"Baby blues"

[abb1701]

More like a giant hormonal tidal wave crashed into me on Wednesday. I ended up sobbing in the bedroom for a couple hours while LO was sleeping. Even now thinking about being emotional makes me weepy. I've done the reading I knew it was coming (well I thought I knew but I guess I had no idea). And of course the exhaustion and sore nipples doesn't help.

Sorry for the venting. I didn't see a thread about this yet. I guess we can use this thread as a place to talk about it and maybe offer some support?

[aggiebug]

Omg I was a horrible awful mess last weekend, 7days post partum. I could not stop crying and when I wasn't crying I was just sad.

All I can say is it got better. There were some underlying stressors that didn't help but taking to H and taking the time to cry and not hold in the emotions helped.

[michelle142]

That was me with DS (and I'm sure this time as well).

Take help where you can and be gentle with yourself. If 3, 4 weeks pass and you're still feeling overly emotional or sad.. or even just not yourself, please let your OB know.

Bigs hugs to everyone!

[boxerrrmama85]

Word.

I've definitely had moments of sheer meltdowns and I'm definitely quick to tears. Sometimes just looking at my sweet baby makes me weepy and emotional but for 90% of the time I am just happy and joyful. My husband has been great and let's me just cry and talk it out. Each time I cry he asks if it is PPD-- but I know it's just the baby blues and my hormones getting back on track.

I think this would be another great place for support and discussion. This is such a surreal and "shit got real" stage in my life. Let's keep this thread going

Creepy Internet hugs!

[mels823]

I was like that for around 2 weeks. Even if I wasn't overwhelmed or sad, I would just start to cry thinking about how cute she was and how I couldn't imagine my life without her. Either I was crying from sadness, being overwhelmed, or being too happy. My husband thought I was nuts!! 3.5 weeks in my emotions are settling down finally. I haven't cried in 2 days!

[dreemkin]

I had it with my first for sure. Everything was new, I was unsuccessfully struggling with breastfeeding, and exhausted.

This time I feel completely different. But I'm only a week PP, so it might be coming still. ((Hugs)) to all who need them!

[mishka29]

Yeah I was a hot mess with my first this time it's going okay but there was a meltdown the other day. DD1 came over a gave me a hug which was cute.

I recall with my first I was crying in bed and my mom had the baby. She was crying and crying and I had already fed her over and over. DH came in and asked what was wrong. I said she's crying. He said I know it's hard for you to hear that bc you're her mom. I said, no it's not that, I just want her to shut the fuck up. DH said, well let's not tell anybody that. Haha it's funny now...

[misshart00]

I haven't hit the wall yet but I know it's coming. I'm thankful I'll be able to come back to this thread.

[toadandbuggie]

I think once H goes back to work and visitors stop flowing in I will have some major emotional spikes. I'n betting my future self will be glad thread was created.

[kricha2010]

To all of you struggling right now...
Just be careful that you don't get stuck inside yourself. Talking helps.
I was a mess with DS. I think i was right on the edge of PPD. I always would wonder what it would take for someone to figure it out and help me. But i never asked. I'm worried this time, but i also have a little knowledge on my side of what's to come and what i need to do to get through it when it happens again.
Your doctor's addres there to help you through that too. Even the pediatrician can give you advice. Just remember to ask for help.

[miniwheat]

I am starting to feel the blues come on a bit today. Mostly when I think about my older child and how much life is changing for her. I am having a lot of guilt for totally disrupting her routine and her "normal". I worry she will start to feel differently about me... as silly as that is.

I had a hard time after she was born as well. Its normal but its such a hard few weeks. I am glad for this thread as well!

[allonsy221b]

I remember with my first, she was like two weeks old, and I was up at 1 am BFing her in he rocking chair in her room, and she wouldn't latch right, and she wouldn't stop crying because she was hungry and nothing I was trying was working and I just lost my shit. I started crying and ran into the bedroom and handed her to DH who was sound asleep and locked myself in the bathroom for like an hour and just cried. It gets so frustrating some nights, and you feel alone and helpless and like it will never stop. But it does get better!

It helped a lot when I could talk to someone, so don't hesitate to reach out because EVERY mom has been there. Vent as much as you need to, we're all here for each other

[firelizard8367]

I have been feeling quick to tears, mostly when I haven't napped yet/enough. The weird things I want to cry about are bonding activities. Like I really want to sing to him or read him a book, but just thinking about it puts me on the verge of tears. I tried just humming to him and the waterworks started!

[allonsy221b]

Feb 7, 2015 18:22:56 GMT -5 firelizard8367 said:

I have been feeling quick to tears, mostly when I haven't napped yet/enough. The weird things I want to cry about are bonding activities. L8ke I really want to sing to him or read him a book, but just thinking about it puts me on the verge of tears. I tried just humming to him and the waterworks started!

I have a 2 year old and still do this with certain songs, activities. It's like you've been waiting all this time to do these things with them and suddenly here they are and you can do them, it's surreal! She came up to me the other day and laid her head on my shoulder and said "I love you sooooooo much" and I lost it, then she went and got me a tissue hahaha.

[abb1701]

Feb 7, 2015 18:22:56 GMT -5 firelizard8367 said:

I have been feeling quick to tears, mostly when I haven't napped yet/enough. The weird things I want to cry about are bonding activities. Like I really want to sing to him or read him a book, but just thinking about it puts me on the verge of tears. I tried just humming to him and the waterworks started!

