Cosleeping question

[lexishay]

DS has always slept in his RNP with no problem but the last few nights he has cried and cried no matter what until I put him in the bed with us. I don't know how to break the habit and help him sleep in his RNP again. Co sleeping absolutely terrifies me I am so afraid me or his dad will roll over on him. If I can't get him readjusted to the RNP again are there safer ways to co sleep then just having him next to me? Any suggestions or tips would be greatly appreciated.

[megpie5]

Our friends lent us one of these since LO wanted to be in bed with us too. She loves it and we sleep better knowing we can't roll over on her.

[emmyg65]

You can sidecar your crib--take off a side rail and secure the crib to your mattress. Google will tell you more.

[lexishay]

Feb 8, 2015 8:37:37 GMT -5 megpie5 said:

Our friends lent us one of these since LO wanted to be in bed with us too. She loves it and we sleep better knowing we can't roll over on her.

That's really neat! I'll have to look into that!

[lexishay]

Feb 8, 2015 8:44:37 GMT -5 emmyg65 said:

You can sidecar your crib--take off a side rail and secure the crib to your mattress. Google will tell you more.

I kind of wondered about that my only problem is my dresser is directly beside the bed and I don't know if there would be enough room. And I wasn't really sure about the crack in between the crib and bed if it is easy for them to fall into

[grommom]

You can do what I did, make dh sleep elsewhere :-)

[lexishay]

Feb 8, 2015 14:26:55 GMT -5 grommom said:

You can do what I did, make dh sleep elsewhere :-)

Haha this is an awesome idea! I don't know how he'd take it though haha!

[grommom]

Feb 8, 2015 15:23:19 GMT -5 lexishay said:

Feb 8, 2015 14:26:55 GMT -5 grommom said:

You can do what I did, make dh sleep elsewhere :-)

Haha this is an awesome idea! I don't know how he'd take it though haha!

I guess it helps that we each had our own king sized mattresses, he has a bad back and prefers a firm mattress, but I did make him swap rooms with me when I coslept with ds1 until I want concerned about suffocation on my pillow top. Now dh stays with ds 1 and I sleep with ds2, and I'll ask for my comfy pillow top back around 6 months again. :-)
I know it doesn't work for everyone but we all have better sleep when we're not worried about something happening.

[llambrose]

Feb 8, 2015 16:19:00 GMT -5 grommom said:

Feb 8, 2015 15:23:19 GMT -5 lexishay said:

Haha this is an awesome idea! I don't know how he'd take it though haha!

I guess it helps that we each had our own king sized mattresses, he has a bad back and prefers a firm mattress, but I did make him swap rooms with me when I coslept with ds1 until I want concerned about suffocation on my pillow top. Now dh stays with ds 1 and I sleep with ds2, and I'll ask for my comfy pillow top back around 6 months again. :-)
I know it doesn't work for everyone but we all have better sleep when we're not worried about something happening.

My h also sleeps in a separate room, has been since my dd was small and we decided co-sleeping was the best way for everyone to get some sleep. Now I can't imagine going back! He is terrible to share a room with, super noisy!

[nachomomma]

Feb 8, 2015 14:26:55 GMT -5 grommom said:

You can do what I did, make dh sleep elsewhere :-)

Right now I think DH is going to end up sleeping with our toddler. We're starting all sorts of fun habits...

[lexishay]

Feb 8, 2015 16:19:00 GMT -5 grommom said:

Feb 8, 2015 15:23:19 GMT -5 lexishay said:

Haha this is an awesome idea! I don't know how he'd take it though haha!

I guess it helps that we each had our own king sized mattresses, he has a bad back and prefers a firm mattress, but I did make him swap rooms with me when I coslept with ds1 until I want concerned about suffocation on my pillow top. Now dh stays with ds 1 and I sleep with ds2, and I'll ask for my comfy pillow top back around 6 months again. :-)
I know it doesn't work for everyone but we all have better sleep when we're not worried about something happening.

Our bed is only queen we had a full until about November I wish we would've spent the extra for the king.

[lexishay]

Feb 8, 2015 16:42:04 GMT -5 llambrose said:

Feb 8, 2015 16:19:00 GMT -5 grommom said:

I guess it helps that we each had our own king sized mattresses, he has a bad back and prefers a firm mattress, but I did make him swap rooms with me when I coslept with ds1 until I want concerned about suffocation on my pillow top. Now dh stays with ds 1 and I sleep with ds2, and I'll ask for my comfy pillow top back around 6 months again. :-)
I know it doesn't work for everyone but we all have better sleep when we're not worried about something happening.

My h also sleeps in a separate room, has been since my dd was small and we decided co-sleeping was the best way for everyone to get some sleep. Now I can't imagine going back! He is terrible to share a room with, super noisy!

That's how mine is. He is the worlds noisest person! It kills me!!!

[lexishay]

Feb 8, 2015 17:40:33 GMT -5 nachomomma said:

Feb 8, 2015 14:26:55 GMT -5 grommom said:

You can do what I did, make dh sleep elsewhere :-)

Right now I think DH is going to end up sleeping with our toddler. We're starting all sorts of fun habits...

I wish we had another Lo so I could convince him to sleep with them! Maybe one day!

[littlelion]

I have this issue too. Except dh thinks its fine having lo in bed with us. Not happening. I cant cuddle (or anything more) with dh. I'm always on guard of where lo is and our positions. I don't get a restful sleep.

This week I'm letting baby fall asleep, wait 10 min then carefully move him to his cosleeper which is attached to my side of the bed. Some nights are better than others. Last 2 nights he slept 3hr stretches. By 6 am dh is gone and I'll let lo in bed if needed....he's been fussy at this time due to gassiness.

