Cursing problem?!

[Starbuck128]

You aren't the only one. Honestly, DH and I just call each other out. It worked for me, not so much for him.

[mpiemont]

Feb 7, 2015 21:33:23 GMT -5 @lalalady54 said:

Once you have little ears at home you will do it less frequently, once you have little ears that repeat things you will stop, it just happens, or it did for me.

This. H and I used to swear all the time- happy, sad, mad, expressive, excited, etc. Now with 2 sets of ears listening, it's really really rare.

[snapdragon]

I have no concrete advice, but I used to swear plenty and now I do almost never. It's hardest to hold it back when I'm alone and and angry (like stubbing my toe at midnight), but it's pretty easy around my kids or anyone else who I know would be disappointed in me or shocked to hear it.

If you just make a conscious effort to be more aware of it I think you'll do fine.

[shmee]

You have time to work on it! We still have our moments but are much better than we used to be

[Deleted]

I think I almost never swear IRL (unless it slips). Even in here I'll say WTH instead of WTF. I once had an English AP teacher that told me those that swear do so because they don't have better use of language and vocabulary. After that I absolutely controlled myself.

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Feb 7, 2015 22:10:48 GMT -5 alwayslastzz said:

Feb 7, 2015 22:05:57 GMT -5 @ajzmommy said:

I think I almost never swear IRL (unless it slips). Even in here I'll say WTH instead of WTF. I once had an English AP teacher that told me those that swear do so because they don't have better use of language and vocabulary. After that I absolutely controlled myself.

I can't agree with this! I swear because I feel like it adds emphasis.

Lol I definitely get that. Unfortunately my professor was an old fashioned and he didn't feel the same way. And since I looked up to him (3 degrees, known broadcaster and published author), then at that time in my life it stuck to me.

[tabH]

Feb 7, 2015 22:10:48 GMT -5 alwayslastzz said:

Feb 7, 2015 22:05:57 GMT -5 @ajzmommy said:

I think I almost never swear IRL (unless it slips). Even in here I'll say WTH instead of WTF. I once had an English AP teacher that told me those that swear do so because they don't have better use of language and vocabulary. After that I absolutely controlled myself.

I can't agree with this! I swear because I feel like it adds emphasis.

Yes, I'm with you alwayslastzz! DH used to always say "why are you so vulgar?", and this was after we got married. So I would respond with "too fucking late buddy", haha, he would just shake his head.

[jil]

I still think of myself as a potty mouth at heart, though I don't curse much these days.

I've been working with children for many years and have always been pretty good about filtering in front of them. I can only think of one time I slipped, and it was while teaching middle school when a heavy object fell and broke!

I've slipped more than once in front of my toddler though. So far she hasn't picked up on it. Once she repeated shit and I just ignored it she hasn't said it since. When I'm feeling super angry or frustrated I find taking a moment for a deep breath or two is all I need. I'm more likely to slip when in pain or shock. Most of the time I end up saying silly gibberish words or lame old fashioned phrases. It definitely gets easier.

[justmoiagain]

I swear a ton, not in front of my three year old any more though. Learned my lesson after he started saying JC for a short while, it was during Christmas holidays to boot. I am my worst in the car and c**ksucker comes out a lot, so I am thankful for the JC over what could have been!

I spell swears to my DH (not at him!) to emphasize points in front of DS.

As an aside, my DH gave me the book "Go the fuck to sleep" still makes me giggle when I pull it out~~~

ajzmommy - my dad is in his 80's now and I never have heard him curse, he also believed that to do so reflected your level of inteigience inteligance intaligence how smart you were. Something I completely disagree with~~~

[smilz4782]

DH keeps telling me I need to stop the f bombs... In front of DD at least. Omg it's so hard.
I have a terrible language problem. I can control it in front of my mom so I know I can!!

[queenrichie]

Both me and my DH never swear. It's just out of my character and sounds really awkward even if I do swear. My parents never swore in front of me and I never picked it up.
Even though my DH doesn't swear anymore, his family is the worst for swearing and talking about inappropriate things (especially my Mother in Law). My DH tries to tell her to stop even in front of our nephews and nieces, but then she will just swear more. Baby will need to wear earmuffs when we go visit them!! Oh well, kids will hear it eventually from somewhere.

[saltyh2O]

I tend to give a little too much air time to "hell" and "damn" lately but am pretty good about steering clear of the big daddies......so I'm more in the diet cursing category I guess. I swear it depends more on who DH and I are spending our time with as to how loose we are with the Fbombs and what not.....we rarely ever curse at home or with each other and DS, but send us away on a weekend with certain friends and we verbally assimilate too fast!

It's something I'm trying to work on both because I don't find it to sound very professional or appropriate at work, and I know PLENTY of words that I could use instead without losing the emphasis (though sometimes a well placed F is the icing on the tirade cake, don't you think?).