It seems like every time I lay down to sleep my mind kicks into overdrive and I get weepy. I have to force myself to think about something other than my LO or else cue the water works. If I don't I'd never get any sleep eventhough I'm exhausted.

[flyster]

I think this is a great idea for a thread. I'm 5 days PP and its good to hear timeframes/things to expect. So far I've been pretty good emotion wise, but suspect things will be alot harder next week when DH goes back to work.

[trin42]

I'm 10 days PP and experienced intense crying the first days home (days 3-5 I think). I felt so guilty for having a baby and therefore taking time away from DS.

Getting in as many snuggles with him really helps keep me in check.

[nomnomasaur0426]

Add me to the uncontrollable sobbing group. DH was a bit of a dick about it last night until he realized I really couldn't stop. I really hope this goes away in a few days

[cls78]

Yep!!! They are real especially the first week. I cried, because I missed being pregnant, when I left the hospital, and several times in the shower the first week. Not usually a crier like that, but there was a huge wave emotions that hit me all at once.

[misshart00]

I think I'm starting to hit a wall. I suddenly realized I have to do this all on my own on Tuesday because H goes back to work. And kiddo wants to nurse every hour. I've started crying today.

And my MIL being here is just not helping things. I got mad today because she keeps buying stuff for our house and I feel like she's saying I'm not good enough or I don't keep my house clean enough etc.

[mishka29]

I remembered another one... With DD1 i woke up in the morning one day and realized DH was gone bc he had to go back to work. It was my first day alone. I started crying and was so mad at DH for leaving me alone with my little monster that only wanted to eat, barely slept and cried a lot. I laughed about it later.

[misshart00]

I think DD officially hates me. She screamed when daddy asked her to give me a kiss before bed. She just really hates seeing me hold the baby and won't hardly let me show her affection. I'm crying pretty constantly now.

[angeldcf]

Thanks for this thread. Still have inside baby, but I was a wreck PP w/DS. Tried to be supermom & too embarrassed to reach out.

[misshart00]

Feb 8, 2015 21:17:09 GMT -5 angeldcf said:

Thanks for this thread. Still have inside baby, but I was a wreck PP w/DS. Tried to be supermom & too embarrassed to reach out.

My biggest problem is I don't know how to reach out or what to say. I feel like my doctor would be more understanding and supportive than my own mom right now.

[boxerrrmama85]

@misshart-- reach out to your doctor if that is who you feel will best help you! This is tough stuff and just know that your DD is also processing this and definitely doesn't hate you or the new baby! Hang in there-- we are here

[smyers2girls]

Yep. This has been me the last two days. Today's day 9 pp. And I have been crying non stop for no reason. I really hope the hormones level out soon.

[RedGiant]

Lack of sleep really affects my mood. DD had been an amazing sleeper at night until last night. I ended up getting only one stretch of 3.5 hours of sleep since DD wanted to cluster feed/eat every hour from when i headed to bed until 1 am, then get up at 4:30 to eat again and not go back to sleep until 6. I have to get up with DS at 6:30, and this was my first morning without DH or my mom to help out. (First day back at work for DH). Of course DS decided today was a good day to be defiant and not listen, and whine whenever he didn't immediately get his way.

So I ended up breaking down and crying about 3 times before 11:30 when my MIL showed up and i could get an hour nap.

But it will get better. I just have to remind myself that i felt this way when DS was little too. And it did pass.

[flyster]

Feb 7, 2015 12:12:46 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

Omg I was a horrible awful mess last weekend, 7days post partum. I could not stop crying and when I wasn't crying I was just sad.

All I can say is it got better. There were some underlying stressors that didn't help but taking to H and taking the time to cry and not hold in the emotions helped.

Exactly 7 days PP and today I was an ugly crying mess.  I wasn't able to take an afternoon nap because of family coming in and major transportation delays.  DH was working on the house and then out getting things for the bris tomorrow, so I ended up holding LO for about 5 hours straight, so I couldn't get anything done to clean up for tomorrow. DH got home from the store, and I was just bawling my eyes out.  A bit of sleep later and I'm doing better, but I can tell the hormone crash is there.  I'm just tired and bleh and my eyes feel weepy still even though that was hours ago. I really hope I can keep it together tomorrow. I know I'll cry, but I'm hoping to keep from crazy ugly crying during the ceremony.

[abb1701]

I've had a good week so far, but I know this weekend will be challenging. As I said in my spam we are leaving tomorrow to drive to Orlando from Atlanta and we are coming back on Tuesday. DH is staying here and I miss him already. My mom is great but no one is more supportive than my husband. Hopefully I can keep it together and find us a place to live so we can move and I can have more things to stress about.

[firelizard8367]

Adding new issues to my list. Between my mom and DH, I feel constantly prodded from opposite sides of a point. One minute I am "doing a great job with the mom thing" and the next they'll say something to make me feel crappy. Or I "need to go lay down", but the next time, I'm just fat and lazy. Now, these are never their exact words, but it's totally how it pops into my brain after processing through my hormone filter. Today after an argument, DH really wore on my last nerve and I flipped and stormed off to ugly cry it out. He finally came sulking in and I told him about all this and how recovering from a c-section and breastfeeding were not helping me feel better faster. I think he gets it, or I at least scared him into being really nice to me for a while now...