Good morning, ladies. Instead of my usual rush out the door and commute I am sitting in a hospital bed today so I thought I'd get us started chatting.
So... I was hit by an SUV going 15-20 mph while I was walking across the street to go home from work yesterday. I'm mostly okay, just have what appears to be a badly sprained ankle and a cut/abrasions on the back of my head. But when there is any type of head injury the docs want to be sure you don't have a concussion or blood clot, and they won't give me a CT scan because of the baby, so I got admitted for observation overnight. I'm hoping to go home this afternoon.
I guess at least now I can say I've ridden in an ambulance and gotten special treatment at the ER as a trauma patient?
achromia oh no! I hope you're feeling a bit better.
So glad to hear that you're being well taken care of
Thank you! I am actually feeling pretty good aside from the stupid ankle. And I can't wait to go home and wash my hair... it's full of nasty dried blood.
But in GREAT news, they did a precautionary ultrasound this morning so I got to see my bebeh again. LO looks great and is even measuring a few days ahead now. Yay!
OMG - I'm so glad to hear that you're okay.... how scary. Both Monday and Tuesday nights I was almost in an accident on my way home. Monday I had G and took my a long time to be able to calm down after that. People really need to start paying attention while driving. I hope that you're able to go home soon and wash your hair, you'll feel like a million bucks!
Glad that you were able to get a little peak at the bebeh!
OMG - I'm so glad to hear that you're okay.... how scary. Both Monday and Tuesday nights I was almost in an accident on my way home. Monday I had G and took my a long time to be able to calm down after that. People really need to start paying attention while driving. I hope that you're able to go home soon and wash your hair, you'll feel like a million bucks!
Glad that you were able to get a little peak at the bebeh!
Yeesh, you're right, people need to pay attention while they're piloting a multi-thousand pound weapon! I'm glad that you guys were okay too!
Post by WineNChocolate on Jun 9, 2016 8:24:19 GMT -5
What the hell!?!?? Omg I am so happy your okay. You have my hormonal butt over here almost in tears..then I had to remember you wouldn't be posting if you had died or something. It freaked me out. I am so sorry. Did you murder the person who hit you? We could probably get bail money. My god...how is your bean? I hope everything is okay.
After almost three years of TTC, IVF #1 = Menopur + Follistim + other stuff. Retrieved 14, 12 mature, 7 fertilized, only 1 (6AA) made it to day 5 blast. BFP! DD born 12-10-2016
What the hell!?!?? Omg I am so happy your okay. You have my hormonal butt over here almost in tears..then I had to remember you wouldn't be posting if you had died or something. It freaked me out. I am so sorry. Did you murder the person who hit you? We could probably get bail money. My god...how is your bean? I hope everything is okay.
I was so stunned when it happened... I barely had time to see the car out of the corner of my before I was flying through the air. It turned into a fairly dramatic scene with a firetruck and ambulance, me being strapped onto one of those stabilization boards with a neck brace, and witnesses giving statements to the police. And of course I was crying and trying to give someone instructions on how to call MH.
I will say that the woman who hit me was very upset and apologetic. Even though she got a ticket for failure to control her vehicle or whatever, which she deserved, I hope she's not in too much trouble. Bean is healthy and has a strong heartbeat this morning, so it looks like everything is going to be okay.
Post by legalbeagle on Jun 9, 2016 10:17:15 GMT -5
So what is everyone else up to today? DS woke up at 5am screaming and crying and so we took him to the potty but he was screaming "there's something in my nose!" and then when we tried to wipe it he said "I got it out already." Alrighty, kid.
Normalish work day and then going home to have dinner with some family members that are staying with us for a few days. The kids are 13 and 9 and so good with DS!
Post by lastnamewithheld on Jun 9, 2016 10:48:59 GMT -5
holy shit, achromia!! I hope you're feeling ok! (and you get to go home soon!) littlelion, woohoo for a good night's sleep! also bigger woohoo for payday! (Me too!)
I got to see the baby today! It looks like a baby!!! HOLY SHIT THERE'S A BABY IN THERE!!!
But it's measuring right on track, a day ahead, actually. Unfortunately, the tech couldn't get a good profile picture since she was facing towards us instead of laying on her back (Trying out feminine pronouns...) HR is 165, its little legs were crossed at the ankle and its little arms were up by its big old head.
