shanny have you met with a lactation consultant yet? Surely they can tell you more about what to expect. I was not mentally prepared to deliver or to breastfeed and it is showing emotionally.
Sorry, kokopelli, that sounds so stressful. I hope her eating improves soon.
Today I have worked for 6.5 hours at my PT job, cleaned the bathrooms and the office, and finished packing my hospital bag. I'm hoping to get the nursery finished tonight and I need to get her clothes put away. I'm feeling the urge to scrub everything in the house, I just want everything clean. I am hoping this burst of energy sticks around for a few days.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Jul 6, 2016 14:26:58 GMT -5
hummingbird125 we are so similar. I just had my 36w ultrasound as well. Also had one since 19 weeks like you. Today he measured at 7.5 lbs!! I know they can be off but even so they technician has seen 1000 babies and she said "oh wow he's big!" So I'm guessing it's fairly accurate. My fluids looked good so they aren't having me test for GD or anything. But just like you, I have a birth plan now and I'm fucking terrified of pitocin. Hoping I go naturally a little early so he doesn't get to be 9+ lbs. But I have a feeling it's not going to happen since he's up wicked high and not descended at all. Well see, good luck my friend, will be thinking of you and hope you don't have untreated GD at this point!
frodabaggins I agree with PP it sounds like lightening crotch. It's strong enough to take my breath away sometimes, but isn't a sign of labor. It's just the baby moving around.
shanny have you met with a lactation consultant yet? Surely they can tell you more about what to expect. I was not mentally prepared to deliver or to breastfeed and it is showing emotionally.
I hope that she starts making those goals she needs for NICU departure! It sounds so rough to go to NICU everyday to see your baby and not know when she will come home. Sorry about the pressure to nurse even when they think it won't work.
I haven't talked to an LC yet...I was thinking about contacting one that I know of, but hadn't yet. Maybe I will do so just to get some initial insights before everything happens. I meet with the L&D and neonatologist team next week so maybe they might have thoughts too.
Can I go back to bed yet? Today is not being kind. Vomits, intractable toddler during errands, fights with the SO over dumb shit, and then toddler choking on frozen fruit she has enjoyed problem free many times before... I still haven't gotten to eat anything, and I just want to cry and be a toddler again, myself.
Oh, and baby dropped overnight. Strangest thing, but at least she isn't all up in my ribs and I can catch my breath again. Just goofy to look down and notice the roundness is below the navel again.
Swim "team" makes me a terrible parent. I could keep my cool rushing to all the other classes we have done, but something about the timing of every swim thing is impossible and I get stressed and snappy. Sigh.
DH is still expecting his foot is never going to heal from surgery and freaking out. I don't know what to say anymore. I feel bad, but he shoots down all my attempts to be encouraging. He decided to fly his mom out for a week to hang with the kids and take a load off of me. I am hoping she can also cheer him up. She's not really a cheery person, but maybe...if she makes DH worse...I can't think about it.
My day is finally starting to improve! We figured out the issue with the stroller order and it went through (and my friend has a connection in the company and got us a great discount). It should arrive in 7-10 days! And our Twingo arrived today!
I also had a really helpful clarifying session with my therapist tonight. Recently I haven't found him so helpful but today was good.
Now H and I are going to check out a new restaurant that just opened in our neighborhood. I hope it's good!
bocaburger I got it for the discount when I made a big Amazon purchase. I don't use it except for my Amazon purchases though so I don't earn a lot of points. But I do like that it links points to my account.
kokopelli I'm sorry that they seem to pressuring you into something that you rather not do. I hate how there is so much guilt tied to bottle feeding. I remember crying bc my milk never came in and I resented feeding time, but kept trying to breastfeed/pump. Hopefully you can figure out what will be best for you and just remember the goal is a feed baby.
Of note I know breast is best. However DD has done well on formula. Obviously she was full term but she's not anymore sick than my niece who was breastfeed until 23 months old..and never even used a bottle. ((Hugs)) to you bc you do not need more guilt/pressure as a new mom to a premie!
Doctors act like they know what is best in every situation. The truth is you know what is best for you and your family. You have been strong thru so much and we all know you are going to make the best decesions for YOUR family. Nothing is more important to that little girls well being than her mom! You are her mom, you take care of mom and little girl will be even better off!
hummingbird125, that is stressful and I would have those same feels if I were in that situation. Fx you pass the test on Friday and have one less thing to stress over.
kokopelli, I'm sorry it's been rough going and you're getting all that unnecessary pressure. ((Hugs))
Anybody else have any jaw pain? I asked and apparently it's related to relaxin. Whyyyyyy?
