So, judging by the number of us fighting crappy sleep at the moment, I guess it must be a Thing at this age.
L was fairly consistently waking once a night for only about twenty minutes, and occasionally STTN to remind us that she can. Not any more. She was up for good two hours last night and I had to bring her into our bed in the end. The previous night H was up with her for over an hour, then I was up with her a bit later. It's been like that for about a week, and at the same time her daytime naps are just al over the place.
So this is really just a place to say Aarghh! and sympathise with each other.
Post by pghtruelove on Jul 6, 2016 12:15:41 GMT -5
J has been tossing and turning like crazy. We are still bedsharing because she won't let us put her down anywhere else. She just doesn't seem comfortable in her sleep. It's kind bad of storage to me.
J has been tossing and turning like crazy. We are still bedsharing because she won't let us put her down anywhere else. She just doesn't seem comfortable in her sleep. It's kind bad of storage to me.
Yes, the restlessness is why she keeps being up for such a long time. Yesterday night she kept dropping off then shaking herself awake. She was restless even in our bed, but at least we all got some sleep that way!
J has been tossing and turning like crazy. We are still bedsharing because she won't let us put her down anywhere else. She just doesn't seem comfortable in her sleep. It's kind bad of storage to me.
Yes, the restlessness is why she keeps being up for such a long time. Yesterday night she kept dropping off then shaking herself awake. She was restless even in our bed, but at least we all got some sleep that way!
It's almost the same as the startle reflex when they were newborns! I wish I could swaddle her up stilll! She loved that!
Post by heartofglass on Jul 6, 2016 12:47:07 GMT -5
I assumed most of our current sleep issues were associated with being in hotels and a new house for the past few weeks, but I guess it's just part of this phase too. A has always been relatively easy to get to sleep, but he's fought it the past two nights. He was up until 10 last night before he finally passed out and let me put him down. He cries, screams, bows his back and will not settle. I feel like a human pacifier during the night. Luckily he's still pretty good about going back to sleep quick after a MOTN wake up, but only if he nurses and then stays in bed with me. So thats where we are so I can get some semblance of sleep. I'm putting him down in his crib first at night and I hope to slowly work him back into the crib for the whole night. Honestly I'd be fine bed sharing for a while longer if he'd just stay asleep.
purple, it sounds like we have the same exact issue. Except we're only on night 3, so I'm so, so sorry you're on a week of this already. Every night I hope he's not going to wake, or if he does, just go back down quickly, but it's been between a one and two hour battle. I'm going to loose it if this doesn't stop soon. I keep hoping it's just teeth or something and passes quickly.
The worst is - like you said, you KNOW they can do better. And DS fights it sooooo hard, but it's just impossible to get him back to sleep - bottles, Motrin, rocking, letting him cry for a bit in his crib to see if he'll settle himself to sleep, none of it seems to work. It seems the usual sleep advice is useless in this scenario.
This feels like a minor complaint but it's still a struggle for us and our first encounter with sleep issues. I've always put W down awake and he rolls around and is asleep within a few minutes. Lately, it's taken him at least half an hour for every nap and nighttime of crying and crawling and standing to finally fall asleep. It's so pathetic and I'm really hoping just a phase but I'm not sure what I can do to help him other than wait it out. Any ideas? We've tried putting him down earlier and later and neither seems to help.
This is happening with us, too. There was a point in time where she would cry herself to sleep, but that ended a while ago and since then we would put her down awake and she would just roll over and chill for a while and eventually fall asleep. In the past week or so, she freaks out when we put her down. So much so that she starts freaking out when I walk towards the crib to put her down. She grabs onto me and won't let go.
I hope this doesn't last long because it is so heartbreaking. I hate that she is frantic. Most times she does quiet down within a minute or 2, but still, I don't want my baby acting like she is scared to death while I put her down.
J has been tossing and turning like crazy. We are still bedsharing because she won't let us put her down anywhere else. She just doesn't seem comfortable in her sleep. It's kind bad of storage to me.
Post by billyhorrible on Jul 6, 2016 14:43:09 GMT -5
BH hates sleep. I'm not being cute or hyperbolic. He hates it. When he's tired and his body starts falling asleep he starts screaming and thrashing, throwing himself around to keep awake. He will do this for hours.
According to my mother, I used to do the same thing. Oh karma, I see you.
Post by sugarkissed on Jul 6, 2016 15:37:52 GMT -5
We were doing well, but then we went on vacation and jet lag hit both kids hard. For the week afterwards I could NOT get either of them to go to bed before midnight. They finally got over that, but now B is getting molars and her eczema is flaring up again, so she's waking up constantly. We are just waiting it out and hoping things improve once these teeth pop through.
Aargh it's happening again. L was asleep in her own bed by 8.30. By 9.15 H and I had finished all the jobs and were excited by the prospect of an hour to spend together. Then she woke up... An hour later and she keeps nearly settling then waking herself up.
If I only knew how long this would last I could at least prepare myself mentally. And what's it about? Is it because she's nearly walking? Is it because she has her first word and the amount of language she understands is exploding? Is it teeth? Is it all of the above?
Post by silv3rlining on Jul 6, 2016 17:13:09 GMT -5
LO has always been a crap night time sleeper. I know there was a 3ish week wonder week around her 1st bday, add in growth spurt, molars trying to come in, no surprise there's a 12 month sleep regression too.
