broadwaymama sttn already? Go Marley!! Im glad you are having a little good news to make up for the sorrow. I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother.
nitecheese your mom can be a welcome distraction between now and then. Enjoy the time!
I have to admit. At now 39 weeks I have no choice but to actually start thinking about the whole birthing process. I've done a good job of successfully ignoring it until now. Just drinking in all of the time that is DD's last days as an only child. Now I am having all sorts of labor thoughts.
I agree with you on the labor thing. With my first I was all focused and reading books and getting mentally prepared. This time I haven't really given it a second thought. I've been so preoccupied with DD and my time with her that labor never crossed my mind. I'm almost 38 weeks now and I'm like OMG I have to get this other kid out. I don't feel ready at all.
First birth was totally natural and overall a fine experience. Not what I planned because the cord was around her neck so I couldn't walk through contractions or use the ball or anything. But I survived and succeeded with no drugs as planned so I accomplished my goal. Overall though I wouldn't say it was such an amazing experience but one I was ready and prepared for. Someone tell me how great the epidural is. Someone tell me how it's no big deal to get and I'm a crazy person for not automatically getting. And for some stupid reason my biggest fear is getting a catheter....someone tell me that's just being dumb
Has anyone ever timed BH? I'm sitting here working and they were happening regularly so I figured I'd practice with my app.
they are consistently 1 min long and 10 min apart...for the last hour or so.
Unless I get up, then I automatically get one.
I'm grasping at straws here
I've had BHs since like week 18!! Around week 33 they picked up, especially if I had a long day. I timed them once because I got nervous and they would come every 5 minutes or so and last around a minute. They eventually calmed down. Now I feel like I get them every time I stand as well- especially in the middle of the night. I've always mentioned it to the OB and they don't seem concerned. I'm now 39 weeks 5 days and take them with a grain of salt. They can be quite annoying though!! Maybe they mean something different for your body though, since they just started more recently!! Fingers crossed!
Post by 2dogs2kids on Jun 10, 2016 12:29:18 GMT -5
birdhut I totally feel your frustration with the BH and unproductive contractions. I am in the same exact boat.
txmommy14 it's funny you mention what you've been drinking because either I have missed it or no one has been taking about it... But I have been wondering what all the mamas with outside babies have had to drink!! Jealous of your margarita! Can't wait for mine!
soultrane sorry your dealing with that. Hope he feels better soon! California baby sensitive is super expensive but in all my years working with kids I've never seen one have a reaction to it.
woodengirl07 that seems like kind of a big difference. How did they measure her? When DS was a few weeks old he had to have surgery and he went to children's hospital so they had a special tool they measured him with which they stated was much more accurate than the draw a line on the paper at each end technique. If they used different ways of measuring I could see a difference.
nymama917 epidural is so worth it. This is coming from someone who has such an anxiety of needles that I have to mentally prepare myself for it and then lay down for injections, blood draws, etc. I was hysterically crying when they came in to give me epi with DS and told me DH had to leave the room. It was super quick and the relief was instant. Highly recommended!
Someone tell me how great the epidural is. Someone tell me how it's no big deal to get and I'm a crazy person for not automatically getting. And for some stupid reason my biggest fear is getting a catheter....someone tell me that's just being dumb
I've had 3 epidurals. I think they're amazing. They've allowed me to have three very peaceful births. They've allowed me to sleep while my body does the work so I'm not exhausted for pushing or the rest of the day. I'm not going to tell you you're crazy for not getting one, as I believe "the right thing" is different for everyone. But for me they are amazing. That said they are not without their complications...my first epidural took 2 or three times to place, my second took about 8 (DH said my back looked like a minefield), my BP dropped after the second one and I had some lingering numbness in my left foot for a few days. my third one was placed on the first try(!!) but my BP dropped immediately after and we continued to struggle with my BP until baby was born. After all this, I would still get another...
Post by 2dogs2kids on Jun 10, 2016 12:34:21 GMT -5
I really thought last night was the night. I woke up at 11:30 with cramps. Had diarrhea x2. Had a few serious contractions and then nothing. Just constant BH and pelvic pain all day long! FX for good news from my appointment today.