Its good practice I suppose. I'll be transitioning him to his crib in his own room soon enough.

Hope you find something that works for you

[lexishay]

Feb 8, 2015 22:55:55 GMT -5 littlelion said:

I have this issue too. Except dh thinks its fine having lo in bed with us. Not happening. I cant cuddle (or anything more) with dh. I'm always on guard of where lo is and our positions. I don't get a restful sleep.

This week I'm letting baby fall asleep, wait 10 min then carefully move him to his cosleeper which is attached to my side of the bed. Some nights are better than others. Last 2 nights he slept 3hr stretches. By 6 am dh is gone and I'll let lo in bed if needed....he's been fussy at this time due to gassiness.

Its good practice I suppose. I'll be transitioning him to his crib in his own room soon enough.

Hope you find something that works for you

I'm the same way I can't get any sleep because I'm constantly making sure DS is still breathing and his face isnt covered by anything. I'm going to try his bouncer tonight and turn it on so hopefully it will make him think I'm bouncing him.

[funinthenorth]

Feb 8, 2015 8:37:37 GMT -5 megpie5 said:

Our friends lent us one of these since LO wanted to be in bed with us too. She loves it and we sleep better knowing we can't roll over on her.


A friend loaned us one of these too.  I thought I would love it but ds didn't love it and I found that with dh and I both in the queen size bed and this between us it was too cramped, and I missed cuddling with dh.  After so many months not being able to snuggle up close to dh I really missed it more than I realized.  No help on the cosleeping front because now ds is in a cradle beside the bed.

[megpie5]

Feb 9, 2015 18:25:40 GMT -5 funinthenorth said:

Feb 8, 2015 8:37:37 GMT -5 megpie5 said:

A friend loaned us one of these too.  I thought I would love it but ds didn't love it and I found that with dh and I both in the queen size bed and this between us it was too cramped, and I missed cuddling with dh.  After so many months not being able to snuggle up close to dh I really missed it more than I realized.  No help on the cosleeping front because now ds is in a cradle beside the bed.

We ended up putting it on my side of the bed so DH and I can snuggle since we really missed that too.  I would definitely prefer if LO would sleep in the moses basket beside the bed so we could have more room, but I think it's still too big for her since she sleeps so much better in cramped spaces.  We'll definitely try it again when she's older though.

[lexishay]

Feb 9, 2015 18:37:08 GMT -5 megpie5 said:

Feb 9, 2015 18:25:40 GMT -5 funinthenorth said:

We ended up putting it on my side of the bed so DH and I can snuggle since we really missed that too.  I would definitely prefer if LO would sleep in the moses basket beside the bed so we could have more room, but I think it's still too big for her since she sleeps so much better in cramped spaces.  We'll definitely try it again when she's older though.

That's how my LO is he loves being snuggled in tight places. He loves the boppy during the day!

[stargirl]

I bedshare with the baby and my dh sleeps in a seperate room. its how I've done it with my other two babies also... works great! I love it. And I'm perfectly rested.

[lexishay]

Feb 10, 2015 1:25:10 GMT -5 stargirl said:

I bedshare with the baby and my dh sleeps in a seperate room. its how I've done it with my other two babies also... works great! I love it. And I'm perfectly rested.

I think that's what I'm going to have to do. Baby and I sharing one side of the bed is getting rough.

[Jellypepper]

Feb 10, 2015 1:25:10 GMT -5 stargirl said:

I bedshare with the baby and my dh sleeps in a seperate room. its how I've done it with my other two babies also... works great! I love it. And I'm perfectly rested.

DH and I also sleep in seperate bedrooms and usually baby is co-sleeping with me. If it's been a really bad day for me she will sleep with DH and he will bring her to me for feeds so I can get more rest. Everyone in our house sleeps better this way.

[funinthenorth]

Feb 9, 2015 18:37:08 GMT -5 megpie5 said:

Feb 9, 2015 18:25:40 GMT -5 funinthenorth said:

We ended up putting it on my side of the bed so DH and I can snuggle since we really missed that too.  I would definitely prefer if LO would sleep in the moses basket beside the bed so we could have more room, but I think it's still too big for her since she sleeps so much better in cramped spaces.  We'll definitely try it again when she's older though.

DS likes to be in tight quarters as well.  One of the nurses rolled up 2 towels and put them on each side of ds while he was in the little hospital bed.  We carried on with this at home.  The towels are down by his shoulders so no worry about him turning into them.

[lexishay]

Feb 10, 2015 13:35:26 GMT -5 Jellypepper said:

Feb 10, 2015 1:25:10 GMT -5 stargirl said:

I bedshare with the baby and my dh sleeps in a seperate room. its how I've done it with my other two babies also... works great! I love it. And I'm perfectly rested.

DH and I also sleep in seperate bedrooms and usually baby is co-sleeping with me. If it's been a really bad day for me she will sleep with DH and he will bring her to me for feeds so I can get more rest. Everyone in our house sleeps better this way.

I hope I can talk SO into sleeping in another room tonight so I can try and get more rest.

[lexishay]

Feb 10, 2015 15:20:45 GMT -5 funinthenorth said:

Feb 9, 2015 18:37:08 GMT -5 megpie5 said:

We ended up putting it on my side of the bed so DH and I can snuggle since we really missed that too.  I would definitely prefer if LO would sleep in the moses basket beside the bed so we could have more room, but I think it's still too big for her since she sleeps so much better in cramped spaces.  We'll definitely try it again when she's older though.

DS likes to be in tight quarters as well.  One of the nurses rolled up 2 towels and put them on each side of ds while he was in the little hospital bed.  We carried on with this at home.  The towels are down by his shoulders so no worry about him turning into them.

I've never thought about rolling up towels. We usually just swaddled. That's an interesting way to keep them tight