Hang in there ladies and all the coffee to those that need it.
Kiddo was EXHAUSTED when he got home from day care today. He napped less than an hour, coupled with shit sleep. Tonight will be a reprieve or terrible. So far he started crying 45 minutes after going down, on schedule, but settled himself down (yay!). I'm still hedging my bets and am typing this from bed, with every intention of being asleep by about 9.
DD has never been a STTNer. Her roughest spots tend to fall in the 11:30ish-2am. Sometimes she'll actually sleep straight through from 2 then. And while I've never really been able to get her to fall asleep on her own, I was recently at a point where she would lie in her crib and I could pat her back to sleep but that hasn't been happening lately either.
Saying that, I noticed tooth 14 was through today. I'm fairly certain she won't be a consistent sleeper until this is all over with because of how steady and non stop its been. So at least we are getting there, 6 more to go haha.
And also on that same note, it was only around now that DS began to have consistent overnight sleep habits. I remember having an easier time with overnights by now and hard with naps with him, where it's been opposite with her (as per everything). I know it was around now because I found out I was pregnant again when he was about 14.5 months after me thinking 'sweet we're sleeping we can totally do this again!' Haha. He also got to be a better sleeper after moving him to a bed at 20 months, oddly enough.
B has STTN once. She will not fall asleep by herself. We have to lay with her at night and the sitter lays with here for naps. Once she is sleeping I can move her or get up. I think I broke her 😞
B has STTN once. She will not fall asleep by herself. We have to lay with her at night and the sitter lays with here for naps. Once she is sleeping I can move her or get up. I think I broke her 😞
You're not the only one. L slept through from two months to four months. We put her down and she went to sleep and woke up ten hours later. She was a magical unicorn baby. We didn't change what we did, but she changed. Now she will only go to sleep either if she's being held, or in the pushchair or car seat. I don't have a problem with that at the moment because I really think it's a maturity thing with her. We aren't prepared to do any form of controlled crying or sleep training, so we just need to be patient. Absolutely no judgement on parents who do go down that route, of course :-)
Our problem at the moment is that she is close to walking on her own, she's just beginning to use meaningful words and her language comprehension has skyrocketed, and her mind is working overtime at night. I know I have trouble sleeping when my mind is very active so I'm not surprised my daughter is the same. Only, of course, she doesn't know how to be awake in the night without waking us up. That's about maturity, too.
So really it's just a question of getting through it as best we can, and patience. But Aarghh is a necessary reaction at times, because I'm human too.
BH hates sleep. I'm not being cute or hyperbolic. He hates it. When he's tired and his body starts falling asleep he starts screaming and thrashing, throwing himself around to keep awake. He will do this for hours.
According to my mother, I used to do the same thing. Oh karma, I see you.
My nephew was like that from birth until he was about three. He's a really good sleeper now. I don't know whether that's encouraging or the opposite. It's meant to be encouraging, but of course BH is only one...
BH hates sleep. I'm not being cute or hyperbolic. He hates it. When he's tired and his body starts falling asleep he starts screaming and thrashing, throwing himself around to keep awake. He will do this for hours.
According to my mother, I used to do the same thing. Oh karma, I see you.
My nephew was like that from birth until he was about three. He's a really good sleeper now. I don't know whether that's encouraging or the opposite. It's meant to be encouraging, but of course BH is only one...
It's funny. I said something similar to my mom. I don't have any memories of that, so it must have worked itself out by the time I was 3ish and started having memories. But that's a good 2 years from now.
BH hates sleep. I'm not being cute or hyperbolic. He hates it. When he's tired and his body starts falling asleep he starts screaming and thrashing, throwing himself around to keep awake. He will do this for hours.
According to my mother, I used to do the same thing. Oh karma, I see you.
You just described DS. He still hates sleep and he's 3. He asks me why do people have to sleep. I try to sell him on it by telling him it's how boys grow to be big and tall.
B has STTN once. She will not fall asleep by herself. We have to lay with her at night and the sitter lays with here for naps. Once she is sleeping I can move her or get up. I think I broke her 😞
B has STTN once. She will not fall asleep by herself. We have to lay with her at night and the sitter lays with here for naps. Once she is sleeping I can move her or get up. I think I broke her 😞
This is us too.
This is us now too. He sleeps maybe an hour or so laying alone.
LO was also a unicorn pre-4 month regression - she regularly STTN. Now, a good night for us is one wake up. This can take anywhere from 10-30 minutes - she nurses and it's whenever I get her to unlatch. Other nights it's more wakeups and h and I are trading off. She's been fairly consistent with a 7 pm bedtime and waking between 6-6:30 am, with a wakeup between 2-3:30.
Last night she went to bed at 8:30 thanks to a late nap, nursed from 3:30-4, and is apparently up for the day at six. Ouch.
Normally, Hayley is a great sleeper but she must be doing some serious teething because this week has been awful. Last night was the culmination. I literally sat in the hallway and cried last night because she woke up at 10:30, after 2 hours asleep, and proceeded to stay up till 1:15 am. When I put her back in her crib, she majorly freaked out screaming and crying. Ugh. She finally calmed down and fell asleep around 1:30 and then she was up bright and early today at 6 am. Of course, this is the day that I am taking all four kids (Hayley + nieces + nephew) to the beach....
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