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Jun 8, 2016 17:58:41 GMT -5
Post by mosdub on Jun 8, 2016 17:58:41 GMT -5
doodler I never used to get affected by pregnancy announcements but it's starting to affect me. (effect?)
Rama, I'm sorry you're feeling out but it's still early! I'm holding onto hope.
caer I'm so sorry about the anxiety I've been having waves of anxiety ever since the loss. Sometimes it can feel so overwhelming. If you ever want to chat you can PM me I hope you find some methods that work in bringing it under control. I took yoga for a while and found some of the breathing techniques helpful. I had an instructor once say "try to clear your mind. If you remember something you were supposed to do, or what you need to do next, or something that happened today just acknowledge it and then let it pass through". For some reason that helped me. The "acknowledge" part was essential because I would do the same thing of trying to clear my head and then have a quick thought of "did I unplug the iron?! Is the house burning down right now?!" and I used to get frustrated with myself. Now I just acknowledge it and let it go.
TL;DR - brains are sons of bishes.
ladytiffany24 I'm approaching the "12 month mark" soon too. I'm counting the months we tried prior to our loss as well, so maybe the clock "resets" after the loss. I don't know - I decided I'd call for a check-up and consultation with my OB once we hit 12 months (hopefully we don't though)
irish14 I'm so sorry. I'm sending you so many hugs and love. Please take it easy and take care of yourself. I don't believe you brought this on yourself, sometimes these things just happen.
nuggetrn Sending you all the love. I think when I was confronted with my loss I had the same "this is happening, let's figure it out" attitude. I think being in your profession that's partly just the way you're wired - deal with the crisis in a calm and collected manner. But you can let yourself feel what you need to feel when you need to feel it now. It's okay to be sad even if it's months/years later - don't let anyone tell you that "enough time has passed". I've told my H that "I'm just having a case of the sads today" which kind of sounds like belittling it now that I type it out, but it was the only way I could communicate what I was feeling without breaking down. If you need to take a personal day, and if you CAN take a personal day, do it. I'm so sorry. I wish I could come give you a hug.
jlincoln I'm so sorry. I know how the hCG drop frustration can be. Hope your levels are negative before long and you can move forward. In my experience (and due to my personal situation I've done a LOT of reading on hCG) your cycles generally return to "normal" when hCG is below 100. But, everyone is different and there isn't an exact science to it.
@samrs22 the grief can strike at seemingly random times. There have definitely been times where I thought I should have cried (like when students bring up my loss over a year later) and I'm totally fine, but something else might set me off. I'm sorry about your gpa. I'm sure he means well, but it still sucks to hear. I'm glad you're trying to get a handle on your body. I've been feeling like maybe I drink too much too, and I've been at least trying to cut down/back - even if it has nothing to do with fertility, it's good to do in general.
notagoddess I'm so sorry about the housing stress!!! Something will come together - I hope it comes together sooner rather than later. Crossing my fingers that things line up for you guys soon.
Rama, I'm sorry you're feeling out but it's still early! I'm holding onto hope.
caer I'm so sorry about the anxiety I've been having waves of anxiety ever since the loss. Sometimes it can feel so overwhelming. If you ever want to chat you can PM me I hope you find some methods that work in bringing it under control. I took yoga for a while and found some of the breathing techniques helpful. I had an instructor once say "try to clear your mind. If you remember something you were supposed to do, or what you need to do next, or something that happened today just acknowledge it and then let it pass through". For some reason that helped me. The "acknowledge" part was essential because I would do the same thing of trying to clear my head and then have a quick thought of "did I unplug the iron?! Is the house burning down right now?!" and I used to get frustrated with myself. Now I just acknowledge it and let it go.
TL;DR - brains are sons of bishes.
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ladytiffany24 I'm approaching the "12 month mark" soon too. I'm counting the months we tried prior to our loss as well, so maybe the clock "resets" after the loss. I don't know - I decided I'd call for a check-up and consultation with my OB once we hit 12 months (hopefully we don't though)
irish14 I'm so sorry. I'm sending you so many hugs and love. Please take it easy and take care of yourself. I don't believe you brought this on yourself, sometimes these things just happen.
nuggetrn Sending you all the love. I think when I was confronted with my loss I had the same "this is happening, let's figure it out" attitude. I think being in your profession that's partly just the way you're wired - deal with the crisis in a calm and collected manner. But you can let yourself feel what you need to feel when you need to feel it now. It's okay to be sad even if it's months/years later - don't let anyone tell you that "enough time has passed". I've told my H that "I'm just having a case of the sads today" which kind of sounds like belittling it now that I type it out, but it was the only way I could communicate what I was feeling without breaking down. If you need to take a personal day, and if you CAN take a personal day, do it. I'm so sorry. I wish I could come give you a hug.
jlincoln I'm so sorry. I know how the hCG drop frustration can be. Hope your levels are negative before long and you can move forward. In my experience (and due to my personal situation I've done a LOT of reading on hCG) your cycles generally return to "normal" when hCG is below 100. But, everyone is different and there isn't an exact science to it.
@samrs22 the grief can strike at seemingly random times. There have definitely been times where I thought I should have cried (like when students bring up my loss over a year later) and I'm totally fine, but something else might set me off. I'm sorry about your gpa. I'm sure he means well, but it still sucks to hear. I'm glad you're trying to get a handle on your body. I've been feeling like maybe I drink too much too, and I've been at least trying to cut down/back - even if it has nothing to do with fertility, it's good to do in general.
notagoddess I'm so sorry about the housing stress!!! Something will come together - I hope it comes together sooner rather than later. Crossing my fingers that things line up for you guys soon.