Post by tjr42px on Feb 7, 2015 12:16:22 GMT -5
I'm not even sure what I would call it, but this isn't the first time...Unreliable, easily overwhelmed, unable...
I was off from work this past week and will be home this upcoming week as well. I dropped LO off at school yesterday and he had a stack of art work in his cubby from the few days he missed while MW and kids were visiting family. His teacher pulled all the papers out and then hesitated. She then asked "do you want me to keep these and give them to your wife?" Lol! What? Every time something like this happens I really question what the expectations for a father are.
For the record, the construction paper mittens and summer themed snowmen arrived home safe and sound. They are pretty awesome by the way.
When I used to stay home with LO I'd take him to the park, jog with him, go to the grocery store, etc. I would observe a million and one smiles, very friendly people holding doors, offering to carry bags, etc. but I didn't see similar reactions toward mothers unless they had two kids. Like...oh she's got this...he's going above and beyond and could use help.
I feel this does two things (probably more):
1) it minimizes my role as dad. I'm perfectly capable of a grocery run with a kiddo in a carrier just like all the mothers out there. Are we not all caregivers?
And
2) it drastically minimizes all the hard work of the mommies out there. Shouldn't we offer anyone some help in opening a door or carrying a bag if they could use it? Why a dad, but not a mom?
I'll dig out a blog post a buddy of mine wrote not too long ago on the subject. I couldn't agree with him more. I feel a way about interactions that seem to suggest that doing what a parent does (if you're a man) is going above and beyond. Being a parent requires going above and beyond everyday. It's an insane amount of work even if you have a ridiculous amount of help. I say hold that door for the person, not for the gender!
I was off from work this past week and will be home this upcoming week as well. I dropped LO off at school yesterday and he had a stack of art work in his cubby from the few days he missed while MW and kids were visiting family. His teacher pulled all the papers out and then hesitated. She then asked "do you want me to keep these and give them to your wife?" Lol! What? Every time something like this happens I really question what the expectations for a father are.
For the record, the construction paper mittens and summer themed snowmen arrived home safe and sound. They are pretty awesome by the way.
When I used to stay home with LO I'd take him to the park, jog with him, go to the grocery store, etc. I would observe a million and one smiles, very friendly people holding doors, offering to carry bags, etc. but I didn't see similar reactions toward mothers unless they had two kids. Like...oh she's got this...he's going above and beyond and could use help.
I feel this does two things (probably more):
1) it minimizes my role as dad. I'm perfectly capable of a grocery run with a kiddo in a carrier just like all the mothers out there. Are we not all caregivers?
And
2) it drastically minimizes all the hard work of the mommies out there. Shouldn't we offer anyone some help in opening a door or carrying a bag if they could use it? Why a dad, but not a mom?
I'll dig out a blog post a buddy of mine wrote not too long ago on the subject. I couldn't agree with him more. I feel a way about interactions that seem to suggest that doing what a parent does (if you're a man) is going above and beyond. Being a parent requires going above and beyond everyday. It's an insane amount of work even if you have a ridiculous amount of help. I say hold that door for the person, not for the gender!