Talk to me: I've committed to something and now I'm anxious
Feb 7, 2015 20:49:08 GMT -5
Post by verovladamir on Feb 7, 2015 20:49:08 GMT -5
My husband has always enjoyed role-playing games (think Dungeons & Dragons). He has recently reconnected with a group of friends that he used to play with in high school. They have invited me to play too. I'm really excited about it, as I used to play in high school (my game was D20 Modern). I like being able to create a character and build a story around it. It's awesome. This time we are playing Shadowrun and I'm really happy with the character I've created, but...
1) It's with people I don't know. Obviously DH is playing, as is one of his good friends. So that's two people I know. There are also two other people that I've been introduced to but never had a full conversation with. Then 3 people that I've never med before. All of them are men. I'm the only lady playing, and the only lady that's ever been invited to play.
2) I haven't played in forever and I'm super rusty. When I did play, it was pretty informal. There's a lot to know going into this and I'm afraid I'll embarrass my self and my husband. I know it's silly, but these guys have been doing this for like 15 years. I haven't done it in 10 years.
3) It's two Saturday nights a month. In the past DH has gone to play and I've stayed home with the kids. The mornings on his game days I would go out and do a lady day with my friends so the day was split evenly and no babysitting was required. This game goes from 9pm-1am and usually DH does dinner with a friend first, so they go out at like 6. So it basically needs overnight babysitting twice a month. That's a lot to commit to. So next Saturday is the first one and my sister will be sleeping over at our place. Which is fine. The next time (two weeks later) my in laws are letting the kids sleep over. But after that?
My social anxiety is creeping. I think that's what's bothering me most. I know it will be fun, but still.... I stress. Talk me down.
1) It's with people I don't know. Obviously DH is playing, as is one of his good friends. So that's two people I know. There are also two other people that I've been introduced to but never had a full conversation with. Then 3 people that I've never med before. All of them are men. I'm the only lady playing, and the only lady that's ever been invited to play.
2) I haven't played in forever and I'm super rusty. When I did play, it was pretty informal. There's a lot to know going into this and I'm afraid I'll embarrass my self and my husband. I know it's silly, but these guys have been doing this for like 15 years. I haven't done it in 10 years.
3) It's two Saturday nights a month. In the past DH has gone to play and I've stayed home with the kids. The mornings on his game days I would go out and do a lady day with my friends so the day was split evenly and no babysitting was required. This game goes from 9pm-1am and usually DH does dinner with a friend first, so they go out at like 6. So it basically needs overnight babysitting twice a month. That's a lot to commit to. So next Saturday is the first one and my sister will be sleeping over at our place. Which is fine. The next time (two weeks later) my in laws are letting the kids sleep over. But after that?
My social anxiety is creeping. I think that's what's bothering me most. I know it will be fun, but still.... I stress. Talk me down.
role playing games. I played with a new group a while back and the first two games I was pretty much an observer as far as my "social" level but once I figured out their quirks I was full on involved. I say go for it as if nothing else you will enjoy the time away from the kiddos doing something fun. 