I'm a work in progress on this one.....and lots lots of other things too.

[seventythree]

Feb 7, 2015 21:26:46 GMT -5 @gfj48 said:

DH & I swear a lot. Me more so than him. I should probably try to stop but meh...oh well!

This, exactly.

There is a lot of choice vocabulary in this house, I know we'll have to clean it up eventually but I figure there is time. Like others have said, I think it will help once there are little ears listening, especially if it gets to the point where they are repeating things.

[stargazerlily]

Just being more conscious of it will help. I decreased my swearing significantly in college because I knew I wanted to work with kids. I am at the point where the only times I curse are if I get unexpectedly hurt (e.g. something heavy falls on my foot). I might have to implement a swear jar for 19 year old DD...

[veganontuesdays]

Fuck is my favorite word. I don't know when it started but now I can't stop! It's definitely something I need to work on because I want my kid's first word to be something cute like puppy not "fucking mother fucker".

[sarahdawn]

I have a pretty filthy mouth at times but I'm good at turning it on and off.

[ellabb043]

DH is a Marine so he curses up a storm and some of the most colorful, weird terms I have ever heard in my life. However, I curse some too but neither one of us has ever done it or slipped up in front of our DD who is 7.
It's odd that when you have kids you almost become someone with multiple personalities ...

[morenajuliet]

Swearing bothers me the older I get and the longer I'm in my profession. I do slip at home because I do feel it adds emphasis but I don't like it. I don't like hearing it either so why I do it sometimes is beyond me. It's a hard habit to break, especially if friends/family swear.

[psmomma718]

I had this problem to some extent. I tried to be more conscious of it when we had DD. I also would spell things out when I wouldn't want her to hear a word. Although this doesn't work so well now that she is learning to spell/read.

[Poppy]

H has the foulest mouth. Sometimes it doesn't bother me but there are other times when I feel like he sounds like the most uneducated trash. He doesn't care how he sounds and thinks he's an adult and can use whatever language he wants. It's so much worse than it used to be. I keep reminding him the baby can hear him now but that doesn't seem to make much of a difference. :/ his dad never swore in front of the kids so I'm hoping that's the road he takes once baby is here.

[NariaDreaming]

I work in a religious work environment, so I'm pretty good at turning my motherfucking language filter on and back the fuck off.

DH on the other hand has managed to drop the F-bomb in the middle of Disney World


We're going to have to work on that one

[maggiet19]

Since high school, my language has gone in cycles from being completely clean to totally vulgar. I have cleaned up my language considerably over the past 6 years but still slip up occasionally. As for DH, he is military and vulgarity is commonplace. He does not even realize he is cursing.

I tend to spell out curse words...D-A-M-N or S-H-I-T seem to be my favorite. I guess I do it more frequent than I care to admit because just recently, DD said "well D-A-M-N!" I will at least say I am happy that she used it in the right context.

[rocksforludo]

I am also a big time swearer in general, but it hasn't been as hard with DD as I thought. It's kind of like how I don't swear in my work environment...at least not often...I just get in a different pattern of speaking. It also helps that I get some of the profanity out in emails to friends or on this board.


That said, last year DD locked herself in a room the second day in our new house and on that day she learned to say fuck.

[lgsdesigner]

I uses to rarely cuss until I married DH. He cusses more than me, so I have picked up on the habit.

[adetheridge]

DF cusses WAYYY more than I did but now I probably do it as much as him. My mom also is pretty bad. We all always make the comment poor peanut's first word is going to be a cuss word. We all know we have to watch what we say then. Looking back now, when I was in elementary school, I remember growing up with thinking my parents never cussed and when they did slip up I would get to slap them on the hand. I think this was a good deterrent for them. I feel like as PP have said, it will be like you have multiple personalities when you're around your child to not being around them.

[operageek]

I fucking love swearing! Somehow I am able to curb the filth in front of my kiddo, but lord help me at work.

[lexisophie55]

DH and I are horrible. We have a 2 year old...and it is just becoming a problem. Like a few PP mentioned - you do just adjust when you have to. We didn't worry about it until now, but we're pretty good after a few repeats.

[twaffle]

We are really lucky that we don't speak English at home. I try to not swear much in Spanish but I let myself go in English

[jvega1]

My mom was horrible at cursing while we were younger so I unfortunately picked up the bad habit. The past few years I have gotten much better and so has dh.

[kellyfm522]

It's really hard sometimes to come up with a better word than a curse word. They say it takes 28 days for something to become or to reverse a habit. So don't stress if it doesn't happen over night. I am LDS, so I hear all sorts of "made up" curse words. Its quite amusing when someone yells "Oh My Heck!" or "What the Junk!". One of our friends used to say "Damage!" I always found that one particularly entertaining and creative.