@samrs22 I know it's so hard to hear even the most well meaning encouragement when TTCAL. It sucks to hear any optimism when the other person has no experience with the situation or doesn't know the ins and outs of what you've been through. You are doing the right thing in your search to get answers. Don't let others make your feel guilty for not believing shit like "it'll all work out!" I definitely can relate to the frustration of people over simplifying TTCAL.
I want hair pats Please read below so you know why I want those pats Doing? Sick - I may have Zika or chicungunya Status- i was due to start TTC again in august after my loss, but this stupid Zika threw our plans through a loop indefinitely. A normal person would just say, meh, its ok, ill just get pregnant 8 months from now instead... But in my book, this means: 8 months from now Ill start trying, but because its hard fpr me to get KU anyway, it may be... Ugh why even bother thinking about it? Im just so crestfallen and sad. Diagnosis: hashimotos Updates: just booo to zika. Debbiedowner: i think I have chicungunya right now, which sucks because if i had atleast gotten zika I wouldve been inoculated and the wait would be shorter.
anaberry Really, though, boo for zika or whatever it is, hope you get answers soon and don't have to wait so long! Did you travel somewhere recently that you picked something up?
Updates/questions: is it unreasonable for me to refuse to go in for weekly monitoring as my hcg goes down? I just want to do it less frequently. I'm beginning to feel like all I've been doing for the past couple of months is have people stick me for bloodwork. Still have the bruises from my iv for my d&c & I'm just done with it. I have my follow up for my d&c on Monday, we'll see what the OB says.
Debbie downer (a place to vent): I think we may take a month or two off from TTC. On the one hand I want to get on with it, but on the other hand I really feel like I need a mental break. With two unexplained mc's back to back, maybe my body just needs a minute to catch up and get back to normal. Idk, I don't have a real basis for it. Also thinking charting a cycle or two might give me some info to go on. I was doing ok but the past couple days I've just been feeling down and get overly upset when frustrating things happen.
QOTW: Are you superstitious? I knock on wood, throw salt when it spills. I have lucky beads for football season that I have to wear on game day. If I toast with water it has to be "to the queen" or it's bad luck. That's about it though. These are weird, now that I'm reading them... DH and I got married on Friday the 13th so clearly we're not overly superstitious.
anaberry Really, though, boo for zika or whatever it is, hope you get answers soon and don't have to wait so long! Did you travel somewhere recently that you picked something up?
I live in Honduras. Biggest sad face ever over here.
I'm sorry anaberry. I'm not familiar with chicungunya. Is that something that would impact TTC?
(((Hugs))) irish14. I felt like I needed some time after my MC before TTC again, too. So I can definitely understand that feeling. In my case, my hcg took forever to come down so by the time is was negative, I was ready again. But I think it's totally ok to take whatever time you need. Emotional and physical healing can take time. I also think it's ok to ask your doctor about spacing out betas. How often are they doing them now?
Hugs irish14. I benched myself for a cycle while waiting for my first post-loss period. I needed that 8 weeks just for my own emotional state to get back to normal. Take whatever time you need.
caer, chicungunya does not affect a fetus, but Zika does. The WHO recently publicized they recommend women who live in Zika prone countries to postpone a pregnancy in order to avoid risks to a developing fetus/embryo. The concept is that throughout this year, we gain immunity toward the virus. But damn, it breaks my heart. The wise part of me knows it's not worth the risk though.
anaberry Really, though, boo for zika or whatever it is, hope you get answers soon and don't have to wait so long! Did you travel somewhere recently that you picked something up?
I live in Honduras. Biggest sad face ever over here.
. I'm sorry you have to plan around environmental stuff, that's just sucky to add to the stresses of ttc. Sending extra hope zika clears up soon, or they find a treatment, or something.
caer last time they did them at least 1x/week. I'm thinking I'll ask to do every 2-3 weeks.
That sounds like a good plan. Being a human pincushion is the worst.
and I'm apparently a hard stick. Someone once told me I have the veins of a four year old. Once they had to go get the person who does addicts in the ER with collapsed veins. I have had at least two massive bruises after having blood drawn at the OB this year, and another time the phleb had to dig around for it (hate hate hate omg I'm squirming now just thinking about it). I never used to mind it but I'm getting less tolerant.
Didn't know I had quite that many feels about this til I started typing...
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
anaberry No, I'm so so sorry. Is standard procedure to wait 8 months after Zika? I didn't know that. Extended bench time sucks so hard. When I was benched after my complicated loss I hung out on the WTDS threads each week too. All the hugs and head pats.
Updates/questions: is it unreasonable for me to refuse to go in for weekly monitoring as my hcg goes down? I just want to do it less frequently. I'm beginning to feel like all I've been doing for the past couple of months is have people stick me for bloodwork. Still have the bruises from my iv for my d&c & I'm just done with it. I have my follow up for my d&c on Monday, we'll see what the OB says.
I don't see why weekly is necessary unless it was for fear of an ectopic or molar pregnancy. I would even wonder if you could just pee on a test in a month (assuming you TTA) to guarantee the hCG is gone.
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