It's Friyay! Randoms

[packerfan4life]

Good luck today txmommy14! Last weekend in May, June will be here before we know it!

[GOmamab15]

Great minds, packerfan4life! I just started a randoms thread too. I'll change mine. Maybe we need a FFCF thread today?

[packerfan4life]

May 27, 2016 6:57:52 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

Great minds, packerfan4life! I just started a randoms thread too. I'll change mine. Maybe we need a FFCF thread today?

Haha twins! sounds good to me!

[GOmamab15]

Ok here's where I talk about my cluster feelings and end of pregnancy anxiety.

I've been up worrying most of the night & gave up and got out of bed at 4:45, now I'm dreading facing the kitchen because I'm afraid I'm out of coffee. This would be a little too much for me today.

Why are things so hard?

On a more positive note, I'm loving all the new mama talk and love going around on the board!!! So great to see all the support.

[mladerri]

I got a cervical sweep yesterday and felt really crappy yesterday but no contractions. Feeling much better today. Ds doesn't have school all week next week so I have to get as much done as possible today in the 4 hours while he's gone. Happy Friday everyone!

[broadwaymama]

Woke up to another TERRIBLE charlie horse. Usually DH will massage it out for me so I don't tense too much and make it worse but he was on the sofa because DD "bed hog" took over our bed last night. I tried to yell for him but wasn't loud enough for him to hear me.
We went to my BFFs father in laws funeral yesterday. So sad but nice to see people I probably won't see until after the baby.

[cattuccino]

I'm getting grumpy and impatient. A lot like some of you mamas yesterday, except I'm 39+5 so literally *any* day.

It doesn't help that FAMILY keeps asking for news. At this rate I want to have the baby and not tell anyone, since they seem to think that's something I'd do in the first place.

Also, tmi warning, I don't recall losing my plug with DD.....but this thing is never ending. I think it's a result from my sweep on Tuesday but I wish it actually moved things along.
With my plans/hopes for a VBAC I can't get medically induced, so I'm just worried about what's going to happen, especially when my OB is also going on vacation June 2.

[shoogars]

The girls decided 5:45 am would be a great wake up time this morning. I am already in the grumpy/troll camp and this is just going to add to it.

cattuccino I'm with you on the any day now, and family hounding us. I'm also tired of not being able to make plans because I don't know if I will have a newborn, be in the hospital or still pregnant. My nephew has a graduation party tomorrow and I would really like to not go...I just don't want to hear all the, "you're still pregnant; you look tired; how do you feel" comments. But I know DH will be disappointed if I don't go without a newborn excuse.

I think I will now the lawn later in hopes that it will spur on some contractions. This will be the second mowing this week...we've had a lot of rain.

[babyzebra]

TMI about nausea/vomiting below


Why do I feel so nauseated? I almost lost it on the way to dropping DS off to daycare. Luckily, I had a snack in my bag and started eating it while I put the AC on full blast on my face. Then, a patient totally threw up on me this morning. Why is this happening to me??

[manybellsdown]

cattuccino I felt the same way about people asking me last time, even very well-meaning family! I ignored texts for hours and did not answer the phone. I seriously wanted to shut down and just not tell anyone. I thought I was totally abnormal, ha.

I really hope you get your VBAC.

[manybellsdown]

babyzebra, nausea compounded by a vomiting patient?!?! I am so, so sorry.

[packerfan4life]

((Hugs)) babyzebra the last few weeks I've been getting car sick. Just nausea so far and no vomiting. But happens both when I drive or when I'm a passenger. I've NEVER had issues with motion sickness before so it's very strange

[manybellsdown]

I'm at an appointment. Sitting here with my pants off, going on a fairly long time. I should have canceled, as literally nothing has happened in the past week.

[Flair Underwood]

packerfan4life, i always get carsick before my period - something about the increased body fluid. I'm sure that's it for you right now... ALSO, something to keep in your head, I always, always, always get carsick when my vision starts to change (i've worn glasses for 25 years), so I wonder if the excess fluid in your body is affecting pressure in your eyes and your vision. Vision changes in pregnancy (and after) are SUPER common.

Either way - motion sickness is such a horrible feeling. Sorry you're dealing with it.

