DH was injured on the job, per his injury we expected a 5% disability. He'd previously been awarded for a 10% disability and got 30K (ish) so we expected 15Kish.
He was only awarded 2%.
Okay, if 5=15, 2 should = 6K
Nope, it's 1,800$ (they math good).
Fine. But oh wait, since his overall disability has moved from 10% disabled to 12% disabled and they only pay out at 1, 2, 5, 10 , 15..... Since he's not 15% disabled he's not actually getting anything.
perfect.
Thanks Veteran's affairs. I didn't want to take maternity leave anyway, and DH definitely couldn't use the $ to hire someone to help out around the house.
Ray, Even by American standards that makes no sense. Can you guys appeal? I'm sorry that's happening. I'm sure it doesn't help anyone's level of stress.
Today's TP is for my aunt. She texted me asking if I'd heard from my mother and if she was okay at 11:30pm. I'm 36 weeks pregnant with a fucking toddler. You think anytime that late is a good time for this? So I panic. Call my mom until she answers. Mom freaks out thinking I'm in labor or something's wrong. Turns out my aunt texted my mother earlier in the day and my mother never wrote her back, so she thought writing me was apparently the rational thing to do. Needless to say, I didn't get any sleep last night.
Ray that sounds bonkers. Sorry they are being asshats
TheTuna15 that sucks and is totally something that would happen in my family. My mom has 5 sisters, and God forbid they don't get right back to each other they all go into crazy mode. I had to take myself off their group text message because I couldn't keep up with their banter
I'm glad I'm not the only one that thinks that @tuna15.
It just super sucks. We had banked on the house selling and having much cheaper mortgage payments, we banked on that money helping to make mat leave possible.
Neither of those things happened, and now we're struggling to figure out a way for me to stay off until end of October because although my school board with top up my EI, they won't pay it out until Nov 1st.
It's just shitty. Last night DH pulled the "why couldn't you just wait" card. I know he's just stressed too but I feel like I'm letting down this kid because I'm bringing him into a less than ideal financial situation.
I thought of one. My TP goes to our state senate and governor. They are about to pass a 23 cent tax on gas. DNW to pay such a giant gas tax. They are "selling " it with a 1% decrease in sales tax by 2018. Yeaaaaa....that's not worth it.
littlesthobo He could appeal, but he says he doubt it would change anything. They only look at specific documentation to asses level of disability it took almost a year to get to this point, so even if he was successful - it wouldn't help our current situation to appeal anyway. By the time we get a decision my mat leave time would be up and I'd be able to do the stuff again that DH is unable to.
Ray, That really sucks. It's also shitty your husband took his frustration out on you.
TheTuna15, who in their right mind would text message anyone that late unless it was an actual emergency! My MIL thinks that if I don't text back right away I must be mad at her. Then she will text DH and it's just a whole cluster fuck. Yet most the time she doesn't text back right away......
katelou, OMG! Also going from eating a normal diet to and extreme diet right away would cause this. If the body is not use to eating that much fruit it would cause it. Breathing can cause tummy aches too. With how many headlines I have seen about bad food for you, I am surprised your mom can eat anything!
Ray that is some bullshit, I'm sorry they are screwing you over like that. I giggled at your pic though because it reminded me of one I took of Willow the other day. She's been velcroed to me lately:
My TP is just to my overall pain in my back and lack of sleep. I'm over it!
Supposedly we'll be finding out the move date today at some point. It's looking like it'll be next Friday, which is just ridiculous. I can't believe I'm going to have to unpack several boxes and set up the nursery all at 38 weeks pregnant.
I'd like to TP my H. The more I think about this bathroom renovation situation, the more I want to kill him for doing this so close to baby time. There is no way it will be even close to done even if I make it to my induction date, which is 7/21. I was really looking forward to enjoying the last couple weekends we have as a family of 3, and now it will be me and DD hanging out while H makes obscenely loud construction noises all day.
I really don't like to bitch about my H, but this is just the dumbest situation. Oh, and if he tries to work on it during his ONE week off for paternity leave, I will bury him alive.
Post by lostinfaith225 on Jun 30, 2016 13:44:47 GMT -5
My tp is to this day.
I found the dog outside flopping around a dead bunny in the yard. My phone died, like legit doesn't turn on, and there is a nitrate advisory in my town for tap water. Pregnant women over 30 weeks and infants under 6 months can't drink the water.
Post by littlesthobo on Jun 30, 2016 15:05:48 GMT -5
tootsie that's frustrating, I hope your H is able to get it done quickly. I bet it will be nice once it's done, though! But I hear you on it eating up weekend family time, when DH was working on our patio I went and did all sorts of fun stuff with DS to keep him out of the way, but I wished that DH was doing fun stuff with us too. Worst case could you hire someone to finish it?
lostinfaith225 I'm sorry you are having a rough day! And that especially sucks about the water, I hope you didn't drink any!
I'm glad I'm not the only one that thinks that @tuna15.
It just super sucks. We had banked on the house selling and having much cheaper mortgage payments, we banked on that money helping to make mat leave possible.
Neither of those things happened, and now we're struggling to figure out a way for me to stay off until end of October because although my school board with top up my EI, they won't pay it out until Nov 1st.
It's just shitty. Last night DH pulled the "why couldn't you just wait" card. I know he's just stressed too but I feel like I'm letting down this kid because I'm bringing him into a less than ideal financial situation.
What does he mean why couldn't you just wait? Like to get pregnant? Pretty sure he helped with that.
Do you have any family tha can help out around the house?
Can you just live off credit cards for the three months then pay them off when your ei comes in?
I won't even pretend to understand the whole veterans affairs thing but it definitely sounds like a shitty situation all around.
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lovegrilledcheese the only other person that will really be able to help besides H is my 88 year old grandma, so it should make for an interesting time haha. I plan on getting the high priority rooms all set up (nursery, our bedroom, and the kitchen), and then everything else we'll just slowly work on if need be.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Jun 30, 2016 16:26:45 GMT -5
Ray I am sending you (((hugs))) that is such a stressful situation and I am sorry you are having to deal with it.
TP to my OB office being so behind and making me late to pick up DS from summer camp.
I am so ready to just go home. Work was stressful again today because I was dealing with the same shitty cases and people from yesterday. Hopefully tomorrow I can finish them up and they and everyone else can leave me alone.
I was hooked up to the NST monitor for 40 minutes. blah. Funny note is this is the first time my OB had to wait for me and not the other way around. 4cm and 80% effaced.
Sadly walking has been put on hold until next weekend. She is out of the office for a week now
I hope so! I kind of don't want him to come while my ob is out of town. There is always a chance I would get my first ob and I would be okay with that!!! I guess we shall see what baby boy decides.
Post by housecarder on Jun 30, 2016 19:23:24 GMT -5
So I have a question. The new recommendations for swaddlers is to stop using them when baby can roll from back to belly. This is only when they can do it on purpose right? Because Evie kicks her legs and rolls herself over in the swaddler a lot but she doesn't do it purposely.
So I have a question. The new recommendations for swaddlers is to stop using them when baby can roll from back to belly. This is only when they can do it on purpose right? Because Evie kicks her legs and rolls herself over in the swaddler a lot but she doesn't do it purposely.
Ehhh, I would probably stop using it if she did it more than a few times. It's not really a matter of that she can do it purposefully, but that it happens.
I am team swaddlers for life, so it hurts my heart to think of stopping to young. It's the only way DS wound sleep for the first three months of his life.
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