I have been real weepy and crying a lot too. DH has been a jerk too. I hate to be one of "those" ladies, but its hard to talk to DH without going BSC and crying. It's also hard to distinguish what is worth crying about. Writing this makes me want to cry.
Everyone talks about how hard L&D is but post partum is just as hard (physically and emotionally).
My hormones are in chaos status right now. Everything makes me want to cry these days. I have felt overly sad but, I am overwhelmed with everyday, especially the nighttime routine. Trying to find a place for LO to actually fall asleep besides my chest.
I had an ugly cry over the weekend. DH kinda make a snarky comment and I just started balling my eyes out. He came running in and finally realized that he needs to chill on certain things. He does not get to take any time off due. So, I have been the only one taking care of Hank. I think it has finally clicked that I am a little fragile right now. He's totally open with me and wants to know immediately if I am getting depressed. Thank goodness he is being understanding.
I don't know if this falls into the "baby blues" category but I have been very short with my husband. This being his first baby and my third, I get super irritated when he doesn't do something right. I know it's wrong-he's trying SO hard but it's like I have a world of patience for our daughter but absolutely none to spare for him. I think because he wanted a child so badly and now is feeling overwhelmed (FYI he gets at least 8 hours sleep at night-I feed, change, bath and am responsible for 95% of her care and have been for the entire week she's been here) and I get pissed that he says he's tired or tells people that having a newborn is difficult. Really? It's a fucking cake-walk for him!
He did get put in his place when he returned to work on Tuesday and everyone told him how lucky he was that the only change he was "suffering" from was the absence of home-cooked meals...
Post by boxerrrmama85 on Feb 12, 2015 12:17:03 GMT -5
Today is getting the best of me. I started pumping which is my signal that I need to get Charlotte ready for when I go back to work and today I can't STAND the idea of her being cared for by anyone but myself! Also, fuck 6 wks of maternity leave-- fucking backwards ass country!!! 6 weeks doesn't even give me enough time to figure this out! Charlotte has been crying for the past hour and the only thing that worked was to give her a pacifier. I need my husband to get a set schedule at work-- waiting each week to see when I will actually get to spend time with him is wearing on me. I also need him to finish our "newborn" photos (she is 3wks today) so I can send out our announcement! Ugh-- when all else fails, take a nap... Let's see if that helps!
My hormones are in chaos status right now. Everything makes me want to cry these days. I have felt overly sad but, I am overwhelmed with everyday, especially the nighttime routine. Trying to find a place for LO to actually fall asleep besides my chest.
I had an ugly cry over the weekend. DH kinda make a snarky comment and I just started balling my eyes out. He came running in and finally realized that he needs to chill on certain things. He does not get to take any time off due. So, I have been the only one taking care of Hank. I think it has finally clicked that I am a little fragile right now. He's totally open with me and wants to know immediately if I am getting depressed. Thank goodness he is being understanding.
I'm also having a really hard time with the nighttime too. As the sun goes down, I can actually feel my anxiety get worse and worse. This mom thing is HARD- crying feels necessary to get through some moments! If you've only had one meltdown, I think you're doing amazingly! I'm on like an hourly meltdown schedule!
Post by thesquirrelsrwatchin on Feb 12, 2015 14:20:02 GMT -5
DS is still an inside baby, and I've already cried uncontrollably a few times. Just the other night I was overtired and cranky (the after-hours nurse was rude -- I thought I had a bloody show but it turns out that internal exams are more likely to produce spotting the softer you get. Who knew?). DH knew I wanted to go to bed as soon as we got home from our baby care class at 9pm. Instead, he wound up asking me a thousand questions about daycare and said I lied to him about there not being anything in our price range (the website he was on had the prices wrong...). I cried until I threw up. DH finally realized he needed to calm me down and put me to bed.
I think I'm really going to need this thread post partum...
DH has been really really awesome overall, but I think he forgets that I'm still in recovery also. Physically I'm feeling really good, but he has still been sleeping more then me which makes me cranky especially if he sounds whiny about staying up with baby (he goes back to work Monday at which point I'm fine with him getting lots more sleep). Common, I'm the one still healing, and working to make food! Thats been pretty much my only complaint. I think melting down the other day kindof helped a bit remind him that we need to make sure I'm ok too.
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Post by izzy0927 on Feb 12, 2015 18:28:15 GMT -5
Have you guys found that anxiety after delivery is a normal thing? I'm only 4 days in, and finding that every little thing is scaring me. First the feeding/weight loss issues for baby, formula vs breastmilk- but I mean EVERYTHING. Is he sleeping too much? Why does his nose feel cold? Is he breathing? Does he have enough wet diapers? Too many poopy diapers?