Post by Outofhiding on Jun 10, 2016 13:39:56 GMT -5
nymama917 same here with the first birth. I was so much more in tune with the pregnancy. I had an idea of the birth plan I wanted but I also wanted to be very flexible because I had never done it before and just did not know how I would respond to the events. I ended up having an epi because I stalled out. I broke down crying when they told me my DH had to leave the room for the epi and then the anesthesiologist ended up giving me the shot before she told me she was going to so I jumped and then she yelled at me for jumping. The epi started to wear off very quickly on my left side so I ended up feeling everything on that side. Believe it or not I am still happy I got the epi. I just need to mentally prepare myself to go into this next delivery with an open mind knowing things don't go as planned.
We will roll with the punches and we will rock this labor thing!
Post by Outofhiding on Jun 10, 2016 13:45:12 GMT -5
2dogs2kids I am due Father's Day weekend so no plans for then. I ordered a rocker recliner for DH. He's been wanting one for two years and we finally agreed on one. We also got him a coffee maker for his office desk because not everyone is as good about cleaning and making coffee. Lastly, I ordered a onesie on Etsy that says "I am your Father's Day present. Mom says you're welcome." In addition to a shirt for DD that says "I have the best dad ever."
nymama917 I don't think I would have had any energy to push if I didn't have the epidural. The contractions were pretty much continuous by the time I got it and I could not imagine getting through labor without it. It felt amazing even though my BP did drop a bit. However I definitely don't think you are crazy not automatically getting one though - you do what is right for you! FWIW I didn't even notice the catheter at all.
2dogs2kids since it is DH's first Father's Day I got him an engraved watch. I'm so excited to give it to him!
nymama917 my doctor, my nurse and I were discussing epidural while I was waiting to give birth. I could have a full blown conversation with them because I was calm, relaxed and free of pain because of the epidural. We all agreed, why wouldn't you get one? That said i respect women 100% for going drug free. My thought is, if I have an opportunity to have some pain free time then why not. My experience this time was worse than with ds1. I got very light headed after the first attempt, it took 3 tries, 45 minutes start to finish instead of just a few minutes with ds1. My left leg got a lot more and was dead for at least 12 hours after. Also, an epidural minimizes the pain from contractions but you can still feel the pressure of pushing. My nurse compared it to numbing your teeth. You can't feel the nerve pain, but you can feel the motion of the drill. I hope either way you have the opportunity/time to decide one way or another.
nymama917, I'm a "do what you need to do in the moment" kind of person. I got an epidural with DS1 and was able to labor for 18 hours without really feeling too much. The catheter wasn't a big deal because they put it in after I was numb and took it out before it the numbness completely wore off. I did have some soreness after, but I can't say whether it was due to the catheter or the delivery. Let's be real - it's a disaster down there afterward regardless of what you choose.
With DS2, no epi because there was just no time for it. It happened so quickly that I'm pretty confident that the shock helped me manage the pain, but part of me is glad that the decision was made for me.
So happy we got good news today! Weight was way up again and the Bilirubin numbers finally started to drop. It was only a small drop but the pedi says that is all you need to know things are fine. Time back in the hospital for the lights would not have been a huge deal, but DHs mom arrives today and I'm glad we can have a visit at home.
nymama917 The epidural was amazing. I went from barely able to move in total misery to pain free and relaxing for hours afterwards. The funny part is, I kind of loved the catheter too. I couldn't feel a thing when they put it in and lying in bed without having to get up to pee every half hour was kind of awesome after third tri. I expected the process of putting it in to be really painful, but it wasn't bad at all. After a few hours I did get some pain, but it was still much better than feeling everything and I got a lot of sleep.
nymama917 I got an epidural with DS and I plan to get another this time if I can. It was great. I took a nap while waiting to progress more. I didn't have any side effects and I could still feel the sensation to push. I was able to walk with the nurses help right away after giving birth and it completely wore off pretty soon after that. I didn't even realize I had a catheter. That being said, some women do have side effects and don't have as good of any experience as what I had. Getting an epidural isn't the right choice for everyone, but it definitely is for me.
