Hugs gratefulgirl! Our newborns are usually the most miserable people ever so I can sympathize. I keep telling myself it's months not years. PM if you ever need to vent privately. Sleep deprivation can take you strange places.
Same. My anemia was just confirmed. You could pop some extra iron in case. I even have rankings of the best ice. Sonic and chik-fil-a are superior, of course.
Ooooh I love sonic ice!!! It's amazing!!! I'm also a huge fan of chick fil a iced tea. My DH asks "why don't we just get a gallon and keep it in the fridge". It's just so much better over their ice.... Lol
Last time I was at Sonic I'm pretty sure the guy ahead of me in the drive thru was just buying bags of ice.
Ooooh I love sonic ice!!! It's amazing!!! I'm also a huge fan of chick fil a iced tea. My DH asks "why don't we just get a gallon and keep it in the fridge". It's just so much better over their ice.... Lol
Last time I was at Sonic I'm pretty sure the guy ahead of me in the drive thru was just buying bags of ice.
I've done that. More than once... Well kind of. I always got something else too! Lol
Post by hummingbird125 on Jul 21, 2016 15:23:20 GMT -5
Okay, need some opinions from BTDT moms:
I was pretty uncomfortable last night with lots of pressure on one side. Today I've felt a lot of pressure/pain in waves throughout the day, but I hadn't really been able to time them because even when the pain tapered off, it didn't usually totally go away. By "pain" I mean my uterus is getting hard like it has with BH for the past several weeks, but now it straight up HURTS, instead of just tightening.
I had an OB appt a little while ago and am just 1cm dilated and 50% effaced, but he did say baby's head was very low. When I told him about the pain, all he could say was "wel, it could be the start of something, or it might not."
DH and I went to Home Depot after and walked around while I tried to time these feelings, and they're happening approximately every 8-10 min.
I guess my questions are 1) Could this be early labor? Even if the "waves" aren't very distinctive and I'm only 1cm? And 2) wouldn't the doctor have been able to tell if I actually was in labor?
EllieT where do you live?? General, you dont have to name towns. I'm doing a lot of my masters research on rural health care focusing on maternal and pediatric care. Hopefully you guys will have a positive experience. I told my md I needed more hospital time and he gave it to me. They can find ways if you need more. MH wasn't there most the time due to moving so the nurses really stepped up and took care of me. Hopefully you and YH will feel comfortable going after 48 hrs.
hummingbird125 I would guess early labor. IMO I would have sex and hopefully the prostaglandin would help cervix dialaite. I had sex with my 3rd while ctx were 10 minutes apart and it really helped speed things up. And no a md can't tell about labor unless they monitor you and your cervix changes. Well that is what my ob says at least...
However when I start counting down the days, I keep coming back to something MH said the other day, "it's only going to get worse." Please note: this is in reference to us and our family only. I have no idea how it will be for you and I won't pretend to tell you. For us, our newborns don't sleep. Like they stay awake for hours on end at all hours of the day and just don't sleep. Neither of us deals well with lack of sleep at all. Add in the rest of life on top of that and ugh. I know physically I will be fairly capable starting 4 weeks after the c-section, but yeah. I'm basically mentally hunkering down for some of the worst months of my life ahead, and I'm terrified.
Soo many hugs. This is a huge fear of mine, DD was a tough newborn and is still a high needs child. If the twins are like that I'm mentally and emotionally screwed well and all the chaos in our life right now does not dictate a good start. I'm prepping for the bad and hoping it's Better than I'm imagining.
Post by gratefulgirl on Jul 21, 2016 15:40:04 GMT -5
Thanks for the support and encouragement, everyone. kokopelli I'm reminding myself the same thing: this is a phase that will last months and then we can address it.
hummingbird125 sounds like it could be early labor or it could be prodromal labor or it could just be your uterus being irritable. Sorry for the discomfort lasting any way. From here it could be a while or it could be very short and nobody can tell you, which is why this is all so maddening. The usual tricks are your best bet if you want to get stuff started. Although I found that when I was dealing with prodromal labor trying to get it moving seemed to stop it. Ignoring it kept it going and it eventually turned into something.
shehulk723, I am SO sorry for your poor tailbone! You must be hurting so much, what a special kind of hell for being so pregnant plus extra hurting. Huge hugs, I hope you can find some relief!