Yes! Just this week in fact. It was popping and now it's sore and I can't open my mouth all the way. I didn't even consider it might be pregnancy related; I just figured I'd been grinding my teeth at night and messed something up.
Hey guys - Just had a slightly stressful OB appointment this morning. Baby boy is measuring 6lbs 10oz right now, and I'll be 36 weeks tomorrow. They didn't tell me all the measurements, but watching on the screen I also noticed that his head measurements were all in the 90-something percentile. My doctor also told me that I have excess amniotic fluid. He said that it could be nothing or it could mean late-onset gestational diabetes. When I took the GD test, I failed the one-hour test by 2 points but easily passed the 3 hour test. Now, I have to retake the 3-hour test on Friday (he wanted me to come in tomorrow but I have to go to a memorial service for my stepfather's mother). The fucking doctor also just HAD to mention that GD, if left untreated, could mean increased risk of a stillbirth. My husband had to leave after the ultrasound to make his train, so I got to hear that part alone.
I'm so stressed you guys. My thoughts, in no particular order: - Omg what if I've had GD this whole time, or developed it not long after I last took the 3 hours test, and it's been untreated this whole time and I've been putting baby at risk with everything I eat. - If I do have GD, or even if I don't, and baby keeps growing at this rate, will I need to be induced early? I know lots of women are induced but everything I read/watch is so anti-pitocin that now I'm dreading it. Also it will be so hard to let go of the idea of going into labor naturally like I always pictured it. I know it's stupid to have your heart set on a birth plan, but all I really wanted was to be able to labor at home for as long as possible and if I need to be induced that plan will just fly out the window. - What if this baby just gets too big for me and I have a horrible birth. My mom had a 10lb baby who got stuck and it was a horror story (everything worked out okay in the end, but no thank you.)
Ugh. In other news, baby is head down and facing my spine, so that's good, and he has hair! My doctor did a cervical check and I'm not dilating yet but I am softening, so I guess that's something.
I haven't read through any replies but just wanted to reply to this! I was told at the MFM my baby was in the 98% at 28w & they insisted on doing another growth check at 34w. They kept asking if I had GD. Nope, I don't. At 34 weeks I'm then told baby is still huge at 94% and already estimated to be 6lbs 8oz and maybe I have GD & the fact that her abdominal circumference is so large is another indication of GD etc etc. anyway, I am freaking hypoglycemic meaning I have issues with too LOW of blood sugar. My fasting result was an 80 and my 1 HR glucose test was an 83 to give you an idea.
My OB is rolling her eyes at all of this& says based on fundal height my baby is average. She's very doubtful about this whole huge baby thing. The MFM even said that their estimates can be +/- 20%. They are trying to say I should come back at 38w for another growth check to see if my baby is so big that I may need a C section snd my OB and I both think it's ridiculous. She said the MFM is known to exaggerate. Neither of us are really even taking them seriously.
Post by dorkusmalorkus on Jul 7, 2016 11:46:24 GMT -5
Big hugs, hummingbird125! Like PPs said, ultrasounds can be way off at this point. During my last pregnancy, my obgyn said that the order of accuracy according to research is: mom's feeling, dr's guesstimate, ultrasound. (Although your dr sounds like maybe not the most tactful, so let's say there's a big jump between #1 & #2 ) She told me this because the ultrasound said my son was already over 10 lbs at like 37 weeks or so. When he was born at 39 weeks, 6 days, he was 9 lbs, 8 oz, which is exactly what my ob had guessed he'd be.
Fwiw, my kids both had heads measuring in the upper 90s percentile rank at birth. There weren't any complications from this, although I did have tearing with both (but both were also quick labors). A doula on my local mom group mentioned today that eating 5 servings of healthy fats/day, plus birthing on all 4s or side-lying ("gravity-neutral positions") can decrease the odds of tearing. Squatting also opens up the pelvis to make quite a bit more room. (None of which the nurses or dr's at my hospital recommended, so you may be on your own to ask for those if it's something you want.)
As far as giving up birth plans, I'm right there with you. This is maybe not the best tactic, but it helped me to read about what could go wrong in an unmedicated situation. Like my ob's biggest concern with big babies/GD is shoulder dystocia. Once I googled that (which I don't necessarily recommend, because it's pretty awful), I quickly moved from being sad about probably being induced, to let's get that c-section scheduled (and now I've settled to being back on the fence).I also found a blog post by a doula about inductions that talked about ways you can still have some sense of control over the process. I'll see if I can find that & post a link, as it was helpful and a more positive account of inductions.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Jul 7, 2016 12:39:49 GMT -5
It's month end at work and I'm training my temp so I haven't been on in a little bit and just wanted to say hi and love you all and hope to be back next week lol. And yaaaay that we're getting so close!
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