I am up. DH got called in to work to head OOT because one of the helicopters broke down. Now he has a 5hr drive, needs to stay the night, and hopefully if he can fix it he will be home Sunday evening. I'm just bummed because he worked all week, we have a party to go to today, and now I need to last minute recruit people to help set up for the shower tomorrow.
Bah! Humbug!
Also it is rainy and contractions could you stop please I slept like crap kkthanksbye.
We have no couch until Monday, so DS is in bed with us watching Aladdin and it's nice to just snuggle.
We are getting rid of DS's crib today and I'm freaking out about it. DNW him out of it at 5:30am. Fx his okay to wake clock still works when he's in the bed
Post by housecarder on Jun 11, 2016 6:38:42 GMT -5
I feel you on the contractions causing crappy sleep. Normally I'd go back to bed but my BFF, DD, and I are going to go get pedicures today. I think I might splurge on a mani too. My BFF wants to come swim this afternoon but I told her I'd have to see how I'm feeling.
I can only take my BFF in small doses lately because she has temporary custody of her nephew and comes off as super condescending about parenting even more so now than she did before (we both worked in child care). The last time she came over with him and my other mom friend I was watching their boys who are only a month or two apart. Her nephew was only talking by repeating and it was super slurred and unclear (he's two so that's not abnormal, and his mom was on drugs the entire pregnancy so there is a good chance he could have delays). The other boy didn't talk as much because he was shy, but everything was clear and often unprompted, his own words, not just repeating. As soon as my other friend left she started in on how much more advanced her "son" is even though he is only a few months older. I had to bite my tongue.
She came over for dinner and we have two older loud kids and a big house so I have to yell up the stairs (I can't handle climbing up and down right now) to get the kids' attention. Her kid is always attached to her leg, even at her house, and she had to force him to go play. As he tip toes off to go play with my kids she says "he's just nervous because this is more yelling than he's ever heard in his entire life". BS, for one. 2. If you don't like me "yelling" up the stairs go home.
Ray, That sounds stressful. Good luck!!! Hope the weekend goes smoothly.
melody330, The thought of no crib is terrifying to me. Lol. I can't even think that far ahead with K.
housecarder, Do we know the same person? My stepmothers sister just got custody of her 3 step grandkids (she has no children of her own) and she's now acting like parenting expert of the year. It's bizarre.
I'm going to try to participate more. MH is on a 24 hour call today, which is the nature of the beast, but mom is around to hang out with me. We're going to pick up plates for the truck and run some errands. Also, I finally found a Father's Day present for Mh. He didn't get me anything for Mother's Day (he worked), so I know he'll feel bad, but I don't care. I wanted to get him something small and cute. Now the girls will have matching tops.
Also, we're throwing Sadie Rose around as a name. Idk. We need to come up with something.
Post by madamewaffles on Jun 11, 2016 7:01:46 GMT -5
Good luck with the party arrangements, Ray!
Aladdin in bed sounds awesome. Add cereal and you've made a perfect morning.
Super ugh, housecarder. I hate that passive aggressive parenting crap!
I was up till 12:30 with insomnia and woke up at 6:00 with my dog whining to pee. Took him out and came back, settled into bed and now baby decided it is a great time for a house party so he's dancing away. I ought to just get up but I am gonna laze and see if I can drift off...
Post by housecarder on Jun 11, 2016 7:03:08 GMT -5
TheTuna15 she's had him for a year now. She is doing as best she can as a single "mom" but there are definitely things that I question and I just hold back because it's not me. When she first got custody of him she was like "I'm going to have him call me *pet name* that his older siblings call me and not push for mommy unless he wants to". A month later he's calling her mommy and I heard her correct him when he calls her the original pet name "no I'm mommy". He's in the middle of the two year old defiance and I've seen her slap his mouth for saying no. But he's "such an obedient kid". Before we got married she vented to MH when we were room mates and she had no kids about how I'm too lenient with DD because I only had her part time since I share custody with my ex and I must feel guilty about it. Which is complete BS, I just don't go around hitting toddlers.
I feel you on the contractions causing crappy sleep. Normally I'd go back to bed but my BFF, DD, and I are going to go get pedicures today. I think I might splurge on a mani too. My BFF wants to come swim this afternoon but I told her I'd have to see how I'm feeling.
