Post by cabbagecabbage on Jul 14, 2016 8:31:15 GMT -5
Um, my UO that probably isn't unpopular around here is that I HATE how some moms insist on sharing horror stories and warnings of failure to third trimester moms. I know they usually just want to share their experience but don't talk about awful labors or warn people that they'll never really breastfeed/cloth diaper/go pain med free/whatever. Do they not remember anything?
I feel like if someone said "I'm going to run a marathon!" No one would ever say, "Yeah, I planned on that too but it's really hard and it's so much more training than you realize and it's fine to just walk you know! I had a cousin who was running and her legs fell off and she bled out and almost died!!!!"
Just shut up, people. Smile and wish us well. When pregnant moms ask about my first labor, I always say it was a tough one and I'll tell them all about it after they give birth but she came out healthy and happy. The end.
Me neither, melody330. My DD is all about babies though, so giving birth to a sister is present enough for her. She's in heaven already from all this new baby stuff around the house.
I am kind of getting a push present, though! H secretly had some sort of (legal) betting pool he put together on the Euro Cup and he ended up with an unexpected chunk of change. He wanted to get me something and since he never got me a wedding band I asked for a ring. Not even sorry!
I like the big brother/sister gifts because it keeps them busy for awhile in the hospital. Never did push presents though, unless a chocolate shake counts.
I can't think of any UOs. I need coffee or something, my brain is not working. Newborns are exaughsting.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jul 14, 2016 9:50:42 GMT -5
My big sister gift is a few quiet activity books for the hospital. It's really a present for me in case she needs distraction. My husband told me my push present was getting to quit my job last time. I do not expect anthing this time.
My newborn is not sleeping at all this morning and fussy! She's been wanting to eat every 2 hours since 6am. Only wants to be held. I think she's going thru a growth spurt.
Post by jewelsofthenile on Jul 14, 2016 10:35:47 GMT -5
I am in a fog today and I slept well last night so not sure what my problem is. I have a doctor's appointment this afternoon since i am 40 weeks today I have a lot questions about how long they will let this baby cook.
I am in a fog today and I slept well last night so not sure what my problem is. I have a doctor's appointment this afternoon since i am 40 weeks today I have a lot questions about how long they will let this baby cook.
Post by housecarder on Jul 14, 2016 10:50:40 GMT -5
FFTC: I'm at kind of a loss at where my home board will be now. GKU was my home base forever and then 3T for a while during IVF. I moved on to PAIF but now that the girls are here I haven't moved to SAIF because I wasn't on 3T long enough to build a relationship with most of the ladies there. I'm done TTC so I feel like GKU isn't right for me anymore but Parenting is a bit overwhelming sometimes.
I love J16 and the Multiples board but they are slower and I miss the active threads from GKU.
cabbagecabbage I completely agree with you. I am planning on trying to have a med free birth, and when I tell people IRL about that, I constantly get this *head pat* "aren't you precious" reaction from women who have given birth. As if I am naive to think I can handle it or something. I don't expect pats on the back for it, either, it's just so irritating that people feel the need to shoot down your hopes/plans. I'm fully aware that I could change my mind during labor and I am fine with that, I'm not gonna try to be a martyr. My doula will also be there to help encourage me through the rough parts. But FFS people can't we all just encourage and support every kind of birth plan?!
Also I am getting myself a push present lol. I hate that term though. I think of it as more "new mom gift". I have a friend who is a jeweler with a family owned jewelry shop and she's going to help me custom design a right hand ring with baby's birthstone. I'd have started on it already but on the off chance that he's super late, I don't want to have a July birthstone if he's an August baby lol.
Ray two things. 1) my mom (and I think maybe even my MIL) told H he HAD to get me a push present. I don't agree and told him so, but it sounds like he's wanting to do something massage/spa related which would be pretty wonderful haha. And 2) burn your house down. That's the only logical thing to do in the spider situation.
cabbagecabbage yep, what you described really pisses me off too. We need support right now, not people trying to drag us down. I think just about everyone IRL I've told about my plans to have an unmedicated birth have laughed in my face and told me I wouldn't be able to. That's not an appropriate response, the only thing out of your mouth should be something along the lines of "You've got this!"
housecarder I feel like GKU is a very accepting board, I've noticed there are a few posters who aren't even TTC that hang around it. You were around there FOREVER, I don't think anyone would be upset or offended if you chose to stay there!
Post by housecarder on Jul 14, 2016 11:20:03 GMT -5
mcktymck I think that's where I'll stay for the most part in the Randoms and such. Maybe I'll start an epic drinking thread soon now that I can contribute to it. Transitions are just always hard. I remember feeling the same way when we found out about needing IVF and debating moving to 3t.
