He will survive this..

[melaniesue05]

Maybe you should increase the time before you go back in each time.

[klongoria11]

Is this the first night?
Once he realizes this is the new norm, he will go down easier.
It does take a little time though.
Stay strong! You're doing great!

[xolastunicornxo]

It's so hard mama! I agrees with melaniesue05. I think you should increase the time a bit. He will definitely survive and so will you guys!! The first few nights are the hardest!

[JoeLies]

Hugs @peachsmama. Is he starting to calm down? We did this with C a few times, just waited longer and longer between visits. It worked for us because he's never escalated to the point of getting sick or anything. It is SO dependent on the kid. Trust your gut instinct and if you get too uncomfortable, try again tomorrow.

[karadee]

Feb 7, 2015 21:41:52 GMT -5 JoeLies said:

Hugs @peachsmama. Is he starting to calm down? We did this with C a few times, just waited longer and longer between visits. It worked for us because he's never escalated to the point of getting sick or anything. It is SO dependent on the kid. Trust your gut instinct and if you get too uncomfortable, try again tomorrow.

All of this, especially the bold part. The first night we did the Ferber method with G it was the worst, and was much easier after. I firmly believe he needed it to help him sleep better, seeing the results of him sleeping through the night ever since. But before we started, DH and I agreed to a time period where if G was still crying we would "abandon ship" and try again the next night. Trust your instincts. 

[pinkaliphant]

Stay strong! We used the Ferber times (I can't remember them now). The first night was the worst but once she got used to it it got much better. Let us know how it goes. 

[melaniesue05]

Feb 7, 2015 21:41:31 GMT -5 @mothereffer said:

Ok so I am going to get flamed for this but I wanted to let you know that for Si (and I wouldn't do this unless everything else had not worked) I had to let him cry for an hour without checking on him. Resetting him just seemed to make it worse.

It took one night of doing that and then he slept through the night. It's been 6 months now. He only has sleep issues when he is sick.

I think it's in the camp of what works best for your kid. For us, he is so social that I think checking on him was setting us back.

It absolutely broke my heart to do it. Completely. But it turned to be what was best for him.

Not from me! We did the same thing. First night she cried for 45 minutes and the second for 15. We don't even have to Rick her to bed now. She just goes in and gets comfy. It may take her 20 minutes but she doesn't cry. Mostly babbles.

Stick to your guns, you'll both get through this and it will be better for both of you.

[cagoldi]

karadee They got you, too! You're a 1D fan? : )

[karadee]

Feb 7, 2015 22:20:06 GMT -5 cagoldi said:

karadee They got you, too! You're a 1D fan? : )

I am...and it's ridiculous how quickly I spiraled completely out of control. I started following the Larry threads in November last year, and now I am listening to 1D all the time, have tickets to see them in August, and am particularly obsessed with Louis.  

[kfran84]

@peachsmama I did the same thing back in September. I'm glad you have support bc I needed it. I did 5, 7, then 10 min intervals. The next night I did 7, 10, then 15. Never got to the 15.

We have all slept great ever since.

How'd it go?

[trtlcrzy]

Good luck lady, you can do this! As long as he's not crying I'd leave him be.

[tallblonde]

Ugh I feel ya! Hope it turned out okay. Last night was the first night of ferber for us too and DH made me leave completely since j associates me with nursing to sleep, and I would just sit there crying and asking if it was time to check yet.

I came home with Georgetown cupcakes and 4 books from barnes and noble..figured retail therapy was needed to get through it.

This parenting stuff is hard!

[pinkaliphant]

@peachsmama how did it end up last night?

[Cherhorowitz]

Is it his first night in the crib? Do you guys normally bed share?

[LizInFL]

@peachsmama we dropped bottles on Friday and bedtime the last couple nights has been rough, so I can sympathize! We have been letting B cry, too. He did better last night so hopefully y'all will see some improvement tonight, as well.

I hate it because bedtime is normally such a peaceful, stress-free time for B, and the last couple nights it has NOT been. But he's gotten used to the naps and so I'm confident (hopeful?) he'll get used to bedtime, too. Hang in there, hugs to you!

[rebeccag428]

Peach, we kicked autumn out of our bed for that exact reason minus the whole KTFU with number two!

I couldn't listen to her cry. I am not bashing moms who CIO, it just wasn't for autumn and I.

I would rock her to sleep and put her in her crib. All. Night. long. The first night was every 20-30mins, second night was 2-3 hours by the 3rd night she slept for 8 hours before crying. It took about a week.

At first I was trying to let her cry and see if she would settle on her own, but she wouldn't. That girl is stubborn! Picking her up would make her more pissed off, she would hit me, and cry until she turned purple.

It sounds like Mathew might be stubborn like Autumn!

I was a walking zombie that week but now Autumn sleeps through the night, in her crib, and I have my bed back.

[mamasoup030]

We kicked H out of our bed just before Christmas due to the belly getting bigger with 2.0. The first few nights were rough, but she did get used to the crib, I didn't have a plan or a method, we just followed her lead. The first week she spent 3 nights in the crib, and then gradually she spent more and more time there. We would start the night in the crib and she would come to our room around 3am. These days she spends all night, every night in the crib with rare exceptions.

My point is, it will get better, you can do this! Just give it time and do what works for you!! Good luck tonight!!!