I've had a busy day at work and then I went and toured another preschool. I've finally found a preschool that I want to switch DS to that doesn't have a crazy long wait list. It's a little farther and a little more expensive than what I would like, but I've got to make a change for him. I've been having some big issues with his current place recently. We can start him at the new place in mid-August, which should be pretty good timing.
Post by carolinaheart on Jun 10, 2016 15:06:36 GMT -5
I am really loving all this honest epidural talk. I'm so scared of a needle in my spine but I worry about running out of energy before pushing time if things are slow.
I'm feeling a lot more at peace than yesterday and am trying to get into a go with the flow mind set.
Post by packerfan4life on Jun 10, 2016 15:22:37 GMT -5
I'm hoping to avoid an epidural if I can. I'm keeping an open mind though and will do whatever feels right in the moment. I know of people who have had super easy deliveries with and without an epidural.
Thanks ladies! After telling everyone to talk me into an epidural I do need to plug that going without wasn't unbearable. It hurt, yes....but honestly the minute the baby was out that was it there was absolutely no more pain at all. So if you're considering not, I'm here to tell you it's not that bad. I just think you need to be mentally prepared for it because it's very much mind over matter in a lot of cases. There were times I considered the epidural and needed the willpower to keep going. The teacher at the hospital classes we took said if you're on the fence and "wait and see" most likely you will take the epi. I think she was right. Nothing wrong with the decision (obviously I'm strongly considering this time) but if that's not what you really want then you need to be head strong. I just don't know if I'm that head strong this time so I'm trying to get comfortable with the other side. My real wish is that it happens so fast I don't have time to make the decision and just deliver
When I say no pain afterwards, you still obviously have the pain of having your lady bits tore up and all that, but there is no lingering labor pain or anything different than if you got the epi. And they gave me a local before the episiotomy and stitching so I didn't feel any of that until the local wore off and then it was the same amount of sore as you would have otherwise.
I feel like length is the most inaccurate measurement they do! DD was 19.5 inches at birth, then magically she was like 20.8 inches 4 days later? I doubt she grew over an inch but it drastically changed her height percentile!
We had an appointment today and DD is 8 pounds exactly so she has regained everything she lost plus 3 ounces! Everything else went well and we did the second PKU screen. I have such bad memories from the newborn screen because our DS came up as positive for a serious disease and it took us 2 months of testing at a hospital in Dallas to find out it was a false positive, but thankfully her screen came up negative so far!
2dogs2kids- I got DH a children's book about the University of Alabama. His parents didn't read to him much and he is a huge Alabama fan, so I'm hoping he likes it.
I'm hoping to avoid an epidural if I can. I'm keeping an open mind though and will do whatever feels right in the moment. I know of people who have had super easy deliveries with and without an epidural.
This is the best attitude to have. I've gone med free both times. To me I was just more afraid of a giant needle in my back than contractions. That being said I don't know if I would have been able to go without an epi if I had long labors.
Post by broadwaymama on Jun 10, 2016 16:58:18 GMT -5
I have never had an epi. I have had a pitocin induced labor with no epi. I feel like it's definitely a mind over matter thing. You have to be your own cheerleader. Did it cross my mind? Absolutely but I thought of things like my other kids, and that my baby would be there soon, and that I'm a strong woman and it helped me get through it. For me I can't imagine not feeling it but that is me. Any way you do it you are amazing just for doing it period. Go with your gut!
I have a question for those of you who have cloth diapered - do you generally run things through 2 cycles in the wash, pre-soak the diapers, use a certain temperature in the wash, or anything else special? Maybe it's just my imagination, but I feel like DS's non-disposable swim diapers and his swim shorts still smell like pee after washing them. I didn't pre-soak and ran them through a regular cycle using Tide with cool water. I'm probably doing many things wrong, so teach me your ways!
Post by woodengirl07 on Jun 10, 2016 17:25:51 GMT -5
I had an epidural since I was induced, they basically told me to do it since I might need a c section and it is much easier if there is already a port I guess. If things had gone naturally I was not particularly interested in having one, but the induction made it pretty much needed. But it was pretty nice, I'll admit, after hours of pain. The actual process of the epi was not too bad, the catheter was the worst part.
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