Is this normal baby blues? Does it go away? I'm just so terrified of something going wrong. I've spent years dreaming of this baby and now that he's here I'm just terrified all the time. I'm nauseous, have trouble sleeping... I'm a wreck. I'm sure I'm also overtired which isn't helping, but I feel like I'm losing my mind!i just don't want to be left alone with the baby- not because I'm scared I'll hurt him or anything like that, but because I have no mommy confidence. Am I the only train wreck?
Have you guys found that anxiety after delivery is a normal thing? I'm only 4 days in, and finding that every little thing is scaring me. First the feeding/weight loss issues for baby, formula vs breastmilk- but I mean EVERYTHING. Is he sleeping too much? Why does his nose feel cold? Is he breathing? Does he have enough wet diapers? Too many poopy diapers?
Is this normal baby blues? Does it go away? I'm just so terrified of something going wrong. I've spent years dreaming of this baby and now that he's here I'm just terrified all the time. I'm nauseous, have trouble sleeping... I'm a wreck. I'm sure I'm also overtired which isn't helping, but I feel like I'm losing my mind!i just don't want to be left alone with the baby- not because I'm scared I'll hurt him or anything like that, but because I have no mommy confidence. Am I the only train wreck?
This happened with my first. And some now. It's extremely hard to let go. But it does get better.
Post by boxerrrmama85 on Feb 12, 2015 19:06:04 GMT -5
izzy0927 please know you are not alone. I am right there with you analyzing every breath this child takes. For some reason, it seems to be intensifying for me -- I think it really has to do with being holed up at home, my husband is working stupid hours lately that are not consistent, and I have this looming feeling about going back to work deep breaths...
izzy0927 please know you are not alone. I am right there with you analyzing every breath this child takes. For some reason, it seems to be intensifying for me -- I think it really has to do with being holed up at home, my husband is working stupid hours lately that are not consistent, and I have this looming feeling about going back to work deep breaths...
Love tit not because you're struggling, but for support. Have you looked into any moms groups or anything? I think getting out of the house will be helpful, but between flu season and all this snow, it's hard. How long do you have until you go back to work?
Post by mommadozer on Feb 12, 2015 23:08:04 GMT -5
izzy0927 I am right there with ya!!!! LO is 3 weeks old and I am just starting to relax a bit. Many moms have told me that your instinct will pick up on things that don't seem right.
So glad, we have all of us ladies together on here. These are definitely the times where fellow mothers are key to keeping our own sanity and knowing that we are not alone.
Post by kerrigrooves on Feb 12, 2015 23:22:53 GMT -5
Im with you all too, cried a couple of times today from struggling with breastfeeding supply, recovering from a c-sec and pure exhaustion. I look at my 2 yr old and cry bc I cant pick her up and have to tell her over and over again that she cant crawl/jump on me. Then I think about DH going back to work and how on earth am I going to do this!?
I know this will pass and Im trying to stay positive but failing at a vbac and keeping up with pain meds are just taking their toll
It does help to cry but DH is tired too and doesnt get it.
Post by kerrigrooves on Feb 12, 2015 23:33:36 GMT -5
Im with you all too, cried a couple of times today from struggling with breastfeeding supply, recovering from a c-sec and pure exhaustion. I look at my 2 yr old and cry bc I cant pick her up and have to tell her over and over again that she cant crawl/jump on me. Then I think about DH going back to work and how on earth am I going to do this!?
I know this will pass and Im trying to stay positive but failing at a vbac and keeping up with pain meds are just taking their toll
It does help to cry but DH is tired too and doesnt get it.
My pediatrician's office has me fill out a survey for pp depression and monitors it over 6 months (I think). You see them so often with all those newborn visits; while you don't see your OB for 6 wks. So anyone who needs to, I'm sure you can talk to them for help or advice. Hang in there mommas. Newborns are hard.
Im with you all too, cried a couple of times today from struggling with breastfeeding supply, recovering from a c-sec and pure exhaustion. I look at my 2 yr old and cry bc I cant pick her up and have to tell her over and over again that she cant crawl/jump on me. Then I think about DH going back to work and how on earth am I going to do this!?
I know this will pass and Im trying to stay positive but failing at a vbac and keeping up with pain meds are just taking their toll
It does help to cry but DH is tired too and doesnt get it.
