Post by crystaleyes138 on Jul 1, 2016 8:29:05 GMT -5
My ILs are much better grandparents then my parents. My parents are slightly older than my ILs, but my parents just seem oldddddddd. Jacob also prefers my ILs to my parents. I'm hoping it'll get better as he gets older, but I'm not gonna sweat it.
jessiespano and cowplanet - when I had the sickness from hell last month that caused ridiculous coughing fits, I had to stop and cross my legs if I was walking. I must have looked so odd.
There is so much judging that goes on in this house. And I got sucked into the pettiness and I am not happy with myself. Things I've been judged for: Not allowing my four year old to drink caffeinated frapachinos when he's just as happy with a small chocolate milk. Not allowing my four year old to see any movie that isn't G rated. Not allowing my infant to eat fries, Popsicles, and chocolate. Insisting on bed times.
I can not wait to get out of here. We have the keys, and our stuff should be here about the 12th. The FFFC part is I'm so thankful for the free room and board, and everything my parents have done, but I hate being here. It's put a tear in my marriage, and I think I'm sick with stress. Every time we sit down to eat I have to be on guard that they will sneak foods to the baby, or when we put in a movie at 6 pm when the kids are awake it'll be violent or the theme will be too mature.
People say I should have just let it all go, it's temporary, right? But then I would not be the parent I am and that's not what the last two years taught me.
Fwiw, I was being judgy myself. I couldn't believe the foods they let their four year old eat and drink, the pg13 movies they let her watch, and the snottiness and meanness they let her get away with.
It's hard to explain and I know I sound insane- but I am SO glad I dont have to live here forever.
But now, I'm over judging. I just remove myself and my kids and move on b
jessiespano, free room and board or not, that's stressful as hell. When I was a young single mom I lived with my parents while I finished college. While I appreciated them letting me live there it was soooo stressful in terms of parenting and being disrespected, in front of my daughter, at every turn. My parents often ask us to come stay over so they can see the girls and I flat out say no. One of my biggest fears is my H dying and me having to move in with them. It was such an awful time. Biggest hugs to you and I'm sooo glad your own home will be ready soon. Also, fuck "letting it go".
Sigh. Sent my dad and stepmom a fun update email complete with pics of A. Once again, their response is just an update on all the things they are doing to fight abortion in our country. They did this to me on Mother's Day, both when I was pregnant and this year. I know this is pretty much their one purpose in life, to shut down every clinic and harass every woman they possibly can, but I didn't have a damn abortion, you twats! Look at your granddaughter! Look at the life IN FRONT OF YOU!
Just erased a huge rant regarding a certain, um, personality pattern I see among a certain group of people... and just decided to let it go. I usually just ignore them (dad and stepmom) and change the subject. I think now I'm just going to bluntly say, "In case you didn't notice, I have a daughter, not an abortion. I really wish you would value the life in front of you. Please never mention this subject in front of me or my daughter again."
Not allowing my infant to eat fries, Popsicles, and chocolate.
I guess my FFFC is that Dani eats all of these things. We don't have them on a regular basis by any means, but if we do, she eats it. She has also had frosting, ice cream, and whipped cream. I don't see an issue if it's in moderation.
Not allowing my infant to eat fries, Popsicles, and chocolate.
I guess my FFFC is that Dani eats all of these things. We don't have them on a regular basis by any means, but if we do, she eats it. She has also had frosting, ice cream, and whipped cream. I don't see an issue if it's in moderation.
Right. And that's your choice and it should be respected.
My choice is to not feed him those things (after 1 I relax A LOT on food), and that should also be respected. By my family thinks my choice is dumb and constantly tries to sneak him those foods or cause drama over it or make it a big deal.
I don't understand why they want to cause me pain instead of "I don't understand it or agree, but it's your kid."
jessiespano, as the wise Stanford Blanche said on sex and the city: "we all judge. That's our hobby. Some people do arts and crafts; we judge." Don't beat yourself up for judging!
Sorry your family is rude and disrespectful to your parenting choices. I hope the next two weeks fly by as quickly as possible for you.
Not allowing my infant to eat fries, Popsicles, and chocolate.
I guess my FFFC is that Dani eats all of these things. We don't have them on a regular basis by any means, but if we do, she eats it. She has also had frosting, ice cream, and whipped cream. I don't see an issue if it's in moderation.
Same Val has had all those things as well. I buy her mini popicles so at least she isn't having a huge one. It's hot out and we don't put the ac on unless it's sweltering out so if it makes her happy & cools her down when we aren't in the pool I see it as a positive. Plus her reaction to seeing the pop coming out of the wrapper is priceless!
I guess my FFFC is that Dani eats all of these things. We don't have them on a regular basis by any means, but if we do, she eats it. She has also had frosting, ice cream, and whipped cream. I don't see an issue if it's in moderation.
Right. And that's your choice and it should be respected.
My choice is to not feed him those things (after 1 I relax A LOT on food), and that should also be respected. By my family thinks my choice is dumb and constantly tries to sneak him those foods or cause drama over it or make it a big deal.
I don't understand why they want to cause me pain instead of "I don't understand it or agree, but it's your kid."
