Post by jewelsofthenile on Jun 10, 2016 8:38:01 GMT -5
I am taking 12 weeks of leave. Which will diminish my leave supply to almost zero so probably wont be taking any days off the rest of the year. But two kids in daycare is expensive! So i will be going back in October. My husband is a high school teacher so he will be off until mid August so that will be nice. His parents i am sure will want to help hold the baby. That is what they did most of the time for DD. I am not sure my mom might come up at some point. She hasn't really offered though. My guess is after mid august i will be on my own most of the time.
Post by harlowjune1984 on Jun 10, 2016 12:00:28 GMT -5
I am quitting my job. I don't get any benefits or leave, and crap pay...so its pointless for me to rush through time off....just to get back to this job.
With our first, MH was working for a company in sales, and only got commission and pretty much if he wanted to take time off....he wasn't going to make any money (he is the bread winner of the family). So he worked in the hospital, right up until DD was born, and then was working 5-8 hours a day after she was born. With this one, he now owns his own company (doing the same thing), so we are pretty much going to be going through the same thing....he will be helping here and there, but still needs to work. At least he works from home, so that helps a lot. Both of our families live close and can help out if need be. Plus we have a rental property and the lady living in the house is awesome (and has been a friend of ours for 9+ years), has a few days saved up to take off after baby comes, so she can spend time hanging with DD and get her out of the house for a few hours. I was more worried about her, because she will be out of preschool for the summer (she goes three days a week), and I don't want her getting bored being at home. So along with help from grandparents and the friend/renter, I also have her signed up for two summer sports and two week long day camps (one is only an hour a day)....just so she can get out of the house and do something away from us and the baby.
TheTuna15 Don't worry about being gloomy! Sorry to hear you won't have much help. Hopefully your DD likes TV, I forget how old she is? The second one is much easier, you at least have some sort of idea what you're doing You'll be great!
Post by rungirlrun on Jun 10, 2016 15:37:47 GMT -5
beebe918, what does your H do that will prevent him from taking any time off? That's rough - I'm sorry. And I thought you were a SAHM - I didn't realize you were working. Will both of your kids have to go to daycare after 6 weeks?
TheTuna15, you're allowed to be doom and gloom with that rough situation. Will your H be able to get off to at least attend the baby's birth? Hope the timing of your mom coming works out! I too had to take a gamble on when to have my parents come (we're on different coasts and have no family here). Basically, if this baby comes before 39 weeks, I don't know who will watch my son. Just trying to not think about that scenario!
beebe918, what does your H do that will prevent him from taking any time off? That's rough - I'm sorry. And I thought you were a SAHM - I didn't realize you were working. Will both of your kids have to go to daycare after 6 weeks?
TheTuna15, you're allowed to be doom and gloom with that rough situation. Will your H be able to get off to at least attend the baby's birth? Hope the timing of your mom coming works out! I too had to take a gamble on when to have my parents come (we're on different coasts and have no family here). Basically, if this baby comes before 39 weeks, I don't know who will watch my son. Just trying to not think about that scenario!
I work 24 hrs a week, And I pretty much make my own schedule, when I go back I'll probably work 2 days a week for awhile.
H manages a restaurant in a downtown tourist area so July is a really bad time. He's entitled to 12 weeks FMLA but he's required to work 6 days a week and cannot take vacation in the summer so taking any time off would definitely be looked down on by his superiors. It definitely sucks but it is what it is.
My mom will watch the kids two days a week, I'll be home with them 2 days and H will be home with them prob 1.5 days on days he works nights.
Post by rungirlrun on Jun 10, 2016 17:07:16 GMT -5
beebe918 oh man, yeah a July baby is not the best timing for your H, but that's life. Sorry it will be a rough go initially, but I'm glad to hear you'll at least have good childcare coverage.
beebe918 oh man, yeah a July baby is not the best timing for your H, but that's life. Sorry it will be a rough go initially, but I'm glad to hear you'll at least have good childcare coverage.
Hopefully it won't even be rough (I mean not anymore rough then normal newborn stuff). I have a ton of local family with really flexible schedules (SAHMs, retired, self-employed etc.). My sister is a teacher and lives like 5 miles down the road with no kids herself so hopefully she'll be a huge help. I may be in denial but I'm thinking it's going to be okay!
glaze, Thanks. I just hate being doom and gloom all the time. K is 15 months, and I worry about managing both of them.
rungirlrun, he will if he wants to live. Lol. I'm glad that my mom will be able to drop work and come watch K and Mh will be able to leave work with about 30 minutes notice. I'm more worried about after.
glaze, Thanks. I just hate being doom and gloom all the time. K is 15 months, and I worry about managing both of them.
rungirlrun, he will if he wants to live. Lol. I'm glad that my mom will be able to drop work and come watch K and Mh will be able to leave work with about 30 minutes notice. I'm more worried about after.
