So I had the poop in potty fight tonight. I lost. She's pooping in her diaper as I type. She snuck into her room when I was putting C down and she put a diaper on. I told her if she pooped in the diaper than we aren't going to see curious George tomorrow (her daycare does storytime with curious George). Am i really supposed to stick to that???
Upside, C went right down. And there's finally no crying in this house. I was losing it 30 minutes ago.
So I had the poop in potty fight tonight. I lost. She's pooping in her diaper as I type. She snuck into her room when I was putting C down and she put a diaper on. I told her if she pooped in the diaper than we aren't going to see curious George tomorrow (her daycare does storytime with curious George). Am i really supposed to stick to that???
Upside, C went right down. And there's finally no crying in this house. I was losing it 30 minutes ago.
In theory you should stick to it. For consistency sake. However having a consequence for something that is happening tomorrow is typically too much for a 3 year old to handle (they don't fully comprehend time like that, so therefore consequences that far in the future don't generally have the desired effect) . I would say because you told her that would be the consequence, you could say to her 'I know Mommy said no curious George but I was thinking about it and I think I made a mistake. The consequence for pooping in the diaper is that you don't earn your sticker for today' (or something to that effect) . This also allows her to see everyone makes mistakes and you can correct them when that happens.
I think that she pooped in the diaper and not on the floor is a success in my books! Lol! Perhaps you could look at a more positive reinforcement based approach to the pooping (ie you get a sticker for every time you poop in the potty, once you get x number of stickers you can chose a treat, watch a favourite movie, go to the park with mommy/daddy, pick an extra book at bedtime etc.). That way the consequences are immediate and you are focusing on seeing the desirable behavior and not falling into the trap of consequencing the undesirable.
Last Edit: Jul 29, 2016 19:32:06 GMT -5 by redandblue
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Post by RandomName on Jul 29, 2016 19:38:52 GMT -5
All the talk about white wines, I went out and bought a Chenin blanc. And then I made a quick stop at bulk barn and now this is happening. The popcorn is movie theater butter and fill flavoured. Yay for date night and both kids in bed asleep.
My kid is obsessed with our cabinets. Everytime I turn around he's in one. It's driving me bsc.
And there's one he actually climbs into so when i say in one, I mean he's literally in my cabinet throwing stuff out.
W does this at my neighbors. She has a specific cabinet filled with sippy cups and the like. Everytime we're over there he goes right for it and takes everything out. We got magnetic locks for our cabinets with sticky backs so there's no drilling. It seems to keep him out for now.
We still do not have locks. Rubber bands and chairs are used strategically.
Both kids are out to bed and I have a glass of wine in (my) bed with a book and the Tigers game on. Too bad they're losing 3-9. If it gets worse I'm going to turn on The American President. One night as a solo parent down, two to go. I can do this.
Thanks redandblue. We do have a behavior chart and she knows that if she poops in potty, she gets a sticker, a prize out of the treasure box, 4 m&ms and a piece of chocolate. Her dad will also buy her a Barbie. Can you tell we want her to poop in potty?
I'm at my wit's end with her and going in the potty. She finally started pooping in potty at school this week but fights us on just using it, even to pee.i have started making her play while bottomless.
I feel bad to no curious George and if I stick to it, it means I'm stuck at home solo parenting. This was our event out to tire out the kids. I do like your idea of saying I made a mistake. I need to come up with a new consequence for pooping in diaper.
Post by redandblue on Jul 29, 2016 19:59:09 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer how long have you had your reward chart? I would suggest if it doesn't seem to be working, then perhaps switch up the rewards. I would caution against the consequences on pooping in the diaper. There are very few things children have control over, sleeping, eating and voiding (pooping /peeing), so consequences often don't work with toilet training, because it is a sense of control for her. Her social-emotional development is at an all time high for children her age to want independence and control. Perhaps revamping the reward chart to find things she finds motivating enough to want to use her control to earn them. Just my two cents.
I definitely second rethinking the no curious George, because you will be not only stuck home with limited ways to tire her out, but she may not be a very happy camper with it.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by runningmommy519 on Jul 29, 2016 21:16:14 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer if this makes you feel any better, as far as I know... my niece who turned 4 in April still does not poop in the potty. Isaac has a friend the same age as him that is not pooping in the potty either. My niece knows when she has to go and asks for a diaper. They tried to really push her recently and she ended up getting constipated. It sounds like DD knows when she has to go poop but maybe is just scared to go on the toilet.
I'm having a delayed reaction to where that caterpillar got me yesterday. Tonight I noticed welts on my chest. Great. Hoping it doesn't spread anymore.
PSA: Cheesecake Factory has half price dine in cheesecake today and tomorrow. Happy Cheesecake Day!
So much fun tonight at the concert! I was a little worried going in because my niece can be bothered by loud noises. She started the show with ear plugs in and hands over her ears. Second song I look at SIL sms said let's get her up and dancing. By the next song she pulled the ear plugs out and threw them on the ground! She declared tonight to be the best night ever! packmomma also got to see me dance around like an idiot and hear me sing totally off key, lol. At least I have enthusiasm!
Post by abominationsnowman on Jul 29, 2016 23:54:04 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer, if something flies out of my mouth like, "no cartoons because you just did x" I will let DS1 or 2 "earn it back." So, maybe she can earn back going to Curious George if she's polite during breakfast/nice to baby/helps you do something without whining...or something.
Post by abominationsnowman on Jul 29, 2016 23:58:42 GMT -5
This day ended up being kind of a waste. I didn't get any of my to-do's done.
I saw a girl crash into my neighbor's parked car, which then moved forwards and slightly dented my bumper (my car was parked, too). I ran outside to make sure she was okay (she was), but was obviously in shock and her car was totalled. I feel really bad for her but it was just so weird.
Moral of the story: always call the police. They take a billion years to get all the notes, pictures, and measurements, but it makes it soooo much easier when filing a claim/dealing with insurance if there is a police report. I'm just so glad no one was hurt. My neighbor is super pissed because part of her bumper fell off and she wants to take it to the autobody place immediately. Granted, my car was barely damaged, but just so glad all of my kids were inside my house.
@janetheconquerer, I hate when I take something away from DD1 that I want her to have. She gets to watch 1 Mickey Mouse episode while I put DD2 down for her morning nap. After I get DD2 down I shower, mess around on my phone, or snooze. I've taken it away from her a few times and sorely regretted it.
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