I agree. I let my kids have tastes of everything, and I'm not super strict. But my rules, my kids, your rules, your kids. That should be respected. Sneaking treats is showing your kids that that's ok. My son already does this with his dad, I heard him saying "Don't tell mom you are letting me play (video game) or she'll say no." We shut that down right away and H apologized for making that happen.
I have a little confession. I told the admin they could leave at 2 today and I will stay till 5. I look like the hero, but reality is H is demoing the bathroom and I told him i got stuck staying till 5 because of a project due date so he has to do it himself for today. So i'll be online shopping and playing on the internet for the rest of the afternoon and then go home and say how awful it was getting this project done in time and he will have done hard labor most of the day and picked up the kids.
I do not intend to even try to breastfeed future babies unless they are preemies in the NICU. Then I would consider it, but reserve the right to quit. I was miserable the whole time I tried to BF Miss G and Master R.
mowkey, Glen is on a dad board and one of them lied about working overtime to sleep in their car because of newborn baby sleeplessness. Glen said that was a worse betrayal than cheating because sleep is sacred with babies. Lol
mowkey , Glen is on a dad board and one of them lied about working overtime to sleep in their car because of newborn baby sleeplessness. Glen said that was a worse betrayal than cheating because sleep is sacred with babies. Lol
LMAO - yes I would rage if I found that out. And I would know by his direct deposit that he didn't work OT! haha
I'm totally being a jerk right now. But here is the deal too. The contractors we got wanted like $7,000 to do all the demo and install and everything. And I was like ok who do I make the check out to and DH was like wait a second. I can do this! And we talked about it extensively. So we are doing the demo, some tiling and fixing walls/painting, and saving like $2,000. They are doing the plumping and shower and sink.
So i'm a little like, well, you said you can do it....
Part of me is thinking "genius!", but then there's the 'judgmental internet voice' saying 'that's dishonest and not fair to YH.' Which is dumb, because I've taken an afternoon off here and there and didn't tell MH, because I knew he'd throw a fit about wasting PTO. Sorry, dude, I don't get any me time. So the random judgmental voice can go to hell.
It took me waaayyyy too long to figure out the whole Glen thing with cocopuff. I seriously thought that was his real name until I said it out loud.
I got so used to calling him Glen on here that's it's really thrown a few people on our FB group. But ftr, Glen is not his real name; I think London started it with the means girls reference.
mowkey, you're totally allowed to let him do it alone. Glen made the same argument last year wth our kitchen Reno and doing the trim work. It's been 14 months and I'm still waiting for the moldings to be finished. There's been painters tape around the window and door since before M was born. It's worse than emejay's mantel. I asked for it to be done before A's birthday which didn't happen. I'm hoping for M's birthday.
mowkey , you're totally allowed to let him do it alone. Glen made the same argument last year wth our kitchen Reno and doing the trim work. It's been 14 months and I'm still waiting for the moldings to be finished. There's been painters tape around the window and door since before M was born. It's worse than emejay 's mantel. I asked for it to be done before A's birthday which didn't happen. I'm hoping for M's birthday.
Remind me to take pics of our kitchen situation. We have an almost 2-foot hole in our ceiling from a leak caused by spilling toilet water when removing it upstairs, and then two more holes with capped wiring for pendant lights that have not been installed. I was pregnant when this project was started, either end of second trimester or early third. So ... I just might beat you on that. Yay me.
It took me waaayyyy too long to figure out the whole Glen thing with cocopuff. I seriously thought that was his real name until I said it out loud.
I got so used to calling him Glen on here that's it's really thrown a few people on our FB group. But ftr, Glen is not his real name; I think London started it with the means girls reference.
Post by crystaleyes138 on Jul 1, 2016 14:44:57 GMT -5
I didn't even put together Glen Coco, but I think I missed the earlier post.
nomnom, I'm glad you already have a plan in place to BF or not. I already said to DH that if we do have another, I will probably not BF. Your mental health is SOOOOO important. I'm glad you are making it a priority.
I had told/suggested to the partners to let the staff go today and it didn't get approved until 1:25. We no one told one person and I just ran into her at the nail salon. She didn't leave until 3:00 (when staff leaves on Friday during the summer). I sort of feel bad but also not because she is always sneaking in late or early, so I feel like it's karma.
Also Glen and I arranged for me to get my hair and nails done tomorrow morning. I got out of work early so he suggested I get my hairs and nail done this afternoon while they girls are napping "so I can help clean tomorrow morning." Blech. But at least I got some me time. Also, I doubt I'll be able to clean much while entertaining a toddler and mobile baby.
mowkey, you're totally allowed to let him do it alone. Glen made the same argument last year wth our kitchen Reno and doing the trim work. It's been 14 months and I'm still waiting for the moldings to be finished. There's been painters tape around the window and door since before M was born. It's worse than emejay's mantel. I asked for it to be done before A's birthday which didn't happen. I'm hoping for M's birthday.
We keep talking about the mantel, but let's talk about the basement bathroom
mowkey , you're totally allowed to let him do it alone. Glen made the same argument last year wth our kitchen Reno and doing the trim work. It's been 14 months and I'm still waiting for the moldings to be finished. There's been painters tape around the window and door since before M was born. It's worse than emejay 's mantel. I asked for it to be done before A's birthday which didn't happen. I'm hoping for M's birthday.
We keep talking about the mantel, but let's talk about the basement bathroom
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