Extreme tantrums
Jul 9, 2016 14:28:52 GMT -5
Post by kleigh926 on Jul 9, 2016 14:28:52 GMT -5
This is about DS, not my Feb. '13 child, but wanted to get some insight/opinions. He is almost 22 months old. For about 2 months he has been throwing tantrums about literally everything, and once he gets going, almost nothing calms him down. Food, sleep, or leaving the house and going to a different location are usually the only things that will stop the cycle. Being tired greatly contributes to the problem. If he wakes up early or doesn't take a long enough nap, we are guaranteed to have a horrible day. And once he is up in the morning or wakes up from a nap, no matter how early it is or how short the nap was, he will never go back to sleep.
His therapists and doctors all tell me it is developmentally normal to have this behavior at his age. I understand that tantrums are normal, but he takes it to the extreme. There are clear triggers; it's not like he throws fits for no reason. But sometimes the triggers are completely unavoidable. And I don't want to get into the habit of giving him everything he wants just to avoid a tantrum. He is getting special instruction through EI. She has told me to try to get him enough sleep (do an extra nap if necessary), use emotion words to show him we understand how he feels ("I know you're mad, but you must hold my hand while we walk on the road because it's not safe for you to walk alone"), stay calm with him, and ride out the tantrums as best we can. Okay, first of all, easier said than done to stay calm when I am listening to this day after day, and second of all, I am not convinced that these frequent, never-ending, intense fits are really normal. DD went through the Terrible Two's just like any other toddler, but it was not nearly this bad.
Has anyone else's kid gone through this? Am I overreacting out of frustration? Do I need to have patience and hope that it's a phase that is over soon?
His therapists and doctors all tell me it is developmentally normal to have this behavior at his age. I understand that tantrums are normal, but he takes it to the extreme. There are clear triggers; it's not like he throws fits for no reason. But sometimes the triggers are completely unavoidable. And I don't want to get into the habit of giving him everything he wants just to avoid a tantrum. He is getting special instruction through EI. She has told me to try to get him enough sleep (do an extra nap if necessary), use emotion words to show him we understand how he feels ("I know you're mad, but you must hold my hand while we walk on the road because it's not safe for you to walk alone"), stay calm with him, and ride out the tantrums as best we can. Okay, first of all, easier said than done to stay calm when I am listening to this day after day, and second of all, I am not convinced that these frequent, never-ending, intense fits are really normal. DD went through the Terrible Two's just like any other toddler, but it was not nearly this bad.
Has anyone else's kid gone through this? Am I overreacting out of frustration? Do I need to have patience and hope that it's a phase that is over soon?