I knew this would happen... 3cm at 38+1 and OB offered to induce me tonight. There is no real legit reason other than she is going out of town for a week, but she says risks are minimal. Due to the growth issues I would normally be induced at 39+0 but since she'll be gone, it can't be til 39+4.
I don't know what to do. As much as I want to get this show on the road, it would help my anxiety and overall misery, I don't want to kick Baby Girl out before she's ready or cause complications.
I mean, I was on TK for a long time after I was married, lol. The only reason I am not still there is because we all jumped ship for our own PB just like this one and the one for GBCN. Since XOXO group sucks lol. So I think you can make any board your home, regardless of your ute status!
I knew this would happen... 3cm at 38+1 and OB offered to induce me tonight. There is no real legit reason other than she is going out of town for a week, but she says risks are minimal. Due to the growth issues I would normally be induced at 39+0 but since she'll be gone, it can't be til 39+4.
I don't know what to do. As much as I want to get this show on the road, it would help my anxiety and overall misery, I don't want to kick Baby Girl out before she's ready or cause complications.
Ughhhh. I have a few hours to decide.
That's a hard one, would you be upset if your OB was gone if you went into labor before 39+4?
Post by roccobabyk on Jul 14, 2016 11:47:38 GMT -5
cabbagecabbage, willow I completely agree with this! I get the same type of comments when I tell someone I am attempting a VBAC. Usually those people are family and they are just concerned but obviously I have weighed the pros and cons and my OB is completely on board. People just need to shut it.
I am to the point in my pregnancy where I want to hit anyone who asks me when the baby is coming or my absolute favorite, "are you going to have that baby today?"
Post by sarcaztic10 on Jul 14, 2016 11:47:38 GMT -5
I will be on this board after S is born and possibly the NJCD/Cloth Diapers, baby wearing, etc board. PAL is super slow and I will probably into and check-in over there but there really aren't any other posts.
I have my cervix check, BPP, and OB appt today. I imagine I haven't made any progress. H and I are both convinced that S will stay in until the induction date. My kids are stubborn.
In fact, when I was talking to L's Kindergarten teacher and asked her if she thought he was ready for 1st grade she said he was but that he was probably the most stubborn child she has ever met in her time teaching. Yup, that's L... He is totally laid back most of the time but if when he digs in his heels there is no moving them for most people. Luckily I am more stubborn that he is.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Jul 14, 2016 11:50:02 GMT -5
katelou, I +1 Housecarder's question. I would base my decision on how upset you would be if your current Dr wasn't the one to deliver your girl? Will you have another appointment/monitoring while she is gone?
housecarder I think I feel safer with her because she's more familiar with my weird issues than anyone else would be (Crohn's, autoimmune platelet dz, lots of pelvic surgery) but I don't know that it would really change anything if someone else delivered me.
I am also still really anxious that something is wrong that we're not seeing that's causing the growth issues, but she's passed all her NSTs and BPPs, I'm just scared.
housecarder I think I feel safer with her because she's more familiar with my weird issues than anyone else would be (Crohn's, autoimmune platelet dz, lots of pelvic surgery) but I don't know that it would really change anything if someone else delivered me.
I am also still really anxious that something is wrong that we're not seeing that's causing the growth issues, but she's passed all her NSTs and BPPs, I'm just scared.
I think that if she makes you feel safer then I would go for the induction. You are already dilated so it's favorable and you don't want more anxiety than you have to have. Then you won't have to worry about every weird feeling or symptom while she is gone.
housecarder I think I feel safer with her because she's more familiar with my weird issues than anyone else would be (Crohn's, autoimmune platelet dz, lots of pelvic surgery) but I don't know that it would really change anything if someone else delivered me.
I am also still really anxious that something is wrong that we're not seeing that's causing the growth issues, but she's passed all her NSTs and BPPs, I'm just scared.
I think that if she makes you feel safer then I would go for the induction. You are already dilated so it's favorable and you don't want more anxiety than you have to have. Then you won't have to worry about every weird feeling or symptom while she is gone.
+1 again. I think if you feel safest with her and she is very familiar with your background then I would probably move forward with an induction if it were me in your shoes.
housecarder I think I feel safer with her because she's more familiar with my weird issues than anyone else would be (Crohn's, autoimmune platelet dz, lots of pelvic surgery) but I don't know that it would really change anything if someone else delivered me.
I am also still really anxious that something is wrong that we're not seeing that's causing the growth issues, but she's passed all her NSTs and BPPs, I'm just scared.
I agree with what pp have said. I had my ob deliver for ds, I was induced. We had an induction scheduled for this baby, mostly for my ob to deliver again and my anxiety of having another complicated delivery.
In the end, I was ok that I went into labor on my own before and my ob didn't deliver. I was at the point where I just wanted the baby out when I went into labor. The dr who delivered dd ended up being awesome.
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