[Flair Underwood]

I am so so so so so so tired of people asking questions about my cervix. It's 75% of the time veiled, "So, what did they say about your progress at your last check up?" "anything happening yet?" ... but just the one time a coworker actually asked if I was dilated yet.

I AM NOT TELLING YOU ABOUT MY CERVIX.

[packerfan4life]

May 27, 2016 9:26:14 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

I am so so so so so so tired of people asking questions about my cervix. It's 75% of the time veiled, "So, what did they say about your progress at your last check up?" "anything happening yet?" ... but just the one time a coworker actually asked if I was dilated yet.

I AM NOT TELLING YOU ABOUT MY CERVIX.

My MIL asked my H this. No woman you are not getting updates about my cervix. Ever. I will tell you when the baby is out.

Although equally annoying are the people telling me I *can't* go into labor yet or until x. I'm over 37 weeks this baby can come out whenever s/he wants. And let me please stuff a bowling ball down your throat.

[Flair Underwood]

May 27, 2016 9:44:07 GMT -5 packerfan4life said:

May 27, 2016 9:26:14 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

I am so so so so so so tired of people asking questions about my cervix. It's 75% of the time veiled, "So, what did they say about your progress at your last check up?" "anything happening yet?" ... but just the one time a coworker actually asked if I was dilated yet.

I AM NOT TELLING YOU ABOUT MY CERVIX.

My MIL asked my H this. No woman you are not getting updates about my cervix. Ever. I will tell you when the baby is out.

Although equally annoying are the people telling me I *can't* go into labor yet or until x. I'm over 37 weeks this baby can come out whenever s/he wants. And let me please stuff a bowling ball down your throat.

I also find I'm irritated by this conversation:

Other person:  When is your due date?
Me: June 12
Other Person: Oh, my birthday/son's/daughter's/husband's/dog's birthday is ANY DATE BETWEEN JUNE 1 AND 30... So you could have him that day.  That would be nice.  

Just, shut up.

[csat]

Morning, just another Friday here. I really hope the long weekend will mean a quiet work day. I'm finishing up documentation for my boss who is looking after my projects but a little annoyed that I have to do this at all as it really should have all been documented by the person I replaced who retired a couple months before I started in January. She managed these projects for 10 years and all my boss had to pass on to me were his own scribbled notes which he doesn't seem to be able to follow.

I just checked and I've gained the exact same amount of weight to the pound as I did with DS at 39 weeks (even though I started out at different weights). Weird.

I'm so hesitant to get my hopes up but with my due date next Saturday I really hope this is my last Friday being pregnant (and hope the same for everyone else who is due over the next week!)

[csat]

May 27, 2016 9:58:50 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

May 27, 2016 9:44:07 GMT -5 packerfan4life said:

I also find I'm irritated by this conversation:

Other person:  When is your due date?
Me: June 12
Other Person: Oh, my birthday/son's/daughter's/husband's/dog's birthday is ANY DATE BETWEEN JUNE 1 AND 30... So you could have him that day.  That would be nice.  

Just, shut up.

Oh yes, I don't know why it's so irritating but it is.  Someone recently asked me my due date and then said 'Oh my daughter is June 11'. I asked how she was doing thinking she meant her daughter was pregnant and due on the 11th and she replied 'Oh she's fine, she's 12'.  Oops. 

Edit for clarity: I don't know this person closely or that they have a 12 year old!

[manybellsdown]

May 27, 2016 9:58:50 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

May 27, 2016 9:44:07 GMT -5 packerfan4life said:

My MIL asked my H this. No woman you are not getting updates about my cervix. Ever. I will tell you when the baby is out.

Although equally annoying are the people telling me I *can't* go into labor yet or until x. I'm over 37 weeks this baby can come out whenever s/he wants. And let me please stuff a bowling ball down your throat.

I also find I'm irritated by this conversation:

Other person:  When is your due date?
Me: June 12
Other Person: Oh, my birthday/son's/daughter's/husband's/dog's birthday is ANY DATE BETWEEN JUNE 1 AND 30... So you could have him that day.  That would be nice.  

Just, shut up.

I get this all the time! I don't care about your June birthdays!

Also, in-laws yesterday both told me, separately, that I HAD to wait to have the baby until they get back from their vacation on June 9. Um, I have no control over this. You do have total control of when you take vacations. I just can't.