I can only take my BFF in small doses lately because she has temporary custody of her nephew and comes off as super condescending about parenting even more so now than she did before (we both worked in child care). The last time she came over with him and my other mom friend I was watching their boys who are only a month or two apart. Her nephew was only talking by repeating and it was super slurred and unclear (he's two so that's not abnormal, and his mom was on drugs the entire pregnancy so there is a good chance he could have delays). The other boy didn't talk as much because he was shy, but everything was clear and often unprompted, his own words, not just repeating. As soon as my other friend left she started in on how much more advanced her "son" is even though he is only a few months older. I had to bite my tongue.
She came over for dinner and we have two older loud kids and a big house so I have to yell up the stairs (I can't handle climbing up and down right now) to get the kids' attention. Her kid is always attached to her leg, even at her house, and she had to force him to go play. As he tip toes off to go play with my kids she says "he's just nervous because this is more yelling than he's ever heard in his entire life". BS, for one. 2. If you don't like me "yelling" up the stairs go home.
I'm not gonna lie, I have my share of internal judgements about kids and have to bite my tongue and turn my teacher off in public - but these are generally other people's kids who are acting like assholes and they're doing nothing about it. Not cool to be ragging on people/their kids for just being at different stages or making sly back-handed comments to you.
Post by housecarder on Jun 11, 2016 7:13:07 GMT -5
Ray I have that too, I was a preschool teacher for years. But as a parent I know that you have to choose your battles and that I don't always know the full story.
I just found it so amusing to watch her get so frustrated as she told me how obedient he is and turn around and he tells her no, so she slaps his mouth (not hard) but all that resulted in was him telling her no louder and her hitting a bit harder. This goes on for 3-4 times and he screams no in her face and she gives up. So the opposite of good parenting.
housecarder, Wow. I'll be the first to admit that the toddler period is not my favorite, but no to hitting them. I must say "no" at least a hundred times a day, though, which is fun. But is that really still a thing? I got a few smacks on the ass as a kid for being snotty brat, but "time outs" we're still more of a thing growing up.
housecarder, Wow. I'll be the first to admit that the toddler period is not my favorite, but no to hitting them. I must say "no" at least a hundred times a day, though, which is fun. But is that really still a thing? I got a few smacks on the ass as a kid for being snotty brat, but "time outs" we're still more of a thing growing up.
I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I've had to resort to spanking my kids, and that was a result of total shit fits that were endangering themselves or me. We do corner or time out (H likes the corner option because he is very old school). Yes my kids have normal behavior things from time to time but they are polite, they listen, and are very loving sweet kids.
She is an early childhood major so she knows how to best handle these kinds of things, but she had very strict parents growing up and reverts to their style a lot. I feel like she would support the Dugger style blanket training because she seems so focused on obedience rather than learning.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Jun 11, 2016 7:37:54 GMT -5
I really want to just stay in this weekend. Between the CMA's going on in Nashville and Bonaroo going on south of us traffic and everything will be a mess. I do have to make a small trip into town to get the Jeep an emissions test but that is it. Hopefully we will get a chance to clean the house some.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jun 11, 2016 7:40:08 GMT -5
I try not to judge other parents too hard because we all have our particular challenges and you never know who's at the breaking point, but if I saw someone hit a two-years-old's face, the gasp and steam coming from my ears might give away how I felt.
housecarder, Those duggars legitimately terrify me. I went to an insanely strict Catholic school, and I swear the nuns were pissed that they weren't allowed to hit us anymore.
I'm with cabbagecabbage, that I don't think I would have been able to school my reaction. Like... If a toddler almost ran into traffic, and mom smacked him. I probably wouldn't bat an eye because I could imagine doing the same thing. But that's a real danger level. If you can't handle your kid telling you "no" without hitting them, there's a parenting issue.
If you can't handle your kid telling you "no" without hitting them, there's a parenting issue.
Yeah I might say something the first time, like "I'm sorry you don't want to leave the pool, but it's time to go" but after that if they say no I'm just going to ignore them and put their shoes on them and if they drop to the ground I'm going to pick them up and still leave, because I'm the adult and the kid isn't going to dictate what happens and there isn't going to be an argument back and forth with slapping and everything.
If you can't handle your kid telling you "no" without hitting them, there's a parenting issue.
Yeah I might say something the first time, like "I'm sorry you don't want to leave the pool, but it's time to go" but after that if they say no I'm just going to ignore them and put their shoes on them and if they drop to the ground I'm going to pick them up and still leave, because I'm the adult and the kid isn't going to dictate what happens and there isn't going to be an argument back and forth with slapping and everything.