I'm sure a lot of us can relate with some of the doom and gloom! I know I'm terrified about having 3 kids! You have every right to be freaking out a little bit although I'm sure you'll be a pro at 2u2 in no time! You seem very focused and driven.
glaze, Thanks. I just hate being doom and gloom all the time. K is 15 months, and I worry about managing both of them.
rungirlrun, he will if he wants to live. Lol. I'm glad that my mom will be able to drop work and come watch K and Mh will be able to leave work with about 30 minutes notice. I'm more worried about after.
I'm sure a lot of us can relate with some of the doom and gloom! I know I'm terrified about having 3 kids! You have every right to be freaking out a little bit although I'm sure you'll be a pro at 2u2 in no time! You seem very focused and driven.
Thanks!!! I know the biggest argument is whether it's harder to go from 1 to 2 or from 2 to 3. Let me know so I can decide on a third. Lol. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who's terrified of adding another one. I'm worried about screwing up the good little family unit we already have.
I plan on taking 8 weeks (6 weeks STD supplemented by sick leave and then 2 weeks PTO). This will leave me with still 2 weeks PTO to use over the course of the year in the case I need it. H will probably only take a couple of days off. As for help, I prefer to do it between the 2 of us. I do have some friends and family that will stop by if needed though.
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I'm sure a lot of us can relate with some of the doom and gloom! I know I'm terrified about having 3 kids! You have every right to be freaking out a little bit although I'm sure you'll be a pro at 2u2 in no time! You seem very focused and driven.
Thanks!!! I know the biggest argument is whether it's harder to go from 1 to 2 or from 2 to 3. Let me know so I can decide on a third. Lol. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who's terrified of adding another one. I'm worried about screwing up the good little family unit we already have.
My sister's husband is one of 8. His mother said the transition to 2 is hard because you are no longer on one on one with your kid and have to split your focus. She said 2-3 is hard too because you and your SO have to go to zone defense and budget and plan way more. But she said there was really no difference for her from 3-8 because she already knew how to manage the kids. Not sure I believe her but it's what I'm holding onto as I get ready to double my crew.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jun 13, 2016 10:06:40 GMT -5
I've also heard that after 3, it's basically no big deal to add more. I will never be testing that theory. Two scares me enough and we are out of bedrooms, carseat spots, and money now so two is good.
I've also heard that after 3, it's basically no big deal to add more. I will never be testing that theory. Two scares me enough and we are out of bedrooms, carseat spots, and money now so two is good.
H tried to convince me that we could transfer two more embryos after these and then the last one for a total of 7. Umm...no. We could swing it, but I'd rather enjoy 4 kids than be stretched thin with 7. And physically I don't think I could do another pregnancy, much less another twin pregnancy.
I've also heard that after 3, it's basically no big deal to add more. I will never be testing that theory. Two scares me enough and we are out of bedrooms, carseat spots, and money now so two is good.
H tried to convince me that we could transfer two more embryos after these and then the last one for a total of 7. Umm...no. We could swing it, but I'd rather enjoy 4 kids than be stretched thin with 7. And physically I don't think I could do another pregnancy, much less another twin pregnancy.
My husband would be dead at that suggestion. No more pregnancy for me, thanks.
I've also heard that after 3, it's basically no big deal to add more. I will never be testing that theory. Two scares me enough and we are out of bedrooms, carseat spots, and money now so two is good.
H tried to convince me that we could transfer two more embryos after these and then the last one for a total of 7. Umm...no. We could swing it, but I'd rather enjoy 4 kids than be stretched thin with 7. And physically I don't think I could do another pregnancy, much less another twin pregnancy.
Yea, no. My grandmother did 8 and I just can't even begin to imagine. I *may* do one more after this. No more than that. And twin pregnancies? I'm not that tough.
H tried to convince me that we could transfer two more embryos after these and then the last one for a total of 7. Umm...no. We could swing it, but I'd rather enjoy 4 kids than be stretched thin with 7. And physically I don't think I could do another pregnancy, much less another twin pregnancy.
Yea, no. My grandmother did 8 and I just can't even begin to imagine. I *may* do one more after this. No more than that. And twin pregnancies? I'm not that tough.
Yeah 3-4 was my reasonable goal. Before having kids I thought I wanted a huge family, but I don't pregnant well.
I am taking 12 weeks off from work. H can take FMLA so he will probably take 2 full weeks and then go back to work. Both of our parents are local so they will be around (probably way too much).
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