I regret not paying off my loans right away. Even though we're working really hard to fix that right now.
I regret the few years I taught right after college. It was too stressful, i was too invested, and it was not rewarding. It took a toll on my marriage and I was miserable. I'm glad I'm doing a job now where I can leave work at work.
In terms of parenting, I really regret letting so many people hold the baby the day after she was born. She barely nursed and this made her jaundice worse. I should've said f- all of you, give me my baby. I just didn't know any better. Now I don't let anyone get between me and feeding my squish.
I regret going back to work FT at 8 weeks. If I could just work 1/2 days that would be ideal. Alas, my maternity leave was completely unpaid, so I had to go back.
I wouldn't trade my kids for the world, but I wish I would have established my career before kids. It's hard to get hired in forestry or wildlife management when pregnant (must be able to lift 50 lbs) and I have spent a significant part of the last 3 years pregnant. I would also likely have to wean because pumping wouldn't be feasible in the field. Maybe someday I will use my degree.
I wish I would have travelled more before getting pets and having a baby. We were married 4 years by the time we had DS, but I still feel like we didn't do enough. I've been to France and Monaco, but I want to visit England, Scotland, Ireland, Italy, Greece, and the Czech Republic.
I wish I had gone to grad school before we had DD. I was all enrolled but chickened out cause I didn't want more student loans...I should have just done it anyway.
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I wish I would have travelled more before getting pets and having a baby. We were married 4 years by the time we had DS, but I still feel like we didn't do enough. I've been to France and Monaco, but I want to visit England, Scotland, Ireland, Italy, Greece, and the Czech Republic.
This. DH and I wanted to do a Europe trip before kids, but we just never had the money or time to go. Now I feel like we missed our chance.
Post by craftcrazymama on Jun 18, 2016 12:53:18 GMT -5
Even though I have some awesome friends I wish I'd tried harder with some old friendships.
I'm not naturally a person who needs a lot of social input so I can tend to be too relaxed about up keeping connections with friends. There's a few that I've drifted from over the years because of it and I wish I'd worked harder to keep them close.
I wish I hadn't been quite so worried about money in college. I skipped out on a lot of stuff so I could work a ton. I left without debt which was awesome but I think I would have closer relationships with my girlfriends from college had I said yes more.
We traveled a ton with dd1 but slowed when she stopped being a lap baby. I know we won't travel as much as we used to now that we have two kids.
I regret not trying for baby sooner. We have only been married for 3 years but we were ready. DH is 36. He has been ready for a longtime. We could not have known it would be a struggle. I regret not doing more while struggling with IF. We should have taken trips or more dates. I was just so depressed.
I regret my Camry purchase. It was overwhelming to pick a car. I wish we had purchased a VW wagon or went ahead and got the minivan we will get in a year or two.
Post by craftcrazymama on Jun 18, 2016 23:01:23 GMT -5
I regret marrying my first husband. I don't regret the lesson it taught me but I wish I had stayed single and enjoyed things like travel and my friends more. I was on an amazing 6 figure income so could have done much more than I did. Instead I wifed up and waited for him to make me happy. It never happened.
I was a film major in college. Seriously, who the fuck thought it was a good idea to let 18-year-olds pick the major that will be the launching point for their entire adult life?
I love my kids so much, but I wish I had waited a bit before starting a family. DH and I had only been married 2 years when my first was born, and I would have loved to travel with him first. We'll have plenty of time when the kids are gone though!
Me too. I wouldn't trade my kids but I think I would've waited a little while longer. We were married for 7 months when I got pregnant with DS1. Our 5 year anniversary is in August and we have 3 kids. Our life is so nuts. I often feel like I bit off more than I can chew.
I regret not traveling more before having kids. I have travled a lot of great places, but I wish I had done more. I regret to some degree waiting so long to have kids, but I really was not ready, and I did end up with my dream job, which likley would not have happened if I had had kids earlier. I just worry my parents won't be around forever (they also had kids later) and I want them to know my kids. I regret that I did not go out more in college.
I regret my Camry purchase. It was overwhelming to pick a car. I wish we had purchased a VW wagon or went ahead and got the minivan we will get in a year or two.
