is it friday?

[Laverne]

Confess things

[Laverne]

H just distracted me, so i currently forgot my juicy confession.

[joi922]

I have one this week.

We decided to limit C's first birthday party to immediate family only (parents and siblings), mostly so that we wouldn't have to invite my cousin and her family. We don't like the way my cousin treats her husband and kids, and it can be pretty uncomfortable to be around. I'm feeling a little guilt because that means I won't be inviting my aunt and her kids either and I really love them. But inviting them might inviting nasty cousin, so nope.

[mommabakes]

abvintage what are you going to be selling?

[Deleted]

I'll xp mine from parenting:

H is turning 30 in Sept. He just told me he 100% absolutely DOES NOT want a party. I am so relieved because I was having major anxiety over having to plan a party just for our flaky friends to not show.

Instead, he wants to take a trip to CO, explore, and garage the entire time. I'll take planning a trip over planning a party any day

[ampaints]

I'm more afraid of having a toddler than an infant. I feel like he's going to be at the age where I can really fuck him up. I had a shit relationship with my mom, so I have lots of anxiety over repeating her mistakes even though I know I won't.

[abvintage]

Jul 15, 2016 11:02:45 GMT -5 mommabakes said:

abvintage what are you going to be selling?

"selling" is kinda a loose term. More like buying with a discount and here and there doing pop-ups for friends. It's LipSense the stay all day lipstick. 

[abvintage]

Jul 15, 2016 11:21:40 GMT -5 ampaints said:

I'm more afraid of having a toddler than an infant. I feel like he's going to be at the age where I can really fuck him up. I had a shit relationship with my mom, so I have lots of anxiety over repeating her mistakes even though I know I won't.

+1 to all the fear. I feel like toddlerhood is when they start getting picky about food or when "screen time" really matters, and all the BS. Don't worry, you won't fuck it up.

[2dumbdogs]

Jul 15, 2016 11:21:40 GMT -5 ampaints said:

I'm more afraid of having a toddler than an infant. I feel like he's going to be at the age where I can really fuck him up. I had a shit relationship with my mom, so I have lots of anxiety over repeating her mistakes even though I know I won't.

Yes, all of this. I'm mostly afraid of becoming my mother, but she's insane so I should be ok? But I waa talking with a friend about this, and this first year is maybe physically the hardest but it's the easiest parenting will ever be. I'm not sure what to do......

[ampaints]

2dumbdogs abvintage I think the answer is we drink, post here, and do the best we can.

[2dumbdogs]

Jul 15, 2016 12:07:14 GMT -5 ampaints said:

2dumbdogs abvintage I think the answer is we drink, post here, and do the best we can.

And when I think about it, the fact that I'm even worried about fucking up means I probably can't fuck up that bad, so I don't know why I worry. I just don't have a good model to work from so I'm winging it mostly.

[2dumbdogs]

So my own confessions...I told my husband I was going to hire a dog walker the week he's out of state for work next month. He's o.k. with it, he does 99% of the dog care and it's just logistically challenging to get then walked 2x when you are flying solo, especially for that long.

But, I didn't tell him I'm also going to get a house cleaner while he's gone. My house really really needs a good deep clean. I'm going to try to get them in on Monday so I have the whole week to enjoy a clean house before he messes it up again.

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Jul 15, 2016 12:07:14 GMT -5 ampaints said:

2dumbdogs abvintage I think the answer is we drink, post here, and do the best we can.

Cheers!!

[ampaints]

It's comforting to know I'm not the only one who is afraid of screwing their kid up. 2dumbdogs +1 to having a shit model. Also H's dad walked out on his family when H was 13. We birth have one decent parent and one terrible one.

[tuscanlatte]

I can't handle alcohol very well. So while my coworkers are headed back for another afternoon at the office my one beer (in the glass! so its more!) has me seriously buzzed.

"Your face is so red from the sun on the patio!"

yes. yes. that is exactly why.

[packmomma]

My therapist said as long as there's no abuse you only have to do things right about 30% of the time to not screw up your kid. I don't have a good model of a mom but sometimes that helps to. You just ask yourself "would my mom think this is okay?" And then you absolutely don't do it. jk....kind of.
I do think the fact that we're aware if it and our own shortcomings helps us avoid the pit falls

[2dumbdogs]

Jul 15, 2016 14:05:36 GMT -5 packmomma said:

My therapist said as long as there's no abuse you only have to do things right about 30% of the time to not screw up your kid. I don't have a good model of a mom but sometimes that helps to. You just ask yourself "would my mom think this is okay?" And then you absolutely don't do it. jk....kind of.
I do think the fact that we're aware if it and our own shortcomings helps us avoid the pit falls

I can handle 30% easyyyyyy

[skinandbones]

My brother is coming for DH's gig tonight. My parents still support him. I hoping they gave him enough money to cover my drinks and a taxi home. I don't want to be an adult.

[2dumbdogs]

Jul 15, 2016 15:49:07 GMT -5 skinandbones said:

My brother is coming for DH's gig tonight. My parents still support him. I hoping they gave him enough money to cover my drinks and a taxi home. I don't want to be an adult.

Not at all flammable. I don't know your relationship, but if it were my sister I'd text "make sure mom gives you some extra cash to cover my drinks, jerk"

[skinandbones]

Jul 15, 2016 16:16:41 GMT -5 2dumbdogs said:

Jul 15, 2016 15:49:07 GMT -5 skinandbones said:

My brother is coming for DH's gig tonight. My parents still support him. I hoping they gave him enough money to cover my drinks and a taxi home. I don't want to be an adult.

Not at all flammable. I don't know your relationship, but if it were my sister I'd text "make sure mom gives you some extra cash to cover my drinks, jerk"

I told him this last week when I saw him for DS1's b-day.

[2dumbdogs]

Jul 15, 2016 16:29:26 GMT -5 skinandbones said:

Jul 15, 2016 16:16:41 GMT -5 2dumbdogs said:

Not at all flammable. I don't know your relationship, but if it were my sister I'd text "make sure mom gives you some extra cash to cover my drinks, jerk"

I told him this last week when I saw him for DS1's b-day.