Random Depressing Question - LC Warning

[snowbigdeal]

Jun 1, 2016 20:38:15 GMT -5 cribs4life said:

I am the biggest planner on earth which really sucks when it comes to loss. When I had DS2 we named him the Anglican version of the DS1s name who was stillborn. No one seems to catch on to it since DS1s name is Gaelic.

So if I had an imaginary DS3 would it be totally inappropriate to use DS1s name as DS3s name? Or use some form of DS1s first name or middle name as a middle name if we had a girl?

I know I am way ahead of myself. We are TTC in the fall and since losing DS1 I always like to go into the process with the names in mind just in case something happens.

Feel free to tell me if this is totally inappropriate

I think the decision should be totally up to you guys and is not at all inappropriate. If it feels right to name your next child after your son that you lost, by all means do it. We gave our daughter the same middle name as our son that we lost, and have conversations about all sorts of ways we might use his first name for our next child. Personally, I don't want to use his exact name, I feel like I want it to remain his and I also think it would make it potentially emotionally more difficult for me. But that's me. I know my h had a different perspective and would like to use his name again. I think as long as you and your h are on the same page, there is no wrong decision here.

I also totally get the urge to think through names ahead of time. We aren't planning to Ttc for another year, but it helps me mentally to start thinking through names right now.

I'm also super curious about what the English/gaelic names you chose are, but I know you're private so I won't pry . But it's giving me ideas for our next baby!

Also this post is not remotely depressing. Bittersweet, perhaps, but not depressing.

[iheartbroccoli]

cribs4life Not at all depressing or inappropriate. Hugs

I plan on using Theodore's name in some way when we have future kids. If we have a boy, I'll most likely give him Theodore as a middle name. If we have a girl, I'll probably give her Theodora as a middle name. MH's not a fan of Theodora as a middle name, so that will take some convincing. Lol. For me, I like the idea of my future kids having this connection to their brother and his name being passed down.

[wrenofthesea]

I don't think it is inappropriate. There was an article about a local couple that had three daughters- the first was stillborn and they chose to have all three girls have the same middle name. Along those lines my grandmother's first name is the middle name of her oldest sister who was stillborn. So, many people choose to use the name(s) of their children who have passed away, or some have a theme or variation of it. Even people who have all their children here on Earth and in their arms often have similar names or themes or whatever, so it is not unheard of or inappropriate.



***Rainbow mentioned***
I thought I was going to do something like that when we had I. Lillian's middle name is Wren and I was either thinking of using that again or maybe that all my children would have bird middle names (since I didn't feel Wren was a boy's name). We ended up not quite going that route just because we felt that I's name fit her and the first name-bird middle name combo I originally planned just didn't seem right. Her first name is bird related (in another language), but her middle name is not. So, maybe all my children will have bird/nature related names.

[rslh10]

No matter what our next child is, their first name will be Kenley's middle name. Do what feels right to you momma

[angelsnight]

*rainbow mentioned*

I think it is very sweet. I am a big fan of choosing names that have a personal meaning behind them. My angel's middle name is after my mom who passed away, and when we found out our rainbow was a girl, we decided she would have the same middle name. So it has double meaning, she shares it with her big sister and is after her grandma.

Also totally get the planning thing. I have both first and middle names picked out for a future boy and girl....that we'll likely never have because I think I am done, but it can still be fun to think of (especially for all of us since we were robbed of much of the fun surrounding pregnancy).

[orangepickle]

Hey I'm super late to this but I constantly think of future baby names - it helps me be hopeful about future healthy babies. My son was Jack Henry, so I did ask DH what he thought about Henry Jack for #2 but he shot that down. Jack will definitely be the middle name of our next one though