Revised Newbie Post/Sticky
Jan 16, 2015 13:27:11 GMT -5
Post by readinglove on Jan 16, 2015 13:27:11 GMT -5
I started working on revising our old sticky. The original was about 1 1/3 pages long, and this one is about 2/3 page. This is the first round, and I am more than open to suggestions/revisions/edits - anything you ladies think will make it better! I tried to include as many of the same ideas/concepts from the original in a more concise manner. Here's what I have so far:
Welcome to Conceiving After a Loss. First, we are very sorry for your loss. No one should ever have to go through it, and while we are sorry you have to be here, we are glad you have chosen to join us as you and your spouse/partner try again. There are some things, however, that you should be aware of. Knowing these things will help ease your transition into our community.
1) Please take some time to lurk and get the feel for this board. The women here have been supporting each other through life’s worst, and we are protective of each other. Take time to get to know us.
2) Give support to get support. Participate meaningfully, don't use us as your own personal Google and you will build relationships to get you through the dark times you may face ahead.
3) There are some things we just can’t know, and if you ask, we will kindly let you know that. For example, we cannot know if you’re pregnant, nor can we tell you if your symptoms are early pregnancy signs. If you’re wondering, take an HPT.
4) We know the TWW is an awful time. If you find us during this time, know that we wish you the best, but we kindly ask that you hold off from posting/introing. If you do in fact wind up pregnant, head on over to Carrying a Rainbow If AF shows her ugly head, post an intro and join us.
5) There are some awesome daily, weekly, and bi-weekly posts to check out. The Crazy Train (where we commiserate during the TWW), TTA Check-in (for those who are ready to try again, but are on hold for various reasons), and the Newbie Check-in are great places to start!
6) Our members are going to tell you the truth - and nothing but. We don’t believe in glitter farts here - your health is too important for those kinds of comments and platitudes. Please be prepared for this. Sometimes, the truth isn’t easy to hear. We don’t say it out of malice, we say it from experience and knowledge, and wanting to help you as much as we can.
7) There are some things that can be very hurtful here. This is a community of women that have lost babies - whether through miscarriage, babies born too soon, babies born sleeping, or infant loss. Things such as “baby dust”, discussing living children, or mentions of losses being part of God’s plan are incredibly hurtful, and will not be well-received.
[[8) If you are looking for more information or answers, please check out our blog. It was compiled by generations of TTCAL women and is an incredibly valuable resource. Answers to so many of your questions are there. Be sure to click on the "For Newbies" page, too. ttcalblog.wordpress.com]] ← include???
Now, go post an introduction and have fun! We’re excited to get to know you (even under these awful circumstances)!
Welcome to Conceiving After a Loss. First, we are very sorry for your loss. No one should ever have to go through it, and while we are sorry you have to be here, we are glad you have chosen to join us as you and your spouse/partner try again. There are some things, however, that you should be aware of. Knowing these things will help ease your transition into our community.
1) Please take some time to lurk and get the feel for this board. The women here have been supporting each other through life’s worst, and we are protective of each other. Take time to get to know us.
2) Give support to get support. Participate meaningfully, don't use us as your own personal Google and you will build relationships to get you through the dark times you may face ahead.
3) There are some things we just can’t know, and if you ask, we will kindly let you know that. For example, we cannot know if you’re pregnant, nor can we tell you if your symptoms are early pregnancy signs. If you’re wondering, take an HPT.
4) We know the TWW is an awful time. If you find us during this time, know that we wish you the best, but we kindly ask that you hold off from posting/introing. If you do in fact wind up pregnant, head on over to Carrying a Rainbow If AF shows her ugly head, post an intro and join us.
5) There are some awesome daily, weekly, and bi-weekly posts to check out. The Crazy Train (where we commiserate during the TWW), TTA Check-in (for those who are ready to try again, but are on hold for various reasons), and the Newbie Check-in are great places to start!
6) Our members are going to tell you the truth - and nothing but. We don’t believe in glitter farts here - your health is too important for those kinds of comments and platitudes. Please be prepared for this. Sometimes, the truth isn’t easy to hear. We don’t say it out of malice, we say it from experience and knowledge, and wanting to help you as much as we can.
7) There are some things that can be very hurtful here. This is a community of women that have lost babies - whether through miscarriage, babies born too soon, babies born sleeping, or infant loss. Things such as “baby dust”, discussing living children, or mentions of losses being part of God’s plan are incredibly hurtful, and will not be well-received.
[[8) If you are looking for more information or answers, please check out our blog. It was compiled by generations of TTCAL women and is an incredibly valuable resource. Answers to so many of your questions are there. Be sure to click on the "For Newbies" page, too. ttcalblog.wordpress.com]] ← include???
Now, go post an introduction and have fun! We’re excited to get to know you (even under these awful circumstances)!