I understand how you feel and I only have one child. Breastfeeding has been the toughest thing for me. I didn't really know anything about breastfeeding or that "on-demand" meant let them eat as long as they want, not whenever they want (my kid likes to sleep). It's the it takes 2 hours to feed him and since it takes 2 hours to digest the milk, there's not that much time for the milk to sit in his stomach. I've been crying about breastfeeding since day one.
Post by allonsy221b on Feb 24, 2015 20:52:47 GMT -5
I had lo Sunday and last night had a complete breakdown after h left to take care of dd. Then today when he left I started crying again. Can't wait to get myself back together
You hear a lot about PPD, but post partum anxiety is also a very real and serious thing. If you are truly anxious about everything mention it to your pediatrician/ ob. And today naturally settle down on its own, but often can require outside help to get under control. Some anxiety and even sad thoughts are normal hit if it is controlling your every waking thought seek help.
I'm 10 days PP and experienced intense crying the first days home (days 3-5 I think). I felt so guilty for having a baby and therefore taking time away from DS.
Getting in as many snuggles with him really helps keep me in check.
This was me exactly. The first week home was incredibly difficult for me. DS wanted me to hold him but because of my csection I couldn't pick him up. I'm feeling better now being 2 weeks PP but the initial week was so hard. I felt like I cries all day.
Post by toadandbuggie on Feb 26, 2015 10:13:31 GMT -5
I am feeling so much anxiety that I can't even sleep when LO graces me with a good nap during the day. At night time he has been crying every 1/2 hour and won't stop unless I pick him up and walk around with him. I cried at his hands for the first time last night and caved and woke up to H to take him so I could just lay down. I felt really awful because he wakes up at 4am to go to work and be sleep deprived while I at least can be home.
I feel guilty for not having the motivation to keep the house cleaner and that I'm physically so exhausted from being home with a newborn by myself for 13 hours every day. Even when H comes home, he has stuff he needs to do so it's not like I'm "off duty."
Man, this shit is hard. I'm planning on discussing my terrible anxiety with my OB at my 6 week check up in a few days.
Hugs to everyone. I feel like a failure when LO does not latch to my right breast and I have to use a nipple shield. He likes to nurse on one breast and I had been giving him the option of a pumped bottle afterwards if he couldn't latch on the other but was still hungry. Doctor told me to stop with the bottles to motivate him more and he now cannot get on my right breast. I don't know what is right and cried my eyes out last night about knowing nothing and feeling absolutely alone even with my husband here.
I am feeling so much anxiety that I can't even sleep when LO graces me with a good nap during the day. At night time he has been crying every 1/2 hour and won't stop unless I pick him up and walk around with him. I cried at his hands for the first time last night and caved and woke up to H to take him so I could just lay down. I felt really awful because he wakes up at 4am to go to work and be sleep deprived while I at least can be home.
I feel guilty for not having the motivation to keep the house cleaner and that I'm physically so exhausted from being home with a newborn by myself for 13 hours every day. Even when H comes home, he has stuff he needs to do so it's not like I'm "off duty."
Man, this shit is hard. I'm planning on discussing my terrible anxiety with my OB at my 6 week check up in a few days.
Hugs momma newborns are tough. I have cried many a times a day felt like a failure as a mom because I can't handle the sleep deprivation. I also feel guilty about asking H for help since he works but I had to for my sanity and he is happy to help.
It will get better! And I am glad you are going to talk to your Dr. Pediatricians are also trained to help mom's with PPD and PPA so don't be afraid to bring it up with them.
I told my mom some people have to forget their labor to have another child I have to forget the newborn stage.
I am feeling so much anxiety that I can't even sleep when LO graces me with a good nap during the day. At night time he has been crying every 1/2 hour and won't stop unless I pick him up and walk around with him. I cried at his hands for the first time last night and caved and woke up to H to take him so I could just lay down. I felt really awful because he wakes up at 4am to go to work and be sleep deprived while I at least can be home.
I feel guilty for not having the motivation to keep the house cleaner and that I'm physically so exhausted from being home with a newborn by myself for 13 hours every day. Even when H comes home, he has stuff he needs to do so it's not like I'm "off duty."
Man, this shit is hard. I'm planning on discussing my terrible anxiety with my OB at my 6 week check up in a few days.
Hugs momma newborns are tough. I have cried many a times a day felt like a failure as a mom because I can't handle the sleep deprivation. I also feel guilty about asking H for help since he works but I had to for my sanity and he is happy to help.
It will get better! And I am glad you are going to talk to your Dr. Pediatricians are also trained to help mom's with PPD and PPA so don't be afraid to bring it up with them.
I told my mom some people have to forget their labor to have another child I have to forget the newborn stage.
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