Help me decide about my Doula
Jul 19, 2016 15:27:02 GMT -5
Post by mrsdee1982 on Jul 19, 2016 15:27:02 GMT -5
Hey ladies. Not to distract from the other dramarama going on here today, but I need some help. I would normally put this on the private board, but you know...
Anyways, with C I used a Doula. She was amazing. She helped me get through 37 hours of pitocin contractions without an epidural, and then helped me get through 2 hours of pushing after another 10 hours of medicated labor. She is also one of the highest sought after LC's in my area. She has been available via text message and FB messenger to me for any questions I have since C was born. She was rad!
So, originally DH and I had thought we would ask her to be our Doula again. But now I am having 2nd thoughts. Here is why:
1) I am not as "anti-epidural" this time around. I am already telling myself that if my body stalls in the dilation process like it did last time, I am hoping on the epidural bus. So, I feel like if I already sense that there is a decent chance I'd like to get an epidural, then I would be wasting a Doula's time. Does that make sense?
2) I loved her as a Doula. That being said, she has posted recently some things on her personal FB page that are very different than what I believe. I'm talking anti-vaxer propaganda, homophobic (hiding behind the guise of religion) propaganda, Trump support, anti-BLM stuff. This all sits with me very, very poorly. It kind of makes me not want to associate with her.
But, DH has argued for her saying:
1) We can be honest with her and let her know that an epidural is on our possibility list, if I feel like I need it. But, she got us 37 hours without one. Perhaps, if this is an easier labor than before, she can get us all the way this time.
2) While he agrees that the things she supports are very different from what we support, she has never pushed those views onto us (i.e., she's never discouraged us to vax C) and that what she believes in her personal life has no bearing on her professional life and she is, without a doubt, a HUGE presence in the Doula/LC community in our area and a good person to have on our side.
So, WWYD? Would you ask her to work with you again? Or would you go it you're own this time?
Anyways, with C I used a Doula. She was amazing. She helped me get through 37 hours of pitocin contractions without an epidural, and then helped me get through 2 hours of pushing after another 10 hours of medicated labor. She is also one of the highest sought after LC's in my area. She has been available via text message and FB messenger to me for any questions I have since C was born. She was rad!
So, originally DH and I had thought we would ask her to be our Doula again. But now I am having 2nd thoughts. Here is why:
1) I am not as "anti-epidural" this time around. I am already telling myself that if my body stalls in the dilation process like it did last time, I am hoping on the epidural bus. So, I feel like if I already sense that there is a decent chance I'd like to get an epidural, then I would be wasting a Doula's time. Does that make sense?
2) I loved her as a Doula. That being said, she has posted recently some things on her personal FB page that are very different than what I believe. I'm talking anti-vaxer propaganda, homophobic (hiding behind the guise of religion) propaganda, Trump support, anti-BLM stuff. This all sits with me very, very poorly. It kind of makes me not want to associate with her.
But, DH has argued for her saying:
1) We can be honest with her and let her know that an epidural is on our possibility list, if I feel like I need it. But, she got us 37 hours without one. Perhaps, if this is an easier labor than before, she can get us all the way this time.
2) While he agrees that the things she supports are very different from what we support, she has never pushed those views onto us (i.e., she's never discouraged us to vax C) and that what she believes in her personal life has no bearing on her professional life and she is, without a doubt, a HUGE presence in the Doula/LC community in our area and a good person to have on our side.
So, WWYD? Would you ask her to work with you again? Or would you go it you're own this time?