spree. I'm just over here love titting everyone
Can someone explain the following thing to me, I just don't really get the point
(@irish , don't mind me, I'm apparently just going to quote all your posts today)
butlerfan it hurts my heart that more people don't think of the gap in fostering/adoption stories where there isn't always a clear time or opportunity to shower the new parents with some gifts or assistance.
Of course I wouldn't say anyone is entitled to gifts in any situation of becoming a parent, but it would be thoughtful for family members to realize that it's hard to pony up the money for a bunch of things that lots of people receive as gifts. Especially if they wouldn't think twice throwing a shower for a traditional pregnancy.
Right?! I mean I'm not trying to sound like I'm entitled (if I am call me out for it please) but when someone who is pregnant gets a shower without a second thought because that's what you do to help new parents prepare. Why when we say we are getting licensed to be foster parents and once we are licensed we could have a placement any day and usually with little to no notice isn't the same thing done?!
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Also FYI every time I love tit a post, tapatalk automatically has me follow that person. Just don't want y'all to think I'm a weird stalker going on a following spree. I'm just over here love titting everyone
Can someone explain the following thing to me, I just don't really get the point
(@irish, don't mind me, I'm apparently just going to quote all your posts today)
I think when you follow someone, you get notifications when they make posts? I don't know for sure because I am not currently following anyone. At least not on purpose. Tapatalk is crazy sometimes though so who knows.
butlerfan it hurts my heart that more people don't think of the gap in fostering/adoption stories where there isn't always a clear time or opportunity to shower the new parents with some gifts or assistance.
Of course I wouldn't say anyone is entitled to gifts in any situation of becoming a parent, but it would be thoughtful for family members to realize that it's hard to pony up the money for a bunch of things that lots of people receive as gifts. Especially if they wouldn't think twice throwing a shower for a traditional pregnancy.
Right?! I mean I'm not trying to sound like I'm entitled (if I am call me out for it please) but when someone who is pregnant gets a shower without a second thought because that's what you do to help new parents prepare. Why when we say we are getting licensed to be foster parents and once we are licensed we could have a placement any day and usually with little to no notice isn't the same thing done?!
You don't sound entitled at all. Just grieving something -- it's a huge bummer not to feel as celebrated and cared for just because the way of becoming a parent looks different. It's the underlying feeling, not material things or money that makes it hard.
ETA: although those things are fabulous. Just to clarify!
Can I ask about IVF process here? I still haven't had one-on-one time with friend's wife that's starting IVF and I want to get an idea of when things are happening.
Can someone explain the following thing to me, I just don't really get the point
(@irish, don't mind me, I'm apparently just going to quote all your posts today)
I think when you follow someone, you get notifications when they make posts? I don't know for sure because I am not currently following anyone. At least not on purpose. Tapatalk is crazy sometimes though so who knows.
I noticed this yesterday...and it keeps signing me up to follow threads so I get eleventy billion notifications. So I'm stalking y'all too. Yup, that's me in your bushes.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Post by wannabmama on May 25, 2016 12:33:28 GMT -5
butlerfan hugs and I agree with everything @ohinvertedworld said. And since I haven't said it recently, I think what you're doing is so amazing and I love that people like you exist in the world!!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Post by diamondsndaisies on May 25, 2016 12:35:55 GMT -5
My *lovely* DH just sent me a bunch of pictures of the lunch MIL made him and DD (creamed peas, roast, mashed potatoes, garden veggies, peach cobbler) while I am drinking my shake for lunch that tastes like SHIT.
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