I love my Camry. I've had it for 8 years, and while I've toyed with the idea of getting a new car, I just can't see going back to car payments when mine is 10 years old and is still in amazing condition. In all this time, I've only had to replace the batteries on the keys, and I recently had a censor go out that needs to be replaced. That's it. Not fancy, but it has some definite perks.
Thats why We picked it. We have had to replace basic stuff. We bought it used the list of things needed work was longer than excepted but not awful. DH also does repairs himself. We also don't have a car payment and wouldn't buy anything that would require one. It is very comfortable too. Maybe it's just that Dh is car enthusiast and hobby car shopper that makes me want something else.
I almost forgot my absolute biggest regret: buying my condo. H and I had been dating for 2 years with no engagement in sight. I was sick of renting and he wasn't ready to commit, so I bought a condo at what I thought was the absolute bottom of the housing market. Lol. We got married two years later and I moved into his house because he had two big dogs. I currently owe $30,000 more than what the place is worth. I've had 5 tenants in 4 years and it is a massive pain in the ass.
I love my formal dining room. I dont have a need for a playroom though. Do you have a big eat in kitchen?
We typically eat in the kitchen at a four person table. When I was growing up, we had finished basement and my parents would let us play down there and make a big mess. They shut the door and the mess was out of sight. Now, D plays in the living room or her bedroom.
My dream forever home has basement. Id like to be able to send kids down later. I have two seater in my kitchen that i hate so we never use.
How long do you plan to stay in your house? We have debated projects for this very reason.
Not sure. Mortgage is really cheap too. We bought new after we got married and said 5-8 years. We are at 8 years. We have talked about staying here three more years. I just need relatives to stop buying big toys that they don't play with.
Thats a decent length of time. Do want a bigger house or just a change? We are staying we are for likley anothing 3 years. I have mixed emotions. Id donate unused big toys but hey I am a little bitchy.
I regret buying a house built in 1900. And now that we have a baby, I don't want to be in town anymore either. It's a very nice neighborhood, but I'm so sick of loud motorcycles, people playing music at night, etc.
I kinda regret waiting so long for kids. I wasn't ready and established my career plus traveled a few places (wish I traveled more tho). So I'm happy about all that but now all my friends kids are growing up and I'm the only one with a newborn
I regret buying a house built in 1900. And now that we have a baby, I don't want to be in town anymore either. It's a very nice neighborhood, but I'm so sick of loud motorcycles, people playing music at night, etc.
That sounds like a ton of work to maintain, and the noisy neighbors...ugh.
A 100-year-old house really appeals to my inner geek, though. What's it like?! Have you done any renovations? Does the house have any cool, quirky features?
We bought a 1920 farmhouse last fall. I absolutely love it. Ours was very well taken care of by previous owners, but there are always going to be issues. In a few weeks we have to have all the old galvanized pipes leading to the bathrooms replaced. Some of our windows are original - single pane - and will need replaced soon. We have a seven year plan to redo the foundation because the cellar is damp. I'd like to be able to use it as a root cellar one day. It's so creepy now - you get to it from outside and feel like you're descending into a horror movie when you climb down the ladder.
We have one original lighting fixture in the dining room that I love. But the coolest part is the old barn. It was made of block, so has held up well. We're getting ready to replace the roof and hay loft next month.
I love living in an old house. When I had my homebirth I kept wondering how many other babies had been born in this home. I strangely drew strength from the idea of some mother in 1920 giving birth exactly where I was.
Post by creepyeyeball on Jun 21, 2016 11:25:29 GMT -5
I regret my engagement ring/wedding band. I had different style back then and wanted a diamond engagement ring and matching band of diamonds. DH wasted money on it because it's not my style anymore. I never really wear jewelry now, let alone diamonds. I wish I just had a solid gold band or something plain.
I've actually considered selling it and switching to a band. I'm not sentimentally attached to it at all.
I regret buying a house built in 1900. And now that we have a baby, I don't want to be in town anymore either. It's a very nice neighborhood, but I'm so sick of loud motorcycles, people playing music at night, etc.
That sounds like a ton of work to maintain, and the noisy neighbors...ugh.
A 100-year-old house really appeals to my inner geek, though. What's it like?! Have you done any renovations? Does the house have any cool, quirky features?
It used to be haunted. Does that count as quirky?
The guy we bought it from had flipped it, so renovations were already done. It has the original wood floors. Otherwise it's not that cool for an old house. Not like a Victorian or anything.
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