So I watched my cousin do this to his 12 year old and it was the funniest thing for me and the most mortifying for her, but she learned her lesson. Seriously though, my family has always been great about disciplining kids, but she pulled one of those preteen angst "I don't have to do what you tell me" spiels. So she got hauled over a shoulder and taken to the car. My future tactic may be "listen or I will humiliate you in front of everyone who you want to think that you're cool."
Yeah I might say something the first time, like "I'm sorry you don't want to leave the pool, but it's time to go" but after that if they say no I'm just going to ignore them and put their shoes on them and if they drop to the ground I'm going to pick them up and still leave, because I'm the adult and the kid isn't going to dictate what happens and there isn't going to be an argument back and forth with slapping and everything.
So I watched my cousin do this to his 12 year old and it was the funniest thing for me and the most mortifying for her, but she learned her lesson. Seriously though, my family has always been great about disciplining kids, but she pulled one of those preteen angst "I don't have to do what you tell me" spiels. So she got hauled over a shoulder and taken to the car. My future tactic may be "listen or I will humiliate you in front of everyone who you want to think that you're cool."
We were at a restaurant once and a kid was being a little brat. So she said "stop or you'll eat in the car" basically. He didn't so she forced him out to the car, him throwing a fit the whole way. He ate is meal out there (I'm assuming) and when he finished she made him come in an apologize to every table and waiter for disrupting their meal/workplace.
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If you can't handle your kid telling you "no" without hitting them, there's a parenting issue.
Yeah I might say something the first time, like "I'm sorry you don't want to leave the pool, but it's time to go" but after that if they say no I'm just going to ignore them and put their shoes on them and if they drop to the ground I'm going to pick them up and still leave, because I'm the adult and the kid isn't going to dictate what happens and there isn't going to be an argument back and forth with slapping and everything.
Ha ha this reminds me when my sister was about the same age and being a brat at the cottage. Maybe not a stellar parenting moment, but my uncle tossed her into the lake, clothes and all. Cooled her heels and we still bring it up every now and then!
ETA whoops, meant to quote thetuna and her preteen angst story!
BHs make me nauseous. Baby boy seems to be moving more normal today. But I think I will be worried until he gets here. :/ kick counts are going well and hb's fine. Just ob told me he would start being more jabby kicks. It just seems to be lighter movement and he got hiccups twice yesterday.
I got to sleep another 2 hours and I just finished my Cocoa Puffs. I am a content pregnant lady now.
I also went back down for a nap. Think I might make some Kraft Dinner and then Netflix before the birthday. It's rainy and crummy and I don't feel like doing anything lol
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jun 11, 2016 10:39:27 GMT -5
My nearly 4yo spit milk on a mirror in the playroom and had no idea why she did it. Then she wailed and tantrumed that I turned off her TV show and made her wash the window and go play by herself for a while. She was mad that her milk was gone and I wasn't giving her any more. She's usually very mature for her age but she's been regressing. I'm scared for the new baby. #meanestmomever #pleaseturnfour
My nearly 4yo spit milk on a mirror in the playroom and had no idea why she did it. Then she wailed and tantrumed that I turned off her TV show and made her wash the window and go play by herself for a while. She was mad that her milk was gone and I wasn't giving her any more. She's usually very mature for her age but she's been regressing. I'm scared for the new baby. #meanestmomever #pleaseturnfour
L has been regressing a bit on and off and I am sure it's because he knows S is coming. Sometimes he will be great and just do everything by himself and then it seems like the next day he will want to be treated like a toddler. When he is acting out we tell him that if he wants to act like a toddler we will treat him like one and that means he needs a nap and he will go to bed an hour earlier. I have no problem being the mean mommy, he can be angry and stubborn but so can I.
Lol but seriously though. It is quite apparently by the time they get to me which parents set boundaries and expectations for their kids, and which kids run the houses lol
Post by tikoberry99 on Jun 11, 2016 11:30:56 GMT -5
Renting a boat with our weekend guests then getting Indian food for dinner...yum. My birthday is tomorrow and we are chilling at the lake then grilling. My birthday dinner will be Monday at Benihana since they don't let you use their birthday certificate on the weekend....boo.
Post by harlowjune1984 on Jun 11, 2016 13:18:06 GMT -5
I am tired of my husband procrastinating. It is driving me insane. I am looking forward to him going out of town, so I can get things done without backtracking because he is making a mess behind me, or starting more annoying projects instead of finishing the ones that need to be finished before the baby is born.
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