Whoever was asking about the couch-parked preggo.... yeah, me. I spend a lot of time with my feet up. I get essential errands and stuff done, but my toddler has the run of the apartment except gated off bathroom and kitchen, and she can't get into trouble without me noticing. So... yeah. If I walk around too much or sit on harder chairs, I get incredibly stiff and it makes mobility issues worse. I try to save up the energy for when I need it, haha. I feel a little guilty for all you hard working mamas who don't get this bit of a break in the home stretch. I am truly grateful my life worked out so I can be a SAHM.
Rant for the day: overnight construction crews can suck it. They were digging up the sidewalk 20 feet from my bedroom window, heavy machinery, yelling, lights, all the trimmings. I have no freaking idea how my kid slept through all the noise. She fell asleep in a lull and then just... slept through the rest. I, on the other hand, didn't fall asleep almost til the sun came up. Sigh.
Post by redhead610 on Jul 21, 2016 16:45:13 GMT -5
gratefulgirl, lots of hugs. I have been having many of the same feelings and I only have 1 older one. So much anxiety over how I am going to take care of a busy 3 year old and a newborn all day while being completely sleep deprived.
As expected from friends, people have asked how they can support us or if there is anything they can do. Since we are going to be at the hospital for an extended period of time twice (once after birth and then a couple months later), would it be okay to tell people who live near the hospital that the best way to help would be to bring meals to us? One couple did already mention bringing by a homecooked meal and I realized that *would* be helpful, a good break from hospital food, and we'd get to see friends for a few minutes. I'm just not sure how to ask others without sounding too demanding...I also don't know that I want to ask anyone to coordinate it for me and put more on their plate. Would it maybe be better received if the e-mail ask comes from my husband than me?
@suesposa Thanks! We definitely are going to mention in e-mail that we don't know whether visitors will even get to see the baby in NICU. Also, hope the cleaning of the house today was okay and at least house is clean for baby! I was just thinking of cleaning the couch cushions too, but because they have all these little spills from the toddler on them. We had a Yorkie (he passed away in December) and he was great...I do love how they don't shed and are generally pretty easy going. The idea of having a little baby AND getting a new dog seems daunting though.
Post by coffeequeen14 on Jul 21, 2016 17:56:36 GMT -5
shanny I would email your friends, family and others that have asked what they can do and just be honest. I'd set up a meal train of your own and send the link with your email. I'd make sure to only send to people that have asked though or family that would be interested.
People want to help you and I'm sure don't know how to ask or know what they can do. I always think a nice, honest email (and perhaps a brief explaination on your pending logistic demands so they don't think they know better than you) expressed with lots of gratitude is much appreciated. I'd assume those people would then forward it on to others.
dc2london, so pretty! You did a great job and I'm impressed you did it when you're having all the BH, two boys running around, just getting A/C back...you are a super lady!
dc2london , so pretty! You did a great job and I'm impressed you did it when you're having all the BH, two boys running around, just getting A/C back...you are a super lady!
I can not stop moving. I was working on stuff until 11 last night and then woke up at 5 this morning unable to sit still.
Post by hannahbear on Jul 21, 2016 18:37:08 GMT -5
shanny yes, that is a really good idea! You can set up a meal train so people can sign up for time slots. You can specify food preferences or say restaurant gift cards are welcome. I totally agree with coffeequeen14. Friends and family want to help you, and telling them how to support you means that you will get what you need!
Post by coffeequeen14 on Jul 21, 2016 19:16:05 GMT -5
dc2london tit for commiseration. I had intense contractions that were false for twoish weeks before S2. Had it been my first I'd have thought it was the real deal but they were annoying albeit not productive. So very very frustrating:(
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