[pbandj714]

Oh no, babyzebra! So sorry about the motion sickness and barfing patient. Ugh, vomit is still one of my worst fears. I know having kids will make me face that fear, but I'm just not ready.

[frecklesnbrains]

We just had our first pedi appointment and my little peanut has gained 2oz since discharge! I'm so happy! It makes the fact that I've only slept like 2 hours in 2 days totally worth it.

Also, I want to commiserate with you nauseous ladies. For me the nausea and appetite loss after about 34 weeks was much worse than it was first trimester.

[broadwaymama]

May 27, 2016 9:26:14 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

I am so so so so so so tired of people asking questions about my cervix. It's 75% of the time veiled, "So, what did they say about your progress at your last check up?" "anything happening yet?" ... but just the one time a coworker actually asked if I was dilated yet.

I AM NOT TELLING YOU ABOUT MY CERVIX.

This weeks appointment and next weeks appointment also include a meeting with moms all due the same time. The practice I go to is all about making birth a more intimate/private thing. One of the things they said to us was "it's incredibly rude for anyone to ask you how dilated you are, unless you are offering up that information. If you are uncomfortable about talking about this your response should be...do you know what your asking me? How open is your vagina?" I thought this was great!
They also said they recommend not telling anyone (aside from your support people) you are in labor until it's just about time to push. The part of your brain that helps you progress through labor can go into overdrive when it feels pressure to perform, and you shouldn't feel like you have a bunch of people waiting on you. It can potentially slow things down! I thought this was all very interesting.

[microworm]

broadwaymama I guess science is on my side then. I don't want anyone to know I am in labor. I just want to let them know the baby is here. But my parents will need to take care of DS and my ILs need to get our dog so they will have to know. But absofuckinglutely NO people in the waiting room. It gives me anxiety thinking about that.

[broadwaymama]

microworm we are sort of in the same boat. I need people to watch my children so unfortunately we have to tell some people. I also don't want my phone or DHs blowing up. But of course I will message you updates!

[cattuccino]

..I'm with everyone and people asking about my cervix.

My MIL doesn't even ask how I'm feeling or how I am, don't ask "anything happening down there?".

[Flair Underwood]

May 27, 2016 11:50:28 GMT -5 microworm said:

broadwaymama I guess science is on my side then. I don't want anyone to know I am in labor. I just want to let them know the baby is here. But my parents will need to take care of DS and my ILs need to get our dog so they will have to know. But absofuckinglutely NO people in the waiting room. It gives me anxiety thinking about that.

Preach, sister.  I love that your parents are taking your LO and your in-laws are taking the dog.  That's my life too....  Do you ever get grief from your in-laws about that setup?  I know it PISSES my MIL off to no end that my parents get the kid and she gets the dogs.  When we were making plans with MIL she couldn't even say my parents names when talking about where DD would go, just the name of the city they live in... SO, "DD is going to, uh, City, then?"  Yup.

[ArgyleEnigma]

No one has inquired after my cervix. I am horrified. People are asking you this?

+1 on no one needing to know I'm in labor.

[microworm]

May 27, 2016 11:55:14 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

May 27, 2016 11:50:28 GMT -5 microworm said:

broadwaymama I guess science is on my side then. I don't want anyone to know I am in labor. I just want to let them know the baby is here. But my parents will need to take care of DS and my ILs need to get our dog so they will have to know. But absofuckinglutely NO people in the waiting room. It gives me anxiety thinking about that.

Preach, sister.  I love that your parents are taking your LO and your in-laws are taking the dog.  That's my life too....  Do you ever get grief from your in-laws about that setup?  I know it PISSES my MIL off to no end that my parents get the kid and she gets the dogs.  When we were making plans with MIL she couldn't even say my parents names when talking about where DD would go, just the name of the city they live in... SO, "DD is going to, uh, City, then?"  Yup.

Your MIL sounds....special. I haven't heard any grief yet but my MIL is so chill and is just happy to help in any way. Plus my parents aren't dog people while my ILs have a dog so it just makes sense. Division of labor and all.

[microworm]

May 27, 2016 11:52:36 GMT -5 broadwaymama said:

microworm we are sort of in the same boat. I need people to watch my children so unfortunately we have to tell some people. I also don't want my phone or DHs blowing up. But of course I will message you updates!

Yes I was going to say I am going to need updates, labor buddy!