Anywhoo, since they couldn't get a good measurement, they offered to see me for a repeat u/s next week, or I could go for a quad screen or panorama test. I opted for the panorama since H is chomping at the bit to find out the sex. (Ok, I'm a little curious, too.) Since the fetus was being uncooperative, we got to see it for what felt like a LOOONG time on the monitor while they were poking, prodding and shaking my gut around trying to get it to re-position. Pretty neat.
I'm wondering how I am expected to be productive at all today at work. Hmmm.
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
achromia you are too nice. I hope she is in all kinds of trouble! You don't hit a damn human being with your car! I'm so sorry you are dealing with that but I'm glad everything seems to be OK.
lastnamewithheld I have had such a hard time concentrating at work - I am just waiting for the phone to ring with my Verifi results. I even had a dream about it last night!
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
lastnamewithheld, YAY for another scan - and glad todays went well other than not getting good measurements. With G we had to go in for 2 twenty week scans because she was facing away from us so they couldn't get a good look at her face. It's so nice to get another look.
I'm on the verge of strangling DH. Yesterday his company announced they are doing forced furloughs (not sure if this is the right word), where they are closing for the week next week with no pay for anyone, and then doing reduced hour weeks by cutting every single Friday. Basically, they are instituting a 20% pay cut without actually calling it that. DH is one of their only accountants, so he saw something like this coming and start casually looking for a job a few weeks ago.
All he is doing now is whining about how now he can't buy himself a birthday present at the end of this month, even when there was no birthday gift for me earlier this week since we are trying to boost our minimal savings since he was underpaid BEFORE this mess...
Dude, this wasn't a surprise, and yes it sucks, but man up and figure it out. Our budget can't take that kind of a hit, so we need to do some serious rethinking about things and reworking the budget and he needs to MOVE on finding something else ASAP, but he's just sitting and complaining about it.
I'm trying to give him some time to process it and get things going, but the complaining in the meantime is killing me. He has a pattern of complaining about things we don't have or can't afford, but then doing nothing about it to change our situation so we can have/do those things. I can't tell you how many times we have argued about this, where I have to tell him to either be happy with what he has or actively take steps to get more. He can't complain about not having something and expect it to fall into his lap without any effort on his part.
Talk me off the edge. If he whines one more time about this, the preggo t-rex hormones may just explode.
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
fikafairy67, ugh, I feel for you. My DH has a bad habit of repeating himself. Like he can't take no for an answer. Even when his requests make no sense financially. And I always tell him that he's never satisfied. Each year he's looking for the newest, biggest phone. He's had 2 new cars in the last 2 yrs. And he wanted to get another one (so buys one, changes his mind, trades it in, etc). It drives me nuts. Like seriously, we're not made out of money. Just because it doesn't hit the checking acct doesn't mean anything, we're in debt! It's real money we owe for value we lost. I could strangle him. But I don't. I used to cry out of frustration.
My best advice is to walk away when he complains. When he's over it, talk it over and think of ways to save or how to help him find a job. I helped DH with his resume. And getting him some contacts. Good luck controlling the hormones! I get super emotional during pregnancy and can't even think straight when we argue.
I'm so sorry about the budget worries fikafairy67. Is he looking for a new job, or one that pays more? If he is motivated by money maybe this will be a motivator for him to start looking and applying to new things. 20% is a lot. Once he sees that hit in his actual paycheck hopefully it will be a wake up call.
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
Post by fikafairy67 on Jun 9, 2016 21:54:20 GMT -5
Thanks littlelion, emilie, lastnamewithheld. We had a minor CTJ talk tonight, along with talking through some of what he's feeling about this whole mess. His current employer hasn't been doing well for a while, but he likes his supervisor and likes the environment there. He said he has learned so much there and could learn a lot more, but being underpaid and then having that minimal pay cut is just too much to take.
He did submit an application at a company he worked at years ago as an intern, and spoke directly with HR there, who remembers him - so all good things. He really liked working there, and it's actually a closer commute too. The position is a step up and not a lateral move too, which is even better.
He knows that he has to look for something else and leave since our family needs it, but he still wishes that things were different where he is at now. But he acknowledged wishing it was different won't pay our bills.
So I get it, and he gets where I was coming from with the complaining too. He did promise to stop complaining about things he can't change (yet), and specifically not to whine if he hasn't done anything about it. I'm feeling better about it, but I will feel a LOT better if he finds something else quickly.
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