2u2 moms: "was this planned?"

[meeggaannww]

We haven't told many but the ones we have told have just been excited for us.
As we start telling more people I'm sure this will be a question we will have come up. Short answer, yes it was. Long answer, is that really your business? <--- I wish I could say that bc it is totally how I feel.
I'll probably just smile and say yes we planned it this way.

[rinny]

I'm sure I'm going to hear lots of "already??"s at work when I come out. Since any time anyone gets pregnant with a less than 2 year old it's "did you hear so and so is pregnant AGAIN?" I'm just going with yup.

[lakegirl]

I'm really nervous about getting some 2u2 judgement. My response will probably be a chipper "yep!" although deep down depending on the person I want a more snarky response like "were you planned?"

[lakegirl]

Snarky responses from Pregnant Chicken

[lakegirl]

I'm going to go with tripping on a dick and drinking

[heybulldog56]

We haven't told many people but I've already been asked multiple times why we are waiting so long between kids...DS just turned 2 in May. My grandmother is convinced we aren't ever going to have another. So even though I won't have 2u2, I know I am going to get a lot of questions as to why we spaced them out so "far" apart. Seriously? Why are people so pressed about other people's Utes?!?!

[rinny]

You can never win, stg.

[Deleted]

How awkward. "Why no, it was not planned, I had one too many mimosas and we didn't use a condom!"

[judyblume14]

We won't quite be 2u2, but my MIL did ask (over text): "ok, just have to ask - are you both happy about this? Were you ready?"

I felt really judged. If anyone else had asked that, I would've given answer equally obnoxious.

But MIL is a super sweet saint and I know she meant well (we just moved, work is stressful, haven't sold old house, etc). So, my answer was "of course we're happy! We've been 'ready' for nearly a year!"

Hopefully she read "ready" as "trying"

[ashtog]

I'm actually terrified of the judgment we are going to get. Even though it was an expected surprise (just started trying but we were already pregnant, lolz)
I feel like some of the responses I've heard "they know they don't HAVE to keep having them, right?"

Really make me feel like that crazy cat lady, but with kids. And that's not what we're aiming for.

We are going to smile and enthusiastically be all "yes! This is a good thing " but I know everyone will be judging us.

[jrun2013]

I'm a fan of answering an invasive question, then following it up with an equally invasive question for them to answer. It hasn't happened with being pregnant, but I used to get "so, when are you two going to get married?

Soon! When are you going to have another kid?

<------ probably a jerk

[biscotto]

I've had a lot of people say "already"?

Yes. Already.

[flcl]

Jun 3, 2016 16:37:58 GMT -5 heybulldog56 said:

We haven't told many people but I've already been asked multiple times why we are waiting so long between kids...DS just turned 2 in May. My grandmother is convinced we aren't ever going to have another. So even though I won't have 2u2, I know I am going to get a lot of questions as to why we spaced them out so "far" apart. Seriously? Why are people so pressed about other people's Utes?!?!

This is us. LO turned 2 in March and I'm totally expecting people to ask the spacing question too. In fact, SIL just had a baby in March and asked if she could have LOs clothes and things. For keeps. Wtaf?!

[sandj918]

Oh yes. It doesn't help that I'm a teacher and just took 12 weeks of maternity leave this school year and will have to take another 12 this coming year. Plus I'm moving to a new grade level so it's really awkward moving to a new team and having to already plan for being out.

[heybulldog56]

sandj918, I feel you on that. I was just asked to be department chair for next school year. It was super awkward at the meeting when the administrator mentioned that school leadership was worried I wouldn't want the job because I have "a little one". They do not know I am pregnant.

[rinny]

I'm going to be on leave at a really bad time for work. Oh well! Not looking forward to any of these conversations either.

heybulldog56 that seems like a really weird thing for them to call out, but sounds awesome for you!

[tex]

DS is gonna be 2 in August and I'm not looking forward to that question from family members. I am also moving halfway through the pregnancy and will be going to an entirely new team. I haven't told them yet. I'm gonna wait until after my 12 week appointment.

[heybulldog56]

rinny, my school is pretty weird. I thought it was random too but I just nodded and smiled. I think it's because I always use DS as an excuse to not really get involved in much. I have since come to the realization that if I want to move out of teaching and into a leadership position, and eventually curriculum or even policy, I should probably put in more effort.

[jrun2013]

Jun 6, 2016 11:50:34 GMT -5 heybulldog56 said:

sandj918, I feel you on that. I was just asked to be department chair for next school year. It was super awkward at the meeting when the administrator mentioned that school leadership was worried I wouldn't want the job because I have "a little one". They do not know I am pregnant.

Are you going to tell them before summer break or just wait until September? I won't tell my boss before break because I'll still be in first tri and I won't be going up there over the summer because it's kinda far. So, either call and tell her or show up visibly pregnant at 18 weeks on the first day of school. Decisions...

[heybulldog56]

jrun2013, if all continues to go according to plan, I am would like to tell my grade level administrator and content area administrator the last week of school (June 20th). I'll be 10w then. I know I don't owe anyone anything but I'd like to be transparent with them. If I don't feel comfortable come the 20th, I will wait till the very end of the month. I am going back in to do curriculum stuff once the kids leave so I'll have a chance to tell them then.

[sandj918]

Jun 6, 2016 14:38:53 GMT -5 jrun2013 said:

Jun 6, 2016 11:50:34 GMT -5 heybulldog56 said:

sandj918, I feel you on that. I was just asked to be department chair for next school year. It was super awkward at the meeting when the administrator mentioned that school leadership was worried I wouldn't want the job because I have "a little one". They do not know I am pregnant.

Are you going to tell them before summer break or just wait until September? I won't tell my boss before break because I'll still be in first tri and I won't be going up there over the summer because it's kinda far. So, either call and tell her or show up visibly pregnant at 18 weeks on the first day of school. Decisions...

I told them before I left for the Summer. It's a pretty supportive group and I didn't feel comfortable showing up at school again at the end of August nearly 20 weeks.

ETA: Ooops, just realized you weren't asking me. Sorry.

[jrun2013]

sandj918 Thanks for the reply. I'm only six weeks and we're not even telling family until 2nd tri, so I guess I'll wait, it's just awkward timing.